People that openly talk about their suicide in real life, why do you do it?

[StateOfMind]

I personally don't to spare myself the humiliation and pity and in the worst case get involuntary detention in psych ward.

 

[ward0x]

I personally don't to spare myself the humiliation and pity and in the worst case get involuntary detention in psych ward.

You're only as sick as your secrets.

 

[AlreadyGone]

I guess, people who speak about it openly wants to be stopped.

 

[Ghost2211]

I speak openly selectively. It was necessary to get the person to stop the behavior that was pushing me over then edge.

 

[Pharmaruined]

Getting the ones around you prepared.. not trying to disparage, but alot of people can probably fix their issues with hard work and a plan and deep down they know it.. in that case I would never share.

However, some of us have put in years and years of hard work , depleted all their finances etc all to no avail.. the people we share with understand.

 

[DoNotLet2]

I simply can't shut the hell up

 

[Life_and_Death]

I simply can't shut the hell up

this but i also have a reason behind it. even people ive literally just met "oh yeah i have mental disorders" or whatever. but i do it because this way if they are mean to me knowing right well that ive had a hard life it makes kicking them out that much easier. i cant feel sympathy for those that clearly never cared. it also makes it so that they can decide for themselves "can i mentally handle being friends with someone like that" and if everything works out and they do stick around then they will have a better understanding of how to help me and when i am having an off day it wont seem weird and they are less likely to react poorly to it making me feel worse.

 

[Sinkinshyp]

I'm very vocal about my desire. I want my mom, bro and sis in law prepared. This is my fate and don't cry for me- I will be reunited with my son.

 

[Life_and_Death]

I'm very vocal about my desire. I want my mom, bro and sis in law prepared. This is my fate and don't cry for me- I will be reunited with my son.

this is the other reason why i do it (that i didnt think about) by talking about it with my loved one they understand my daily struggles therefore know that this isnt their fault (also with my other comment thats kinda how you build a support group. at least thats how its working for me)

 

[DyingAlf]

Talking about it helps me get through life until such time as I can successfully ctb. Now that I've been able to talk about it (after several failed attempts) I'm calmer & more ready to go through with it. It also prepares other people for my death, sure it'll still affect them in various ways/to varying degrees but at least it won't be a complete surprise.
Talking about it does not necessarily get you sectioned/hospitalised, you just have to keep it somewhat general & keep your detailed plans, especially the date, to yourself.

@AlreadyGone It's not really helpful to make such a blanket assumption. You'll be right about some people (& those people shouldn't be judged harshly) but others of us just need to be heard &/or generally be able to talk stuff through - it doesn't mean that we're not serious or that we don't want to ctb.

 

[JustLosingMyself]

I don't hide it, but i don't advertise it either

 

[GravityUtilizer]

Because I drink.

 

[nerve]

When I was more vocal about being suicidal, it was because I really wanted help. These days, the people around me are tired of hearing about it and I've run out of energy / motivation to keep crying for help, so I don't bring it up much.

 

[madbananas]

I talk about it. It's part of who I am now. I don't say when I have active plans though.
People can't help me anyway.

 

[checkouttime]

I have mentioned it, i guess to prepare family etc for it?

Definitely not a cry for help, I have tried, i wasn't found. it didn't work.

When i want to do something no1 can stop me, I am also the most stubborn person you could meet. I refuse treatment , refuse to see the doctor etc now. I know exactly what i want and i guess i have let people know this also. but them people who know me also know,no1 will stop me doing something i want to. I think they now know its a matter of when, not if.

 

[PlaceCalledHome]

I want to prepare others because often the "shock" is the worst part of the bereavement process. Also planning one's death alone is extremely lonely and I fantasize about having someone support me through it. I don't see what I'm doing as a choice, I see it as the inevitable conclusion to my illness, much like a cancer patient. But I try to tone it down nowadays because it's pushed people away.

 

[Wayfaerer]

I have never discussed suicide in person ever. Hell, I've never discussed suicide at all until I signed up here. It's going to be a shocker to everyone when I go.

 

[Rue89]

I discussed it with a couple friends when I was in high school. I'm not exactly sure why. I think it's because I felt so alone with my feelings. I regret it because they broke my confidence. Now I won't tell anyone outside of SS.

 

[BPD Barbie]

I make sarcastic jokes about it, how I wanna die, kill me etc and people laugh because they don't think I'm serious or just go 'same sis'. Other than that I don't really talk at length about it to anyone. My mother knows my feelings and I think deep down she knows my intentions also.

 

[Blank Dreamer]

I don't know if I openly discussed about suicide to anyone. I may have dropped hints about it at one point back in high school with my classmates? Don't think they picked up on it.

It's a little hard for me to understand why some people would openly discuss about their own suicide with others. Maybe some part in them do want to be saved and is a form of cry for help. Or maybe it's to elicit a certain reaction or emotion from the people you're openly discussing with.

 

[Weightoftheworld]

I simply don't care anymore.
I 'joke' about it all the time with anyone around but some close friends know it's not a joke.

It shouldn't be a surprise to anyone that knows me when I go.

 

[OnlyTheWind]

Can't help it. I go into detail about methods and how exciting it is. I don't think any of the people who know would intervene. Maybe they just don't believe it.

 

[AlreadyGone]

Talking about it helps me get through life until such time as I can successfully ctb. Now that I've been able to talk about it (after several failed attempts) I'm calmer & more ready to go through with it. It also prepares other people for my death, sure it'll still affect them in various ways/to varying degrees but at least it won't be a complete surprise.
Talking about it does not necessarily get you sectioned/hospitalised, you just have to keep it somewhat general & keep your detailed plans, especially the date, to yourself.

@AlreadyGone It's not really helpful to make such a blanket assumption. You'll be right about some people (& those people shouldn't be judged harshly) but others of us just need to be heard &/or generally be able to talk stuff through - it doesn't mean that we're not serious or that we don't want to ctb.

I can understand this if you are talking to a therapist, but what will you expect to happen if you tell your friends or family? They will stop you; not rationalize with you.

 

[HelloHell]

I guess they want to be stopped? They want people to notice their suffering and help them? They don't want to die but they can't continue living like they have been? or maybe they know people wouldn't take them seriously and take it as a joke?

 

[muffin222]

I think in a lot of cases the person unconsciously wants to be stopped, or they want people to recognize the degree of their suffering

 

[Wheelz1985]

Because I have nothing to lose, and part of me wants the magic answer. That no one can provide. I did learn not to ask the hospital for help or to tell them that you're suicidal. They do the opposite of help

 

[262653]

I'm interested in what others have to say about it. I understand that my view on things is not all-encompassing, and another person will grant me another perspective. That's said, I don't need people to stop me, my survival instinct single-handedly deals with this job. Talking to people about it has also proven to make me feel more suicidal and emotionally driven, but not driven enough since I'm still here.

 

[softfuzzyman]

I did, just because I couldn't handle the agony of keeping it inside, it started to make me erratic and loose with my words. That caused my biggest mistake and now I'm in a position where I'm stuck and even more miserable than before so now I know better than to tell anyone about it ever and will just have to wait until people forget about it so I can try to plan again. I'm sure for some people the "you need to talk to someone about it, you need to tell someone if you feel that way" thing is true and maybe for some people telling someone might help... in my experience it makes things worse.

 

[RandomDude1234]

I don't talk about it openly but I have mentioned it to friends and family that I'm suicidal.

I don't want them to feel responsible when I do eventually catch the bus. I want them to know that I was sick and that it wasn't them, it was me. So me talking about my suicidal feelings will help them find closure faster when I do it. It's still not going to be easy for them, I know. But I just want it to be as easy for them as possible.

 

[Addi_Madd]

Open in the sense that I'm frank about my suicidal ideation to my psychologist and doctor, and they know I have been thinking about the best method but don't have any immediate plans to enact and don't have any specific triggers, it's more a long term exit strategy I am keeping on the back burner in the event things get too unbearable for whatever reason. I'm honest with them because it's what they're there for, and maybe one day with the right treatment I will be able to overcome depression for good.