Personality disorders

[callmeskin]

I've been going to a psychiatrist for almost two years now, they've tried to figure out why i feel the way i do for so long and they've come to the conclusion that i suffer from two personality disorders Borderline and ASPD. Two very different disorders that have made my life a living hell. Anyone else struggle with disorders like this and how do you manage? i feel like im losing control.

 

[doomedbynarrative]

I don't have either but people I love have BPD and/or NPD and/or HPD. Personality disorders are really tough to deal with because it's a disorder which means there's something going wrong but it's also a really big part of who a person IS at times. Or at least it can feel like it.

I'm not a therapist but I have seen that distress reduction has helped people. They like to couch it as "DBT" but honestly I think just simply finding a way to identify when you're triggered and in distress and then slowly making it possible to pivot and actively do other things that reduce the amount of distress and suffering felt to reduce reactions and symptoms. Basically, putting cold water on a burn to reduce the sting and thus reduce the reactions like swearing, crying, etc etc. Same kinda thing.

Either way, I'm sorry you have to deal with this and have for so long.

 

[itsallogrenow]

I've been going to a psychiatrist for almost two years now, they've tried to figure out why i feel the way i do for so long and they've come to the conclusion that i suffer from two personality disorders Borderline and ASPD. Two very different disorders that have made my life a living hell. Anyone else struggle with disorders like this and how do you manage? i feel like im losing control.

I have BPD and simply put, I don't manage. I get no support as its stigamitised quite badly and people dont want to do deal with us. 've isolated myself to avoid symptoms and I quit jobs regularly as I start off fine, then the paranoia and splitting kicks in and I stop trusting anyone.

 

[callmeskin]

I have BPD and simply put, I don't manage. I get no support as its stigamitised quite badly and people dont want to do deal with us. 've isolated myself to avoid symptoms and I quit jobs regularly as I start off fine, then the paranoia and splitting kicks in and I stop trusting anyone.

yeah i never could recognise the paranoia i had, i thought it was normal.

 

[jeevasO-o]

I have BPD and I struggle managing it tbh. I take meds they help with anxiety and mood swings but I still isolate myself a lot and avoid everything ruining all relationships

 

[YourLocalSadGirly]

I have bpd and most people in my life know to some degree. A lot of people think I don't have it because I haven't split on them at all and I can't bring myself to tell them it's survivorship bias lmao. It's hell honestly. I've lost several friends to this disorder and every year the list gets longer and longer. The only time I've ever felt stable was when I was with my late girlfriend who I'm almost positive had cptsd (she was misdiagnosed with bpd). We both understood each other very well and we helped each other with all the baggage that came with our respective disorders. It was nice to be with someone who I felt truly understood me. I know it's kinda a bpd stereotype that we think having a stable relationship with a loving partner can fix us but it really did fix me at least for a time.

I wish I knew how to help go into remission 'properly.' I did dbt therapy with a therapist that had bpd herself and that helped but I never really went into remission because of it. IDK honestly bpd fucking sucks and I'm so sorry that you have to deal with all its ugly effects and also have to deal with aspd. I hope you're doing well today <3.