Poll: Did you have shitty/abusive parents?

[Scythe]

SS census time! When I'm in one of the SS Discords I learned that almost all of us has some kind of problematic family. Like 95% of us did. Including me, my family are a bunch of transphobes alongside some other stuff.
So I thought it'd be interesting to do a poll here. (I'm predicting maybe only 15% will say decent parents.)
The standards for abusive or shitty are however you feel about your family. I kinda intend for any sexual abuse to be the last category though, since I don't see how it can be categorized as just being shitty, but feel free to disagree with me on that.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

These categories are divided up weirdly and are complete shit. First off, how do you differentiate between shitty and abusive parents? You need to define the difference between the two, otherwise, the results end up being meaningless. One person could label their parents as shitty for something like being really annoying, while the other might label them as being shitty because they constantly scream at them. You have to provide clear definitions for each category.

Secondly, why differentiate between emotional abuse and all types of abuse, rather than creating a category for each type of abuse, along with one category for those whose every type of abuse from their parents? Wouldn't that make more sense?

 

[Scythe]

These categories are divided up weirdly and are complete shit. First off, how do you differentiate between shitty and abusive parents? You need to define the difference between the two, otherwise, the results end up being meaningless. One person could label their parents as shitty for something like being really annoying, while the other might label them as being shitty because they constantly scream at them. You have to provide clear definitions for each category.

Secondly, why differentiate between emotional abuse and all types of abuse, rather than creating a category for each type of abuse, along with one category for those whose every type of abuse from their parents? Wouldn't that make more sense?

I wrote in my post that the standard for shit or abusive is up to whoever answering because I don't want to create an agrument on where to draw the line. And I think it should be up to whoever answering, telling someone their abusive parents are not abusive and just shitty or the other way around serves no purpose to me. Everyone's standards for these types of stuff are different and I would like to respect that.

For example, by western standards, most asian families would be abusive because beating kids into submission is common practice. But to asian kids, not all of the kids that got beaten growing up would say their parents were abusive, some of them wouldn't even say they were shitty.

There is a category for all abuse, the last category, as stated in my post, any parent that inflicted sexual abuse should be considered abusive, but I do take agruments otherwise. The reason for seperating emtional abuse is because from what I've seen physical abuse usually comes with emotional abuse of some kind.
Also kinda just felt like it. This is just for curiousity anyways, as long as people vote, it's not meaningless to me.

 

[Carrot]

Mostly fine, with a lot of caveats.

My parents think that depression is a made up illness, for example.

 

[Ligottian]

Mostly fine, with a lot of caveats.

My parents think that depression is a made up illness, for example.

I agree with your first sentence. But my mother had too much anxiety and depression for them to to think it was made up. BTW, those were a couple of the genetic "gifts" I received from her.

 

[Ijustcantanymore]

Dad molested me at 7. Mom emotionally, mentally and physically abused me from age 5 to 29.

 

[YandereMikuMistress]

Allot of shit but, there good now..
But it wasn't mainly my parents, it was the whole family,, nothing ever felt "safe" but that doesn't mean I was good either,, I'm a fuck up