Nobody cares until you're dead

[Darkover]

It is because everybody is busy doing something with their lives and don't care for others unless they have a benefit out of your friendship.

One of the things I have learned the hard way is that real friends are pretty rare. Acquaintances come and go, but real friends are there for you through thick and thin. If you have one or two real friends in a lifetime, that is an awesome thing.

Don't expect or seek a lot of friends. It isn't going to happen. If you find one good friend, treasure that person.

It's sucks knowing that when I die people will say how they miss me and how I was such a good friend, brother and son but they are all fucking lies. Nobody gives a fuck until you are not there anymore.

"Dead people receive more flowers than the living ones because regret is stronger than gratitude."
No love till its ashes to ashes, get the rose when they close up the casket.

 

[the_path_of_sorrows]

Nobody gives a fuck about any of us, only about the emotional impact this will have on THEM when we leave.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Ha yeah true. I wouldn't say absolutely nobody (this depends on family ties / loved ones and other factors) but in many cases dead people didn't get the attention they needed earlier in life before they were dead. That could have probably prevented the death sometimes.

 

[Catch-22]

I know in my life no one will give a shit.. they will probably say how selfish I was

 

[an_alias]

very true, OP :) sometimes i feel like the world would be better when I'm dead because I know that people are uncomfortable with the idea of me still being alive - not that they want me to die, but to them it just seems more natural and fitting for me to have CTB'd by now

 

[Unattainable666]

And sadly people dont care even after you're dead. I'll be forgotten quickly after I leave. There is no one in my life who cares if I live or die. The people who really care about me (Christina and Dad) are already gone. I should have left a long time ago. What a waste

 

[Forever Sleep]

And sadly people dont care even after you're dead. I'll be forgotten quickly after I leave. There is no one in my life who cares if I live or die. The people who really care about me (Christina and Dad) are already gone. I should have left a long time ago. What a waste

For what it's worth, I would notice if either of you left. I'd still respect your decision though. Not like that's really much good though. It doesn't provide exactly practical support to get through life.

 

[Unattainable666]

For what it's worth, I would notice if either of you left. I'd still respect your decision though. Not like that's really much good though. It doesn't provide exactly practical support to get through life.

Thank you so much for saying that. I'm very close to ctb and to know that someone would remember me is overwhelming. Thank you so much

 

[DeletedAccount0864]

You're absolutely right about friends. True friends are so rare, and if you have one, hold onto them for your dear life. And yeah, everyone is very quick to shed tears when you're dead, and act as if they ever cared about you, but until then, most don't give a shit about you unless it personally benefits them. It's a cold, hard truth.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Thank you so much for saying that. I'm very close to ctb and to know that someone would remember me is overwhelming. Thank you so much

Of course I will. I know we haven't chatted much but I've always related to your posts and I feel so sad for the stuff you have had to deal with in life. The same goes with a lot of people here. I still think about someone who died over a year ago now. I know you're close to CTB though and I know we have to respect one another's choices. We all know how much we can take ultimately. Plus- it's not exactly the same as practical support in life. I expect many of us are in fact quite isolated. It's hard to judge if things would be different if we had strong support networks.

 

[Unattainable666]

Of course I will. I know we haven't chatted much but I've always related to your posts and I feel so sad for the stuff you have had to deal with in life. The same goes with a lot of people here. I still think about someone who died over a year ago now. I know you're close to CTB though and I know we have to respect one another's choices. We all know how much we can take ultimately. Plus- it's not exactly the same as practical support in life. I expect many of us are in fact quite isolated. It's hard to judge if things would be different if we had strong support networks.

I agree with you. I think for me it would change my life if there were someone who cared about me. But Im now old and lol if it ain't happened by now it ain't gonna happen lol. I look forward to seeing my little girl again. Since she left everything in my life has gone downhill. It changed who I was as a person. But at this point none of that matters. I am sorry that you are here on this site. You seem to be a great person someone I would have loved to have gotten o know better.

 

[Groundhog_Day]

This might be cynical, but I think the caring/sadness people feel after you die, is ultimately selfish. It's being confronted by the reality of knowing they too will also die some day, and it's all ultimately meaningless. The sadness they feel is really for themselves, imo.

 

[thewalkingdread]

Everyone you ever knew has something real nice to say about you ... They're all just waiting for you to die.

 

[FuneralCry]

I believe many people likely won't even care then, humans are self centred after all. But eventually I believe that most people will just be forgotten about like they never existed at all.

 

[a.fool]

Thank you so much for saying that. I'm very close to ctb and to know that someone would remember me is overwhelming. Thank you so much

What is your method?
I want to cbt too but I am unable to buy the source.

 

[FallenfromGrace]

Nobody gives a fuck about any of us, only about the emotional impact this will have on THEM when we leave

That's why I'm still alive. That's basically the only reason, other than general life FOMO

 

[Unattainable666]

lime sulfur - do some research on SS and online.

 

[hath183]

This might be cynical, but I think the caring/sadness people feel after you die, is ultimately selfish. It's being confronted by the reality of knowing they too will also die some day, and it's all ultimately meaningless. The sadness they feel is really for themselves, imo.

To add to what you have said, the sadness I feel is actual regret, I mean let's be honest, if I don't message people I would be totally forgotten about untill someone wants something . I am one of those pathetic people whom is useful for everyone else but myself. When I ctv those at my funeral will be full of remorse and regret, if they made more of an effort with me then it wouldn't add to my unholy feeling of shit. There has been no reason given to me to stay alive not from parents or friends.

So those who say suicide is selfish, ultimately in my opinion are the selfish ones, making the event of my Death about all of them and their feelings, when not one made an effort to enhance my time on this planet.

Just my tuppence

 

[benetar_apologist]

It's because of this that other people being sad doesn't factor much into my decision to CTB anymore. If they care more about keeping me alive for their sake than they do about me ending my suffering, then I also have to look out for my own interest in ending my pain before I consider anyone else.

Only one this doesn't apply to is my dog, he didn't choose to get adopted by me so I consider myself responsible for his welfare. Will probably do it after he goes.

 

[F@#$]

Nobody gives a fuck about any of us, only about the emotional impact this will have on THEM when we leave.

And that's exactly what I'm aiming for emotional impact on THEM.
Enjoy the mess.