News of your suicide?

[311]

How will people close to you and in your community react?

My community is sorta gossipy and everyone knows everyone's business so I'm sure it will be what everyone Is whispering about for a week. I bet my family will have to move for sure. I feel bad for my older brother.

I wish I could explain my actions to the community so they understood and it would answer the why and hows about it. It would ease the burden on my family.

 

[favourite]

I'm going to do myself in after the death of my closest family, so no one will be particularly affected. I already cut ties with most of my old mates and I'm gonna delete my facebook, so most of people won't even know.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I moved to a new state two years ago, right before I got sick. I've pretty much been housebound since then, so I don't know anyone here, and most of my old friends have pulled away. They all have kids and careers, I guess my life is too depressing for them or something. No one but my family is going to care that I ctb.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

How will people close to you and in your community react?

My community is sorta gossipy and everyone knows everyone's business so I'm sure it will be what everyone Is whispering about for a week. I bet my family will have to move for sure. I feel bad for my older brother.

I wish I could explain my actions to the community so they understood and it would answer the why and hows about it. It would ease the burden on my family.

Damn, is it really that bad that they would have to move? Do you live in a small town?

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Aside from a few relatives and maybe a friend or 2 no one will ever know or care that I ctb. I plan on it being that way. I dont want many people to find out.

 

[John434]

To be honest, I could care less.
I have always had a small but close net of friends, they know me well and understand what it is I am going through, my wife knows, understands, she doesn't like it, but understands from a financial standpoint. Anyone else,,, besides my children, who cares.

 

[mpti]

It would probably be reasonably decent news within my community, which keeps me from doing it to some extent. I can't imagine my family not being affected. But still, they would probably be better off in the long run without me being a parasite my whole life.

 

[itsallover]

You're one in a million, literally. That's how manypeople taketheir life every year. If every attemptwas successful it would be 25 million. Only suicide bombers really make the news anyway.

 

[HelensNepenthe]

I'm going to do myself in after the death of my closest family, so no one will be particularly affected. I already cut ties with most of my old mates and I'm gonna delete my facebook, so most of people won't even know.

Sometimes deleting your Facebook will trigger someone to be concerned about you. It may bring attention to your situation.

 

[favourite]

Sometimes deleting your Facebook will trigger someone to be concerned about you. It may bring attention to your situation.

I have an on-off relationship with fb, besides I don't really use it, just lurk on some groups.

But if someone uses it daily to communicate with others then yes, deleting it would be suspicious.

 

[Buddyluv19]

That's one nice thing about having a terminal illness. It's a built in excuse. No one will really know.

 

[311]

Damn, is it really that bad that they would have to move? Do you live in a small town?

Yeah a rich new England town isnt a good town to kill yourself in.

 

[felix]

Can't say what'll happen. Ppl already know I'm suicidal in my town

 

[goxua]

My parents would probably lie about my death even and just say I've moved to another country or disowned them or something. But secretly, my mother will be relieved for me as she's the only family member who has validated and supported me.

My estranged siblings probably have told people I died years ago as I've isolated myself from them for that long. Same with my friends.

 

[DoneFighting]

People will remember me for who I pretended to be. No one but my parents will care. People pretend to care but when you're sitting alone every night you realize no one gives a fuck if you're around or not.

 

[Sixfeetunder]

I'm not well known (thank goodness) so I don't think there will be much of a reaction. For those who do know, they will probably be indifferent, think I'm selfish, or wonder what I had to be suicidal about.

 

[Nitromask]

I moved to a new country a couple of years ago, and haven't spoken to most of my friends back home since I moved. The friends I have made here are more acquaintances so I doubt too many people will actually be bothered

 

[yami9292]

Yeah my family will be the only ones to genuinely react. Plus I wouldnt want people who gave no shits about me now think they can care after I ctb. Id rather my family be the ones to celebrate my life rather than people who talked to me once and act they care anyway. That's why I wrote in my note that I don't want anyone that's not family at my funeral, no classmates, teachers, professors, no partners of my family either especially if I didn't get to know them for most of my life, just no one that didn't care about me when I was alive because I know they didn't.

 

[ForestLove]

That's why I wrote in my note that I don't want anyone that's not family at my funeral, no classmates, teachers, professors, no partners of my family either especially if I didn't get to know them for most of my life, just no one that didn't care about me when I was alive because I know they didn't.

But how can you control who is coming to your funeral when you are not alive?

As for me, I don't even want a funeral. Peace out.

 

[iiii5555]

Who even cares? The world is filled with people killing themselves and others seizing this opportunity to spread their own sadistic ideations in the form of gossip, just to appear more socially "dominant" in some pathetic way.

What difference it makes if this happens with someone in, let's say, an asian family - in the other side of Earth - or if it happens with mine? The copious biological waste in this insignificant planet will react all in the same fashion. Makes no difference.

 

[ForestLove]

Sometimes deleting your Facebook will trigger someone to be concerned about you. It may bring attention to your situation.

I have deactivated my FB account since last year and pple have been asking why. I have not activated since.

 

[Goldie]

I live abroad. No one is going to care about one more expat-suicide. My Mother who I assume will get told by the local Police once the embassy is informed, doesnt have any phone numbers for my friends so they will just work it out once I have been uncontactable for a while.

 

[NotWorthLiving]

In my town, everyone knows everyones business and everything about everyone. It would probs spread super quick and probably in a 100km radius or more as well.

 

[Othermind]

My hometown is really small and gossipy like yours OP so I think everyone has a reasonable idea of who I am. And they'll either not care at all or go like "Yeah, it was bound to happen eventually".
Where I reside at the moment I don't know, the university will probably have a memorial set up for a few weeks like they did in the past for some students/former students who died, but only my close friends will really give a shit.

 

[yami9292]

But how can you control who is coming to your funeral when you are not alive?

As for me, I don't even want a funeral. Peace out.

Sadly I can't but I hope my family would have the courtesy and respect my wishes. Ideally I don't want one either really but I know my family would need it for their own reasons so it's whatever I guess.

 

[Funkbunny]

Who cares? I'll leave letters for those that matter, but even they will be misconstrued.

My dad passed 3 years ago. I'm caring for mum now, she's palliative and when she goes, I go.

People will have their opinions, but none have walked in my shoes, none understand nor do they try to. They'll just do the usual 'oh how sad', 'if only he'd asked for help' rubbish to make themselves feel better.

 

[Glim]

My neighbors will be thankful that they don't have to hear my screaming anymore Lel

I guess my older bro will be happy to benefit from getting a bigger chunk of the inheritance once my dad dies

 

[lululoo]

I really don't know. Not sure if my family will care much or if I'm already sort of a non-entity to them. I do worry a little that my mom will be very sad and it will hurt the progress she is making in recovering from a very serious illness that had paralyzed her. But her recovery may take years or may not get much further, so I can't wait around for that. And sometimes I don't care how it affects her considering all the ways she contributed to my suffering in life.

As for friends, none will be devastated. They may be sad for a time. Not sure. Maybe one will feel guilty but then probably someone will tell her it was 100% my choice and it doesn't matter if she was a good friend to me or not. Then she'll feel fine.

A few coworkers might be sad.

That's about it. There is no broader community that will react. I mean, I'm sure people I have known throughout my life will find out but I don't really care what they think about it.

One weird thing about it is that chronic illness is a huge factor in my decision, but only my family and a few friends even know about that. So I'm not sure what the narrative about my suicide will be. My parents are extremely image obsessed so I guess it depends on what story they think is the least shameful.

 

[sweet17sour29]

It won't be a surprise at all.
I'm sure most will assume it was because of my ex breaking up with me, or another ex killing himself. Neither are true reasons why but neither are false either.
I already feel terrible for my work having to scramble to find a replacement for me, though perhaps it'll be a blessing in disguise.

 

[Need-a-Place]

All the church people and people from school and wherever will pretend they gave a fuck and get hyped about suicide awareness and pretend it affects them deeply like they actually knew me. They'll cite me as "their friend" who killed herself despite them doing all they could do :(

Parents and friends will be sad.

Siblings won't give a shit.