people being fake makes me want to die

[AintNoWayOut]

so im lonely... no girls are messaging me on dating apps, so i try talking to girls online, and i spark up a convo with one who takes an interest in me. we exchange pics, she thinks im attractive, she says im cool, etc etc, leads me on with all this affection and gives me hope that hey, maybe there is someone who sees my value, who could make my life a bit brighter... i ask her to add me on a diff platform so we can keep chatting and she agrees. then, 20 min later, she disappears and never added me on the other platform.

this scenario has happened many times, and each time it really makes me lose faith in people and my will to live. girls not being interested in me in the first place, it is what it is, but to show interest and then ghost so suddenly? its fucking evil and heartless, and i feel like the natural response to that happening so many times is to become bitter. i cant buy into the rhetoric of "most people arent like that!" when its such a common occurrence. i cant even begin to understand why someone would do something like that, especially after acting so nice, do they not realize how it comes across and how it could affect the other person? is life itself doing this to taunt me, giving me false hope then crushing it to make me feel even worse?.. but then i realize, its people doing this. PEOPLE fucking suck and make me want to stop existing, because i dont want to share a planet with them anymore. so many of them are the same and im sick of repeating this cycle.

 

[Euthanza]

I'm sorry that your heart broken in repetition, life is indeed full of sadness and pain, it's a cruel world full of criminals and predators but we're told the other tales since we're born, kinda heart breaking realities. It's so unfortunate for anyone to live in such condition.

 

[AintNoWayOut]

I'm sorry that your heart broken in repetition, life is indeed full of sadness and pain, it's a cruel world full of criminals and predators but we're told the other tales since we're born, kinda heart breaking realities. It's so unfortunate for anyone to live in such condition.

the worst is people acting like they're totally nice and innocent and caring but then they wont hesitate to block u out like you're a bug with no clear reason or explanation, after giving u a very warm impression. i'd rather people be open and upfront with their shittiness, that way im not as disappointed in the end. and even if this girls' intentions werent bad, lets say she didnt want us to get attached since we're strangers online who live a few states apart and it could end badly, just fucking tell me that instead of leaving me in the dark, left to obsessively wonder about the situation. all it brings is confusion, frustration and bitterness on my part. its common sense that that isnt a cool thing to do, but i guess most people dont care enough and would rather go the easy route, just dipping and not thinking about how it could affect the other person.

 

[Pluto]

Many people here know just how you feel.

Social media is not a good place to go for genuine care or to see the best in humanity. Though it can potentially lead to that in a best case scenario.

If you want an experiment, try changing your profile to seeking men and watch them hit on you like an endless swarm. This gives you a tiny idea what it would be like to be a woman.

To your broader point, yes, empathy is lacking in society and it sucks.

 

[Euthanza]

the worst is people acting like they're totally nice and innocent and caring but then they wont hesitate to block u out like you're a bug with no clear reason or explanation, after giving u a very warm impression. i'd rather people be open and upfront with their shittiness, that way im not as disappointed in the end. and even if this girls' intentions werent bad, lets say she didnt want us to get attached since we're strangers online who live a few states apart and it could end badly, just fucking tell me that instead of leaving me in the dark, left to obsessively wonder about the situation. all it brings is confusion, frustration and bitterness on my part. its common sense that that isnt a cool thing to do, but i guess most people dont care enough and would rather go the easy route, just dipping and not thinking about how it could affect the other person.

Yeah, it must be horrible to feel neglected while you had expectation from others. Idk if it's appropriate to suggest but what about Asian girls? Some men make a good life when they're lowering standard and make the girls chase them instead of him chasing around.

 

[Barteljaap]

If you want an experiment, try changing your profile to seeking men and watch them hit on you like an endless swarm.

Eh, the few times I've had gay guys hit on me I never felt anything negative from it, even if they were much older. If you don't want to get hit on, just don't use dating apps?

I wish girls would do the opposite, create a male profile and see what it's like to be completely unwanted. Part of a "swarm" of garbage, not even seen as human by the opposite sex.

 

[Pluto]

I wish girls would do the opposite, create a male profile and see what it's like to be completely unwanted.

The world was a very different place before the internet, that's all I can say. Connections were made based on human interactions rather than AI 'brain hacking'.

 

[Barteljaap]

so im lonely... no girls are messaging me on dating apps, so i try talking to girls online, and i spark up a convo with one who takes an interest in me. we exchange pics, she thinks im attractive, she says im cool, etc etc, leads me on with all this affection and gives me hope that hey, maybe there is someone who sees my value, who could make my life a bit brighter... i ask her to add me on a diff platform so we can keep chatting and she agrees. then, 20 min later, she disappears and never added me on the other platform.

this scenario has happened many times, and each time it really makes me lose faith in people and my will to live. girls not being interested in me in the first place, it is what it is, but to show interest and then ghost so suddenly? its fucking evil and heartless, and i feel like the natural response to that happening so many times is to become bitter. i cant buy into the rhetoric of "most people arent like that!" when its such a common occurrence. i cant even begin to understand why someone would do something like that, especially after acting so nice, do they not realize how it comes across and how it could affect the other person? is life itself doing this to taunt me, giving me false hope then crushing it to make me feel even worse?.. but then i realize, its people doing this. PEOPLE fucking suck and make me want to stop existing, because i dont want to share a planet with them anymore. so many of them are the same and im sick of repeating this cycle.

Yeah I recently had a girl online be very friendly to me. She seemed to be flirting a lot and after a few conversations I asked if she was in a relationship. She said yes and proceeded to tell me all about the frustrations and struggles she has with her boyfriend. She admitted to being on the fence about breaking up with him, and it sounded like she just wanted to have me as one of her "backup options" in case she did decide to end him. I didn't really want to take her away from the boyfriend, but I just kept talking to her because I was lonely.

We kept talking for a week or two, she was texting me good morning almost everyday (I felt strange about it since that doesn't feel like something you do to just a platonic friend), then a few days ago she stopped. I guess things must have improved in her relationship, or she found a better "backup option". Who knows.

 

[A simple aid]

so im lonely... no girls are messaging me on dating apps, so i try talking to girls online, and i spark up a convo with one who takes an interest in me. we exchange pics, she thinks im attractive, she says im cool, etc etc, leads me on with all this affection and gives me hope that hey, maybe there is someone who sees my value, who could make my life a bit brighter... i ask her to add me on a diff platform so we can keep chatting and she agrees. then, 20 min later, she disappears and never added me on the other platform.

this scenario has happened many times, and each time it really makes me lose faith in people and my will to live. girls not being interested in me in the first place, it is what it is, but to show interest and then ghost so suddenly? its fucking evil and heartless, and i feel like the natural response to that happening so many times is to become bitter. i cant buy into the rhetoric of "most people arent like that!" when its such a common occurrence. i cant even begin to understand why someone would do something like that, especially after acting so nice, do they not realize how it comes across and how it could affect the other person? is life itself doing this to taunt me, giving me false hope then crushing it to make me feel even worse?.. but then i realize, its people doing this. PEOPLE fucking suck and make me want to stop existing, because i dont want to share a planet with them anymore. so many of them are the same and im sick of repeating this cycle.

well my dear boy....though i could jump on the hate pile of society and etc.....i want to offer advise....being that the occurence you experience is from distanced interactions....what do i mean...meet the people in person...if you say im not confident or ill get rejected it means you are not picking wisely...your following your dick...not logic...chances ...or some might say your heart....in summary try your dating in person....ALSO ID LIKE THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE TO UNDERSTAND SOMETHING.....EVERYONE CLAIMS THEY HATE NARCISSISM......BUT BELIEVING YOURSELF WORSE OFF OR DAMN NEAR THE SCUM OF THE EARTH IS SEEING YOURSELF IN AN EXAGGERATED LENSE FAR FROM THE AVERAGE.....though i understand youll say society and such cracked my lense.....Bro in summary pls do your dating in person and pick wisely...if you fail there too your selections are piss poor

 

[FuneralCry]

That does sound like a frustrating situation to be in. People can certainly be very cruel and disappointing and wherever there are people there is the potential for them to inflict harm and just cause others to suffer more. It's simply just the way that many people are in this world and it's why I always believe it to be better to stay away from people. It does feel as though as long as we exist suffering is simply inescapable, there is nothing really fair about this life.

 

[candytree]

Yeah I recently had a girl online be very friendly to me. She seemed to be flirting a lot and after a few conversations I asked if she was in a relationship. She said yes and proceeded to tell me all about the frustrations and struggles she has with her boyfriend. She admitted to being on the fence about breaking up with him, and it sounded like she just wanted to have me as one of her "backup options" in case she did decide to end him. I didn't really want to take her away from the boyfriend, but I just kept talking to her because I was lonely.

We kept talking for a week or two, she was texting me good morning almost everyday (I felt strange about it since that doesn't feel like something you do to just a platonic friend), then a few days ago she stopped. I guess things must have improved in her relationship, or she found a better "backup option". Who knows.

that's called love bombing. this is why i dont deal with relationships or sex it only makes everything worse