Narcissists are great at this. They'll torment you until you finally react, then they'll pretend that you are criticising them for no reason and play the victim. I guess it counts as gaslighting.
Yeah- took the words right out of my mouth
@Pluto . I don't know if you've ever seen YouTube channels like: 'The Crappy Childhood Fairy' or, 'Live Abuse Free'
@CTB Dream ? I'd highly recommend them though. They deal with issues like narcissistic abuse. Not that it heals anything but it can make you feel validated when you can see some of those exact behaviours grouped together under a term.
I couldn't work out why a person would behave like this. They can make you start to doubt your own sanity with their accusations. It did help me when I saw all these behaviours described. Shame I didn't know about it at the time but my experience was in childhood.
All I would say is- if you suspect you have a Narcissist in your midst, tread VERY carefully! If at all practical- I think cutting them out of your life is best. I simply don't think there's a 'safe' way to deal with them.