People pretending to care

[abdelrahman]

It drains me so much. Why do people pretend to care whether you live or die, when they clearly don't.

 

[Lulzacruel]

Because they want to either pretend that they legitimately care about the suicidal, or they do (generally either a friend, loved one, or a really good psychiatrist which are all rare nowadays) or they want to mightier than thou (Tantacruel)

Those are the three profiles I know

 

[im already reading]

It drains me so much. Why do people pretend to care whether you live or die, when they clearly don't.

because they want to feel like a good person
because they dont want to feel like a bad person
they actually do care(even if a little) and they're just a empathetic/sympathetic person
they want people to think they are a good person

 

[CTB Dream]

This ppl only show nomore all no sns ,no care Liv die sffr etc only chemic puppt, yea know how me injury damage nobod care all prtnd nothing hpn

 

[vegasguy7022]

I've mentioned it to a few friends. It's almost like either they don't believe me too shocking or didn't care. The reaction wasn't there. Very unusual.

 

[90starve]

It drains me so much. Why do people pretend to care whether you live or die, when they clearly don't.

ultimately i think most humans are inherently selfish in nature, and do things that will benefit themselves.

 

[Shaylla1998]

Primarily at fault is their human nature and the influence of society, many individuals exhibit selfish tendencies when it comes to handling the aftermath of someone's passing. Whether they are close relatives or distant acquaintances, they often prefer to avoid any potential drama or emotional entanglements associated with the situation. In some cases, people may engage in expected societal norms, gaining a perceived social advantage, social plus point or good person star sticker (however trivial) for carrying out actions they may not genuinely care about or desire.

In addition to that, the fear of societal judgment plays a role, as they may hesitate to express their true feelings about the situation for fear of being looked down upon by others. This perspective highlights the prevalence of selfishness as a prominent motivating factor in their behavior when confronted with matters of suicide.

 

[fated to die]

they are selfish and horrible liars.

 

[HouseofMortok]

They are just the Cyphers of the world. (from The Matrix).

Think about it.

We are the crew of the Nebuchadnezzar, we are here supporting and understanding each other in our plights. Not ignorant to issues that plague the world, not dismissive of them.

People that seem to care, give suggestions, etc are really Cyphers indenial of their reality and would rather you be alive in "Ignorant Bliss" as he puts it in the film.

Ironically, I reckon alot of simpletons have watched that scene, felt irked by Cyphers slimey behaviour, but are one and the same deep down.

It's funny... Just change, be happy, don't let the world affect you, you can't change it or people, oh but I can be told to change to "get along" in this world, how retarded.

I said to my mrs, let's put the doctor on the spot at my next appointment and paint the stage of what their ignorance supports via inaction and running off gatekeeping scripts.

 

[blue_muse]

It's so when you eventually CTB, they can tell themselves and others that "At least I tried reaching out. I'm a good person.".

 

[FuneralCry]

I just think that after all other people cannot really be trusted and relied on in this cruel world, most humans are too self centred to ever really care and try to understand, they only really care about what directly affects themselves.

 

[spøgelse]

beccause they feel,socially obligated to do so
the only choice is to ignore them

 

[mirzani]

After being suicidal for some time, I eventually stop telling my closest one on how depressed I am with this life. I came to the conclusion that they will never understand and the worst part is, they'll just talk either in front or behind my back on how weak my minds are. That's literally so f up and funny

 

[FormerlyFe(IV)]

Some people care. I had friends intervene in my isolation from the world. They showed up at my door just for a sign of life. They showed up again after I dismissed them the first time. And again.

But I agree, I think that overall people feel like they need to care. They don't care about you, it's just that the idea of death and unhappiness is too much for them.
They can't accept the reality that life just sometimes sucks. Because if they do, their façade of a worldview goes down too.

 

[abdelrahman]

i know some people must care. i just dont have a single one. all people who say barely react when i tell them i going to die

 

[fkyou]

It drains me so much. Why do people pretend to care whether you live or die, when they clearly don't.

Why do I have to make even my ctb about people. This is about ME. I'm the ONE being TORTURED. SUFFERING. how is this about them. People here who say "I'm worried about the impact of my suicide on -insert family member-" trigger me. Is this a place where to feel safe and compassion and understood.or frightene ourselves more?

 

[abdelrahman]

Why do I have to make even my ctb about people. This is about ME. I'm the ONE being TORTURED. SUFFERING. how is this about them. People here who say "I'm worried about the impact of my suicide on -insert family member-" trigger me. Is this a place where to feel safe and compassion and understood.or frightene ourselves more?

i completely agree. i dont give a single fuck who will be "shocked" or "sadenned" by it. its all fake bullshit. they dont give a shit while im alive im supposed to care what they feel when im gone? its actually absurd to think like that.

 

[Deleted member 31858]

I have always thought that they only do it because they want to appear good people to others and that many of them really are horrible people trying to hide it.

 

[Homo erectus]

People just do what they think most other people do. Mainstream is pro-life. It will just stay that way until some drastic change in public opinion, like memetic magic.

 

[sol.]

Most people can feel empathy, but it's limited by their perception. They know you feel bad, but they can't know how bad it is unless they have experienced it themselves.
I still feel horrible about my friend ctb-ing almost a year ago. I miss her, i want to see her, hug her, tell her about things that remind me of her... And i saw her potential... She was a far better person than i'll ever be in life. I see how people miss her and how much of a hard time they are having because she isn't around anymore.
That's the only thing keeping me around for now. Maybe i am to somebody what she was to me.
But i don't blame her at all or have negative feelings towards her. I just hope she's at peace now.

 

[FadingSunshine]

Primarily at fault is their human nature and the influence of society, many individuals exhibit selfish tendencies when it comes to handling the aftermath of someone's passing. Whether they are close relatives or distant acquaintances, they often prefer to avoid any potential drama or emotional entanglements associated with the situation. In some cases, people may engage in expected societal norms, gaining a perceived social advantage, social plus point or good person star sticker (however trivial) for carrying out actions they may not genuinely care about or desire.

In addition to that, the fear of societal judgment plays a role, as they may hesitate to express their true feelings about the situation for fear of being looked down upon by others. This perspective highlights the prevalence of selfishness as a prominent motivating factor in their behavior when confronted with matters of suicide.

I think that's a big part of it, people just trying to do the societally acceptable thing without actually using critical thought and without knowledge of the context. We see so many news stories about people 'saving' suicidal people and being heroes and other news articles negatively portraying suicide, training society to interfere where they see fit.