newbies asking for "Help"

[Ghost2211]

Yeah the biggest bummer of all is I retreated into my shell after the years of emotionally abusive shit she put me through and am now in a total mess, no real friends, no relationship, etc since we split up almost 3 years ago. She has a house, amazing job, boyfriend - just moved on like nothing happened.

I do feel sorry for the new guy though, because the old leopard has those spots forever.

If I can just sort myself out income wise and start to get out there a bit more then I might be able to build a life, but I feel like I've sunk so far beneath the surface I'm at the point where I can ony sink further from here.

I live that same hell. I'm at one year post rather than three. Heart goes out to you. I know that kind of hurt never stops.

 

[Deleted member 19654]

yeah, ive read a few of them and ive been cutting for 7ish years off and on (lately more off since people left me alone i havent been as interested even though thats not why it started) but.....to me its one thing to help them peacefully take their pain away (give advice on methods i do know) but helping someone to cause themselves pain.....yeah no....youre on your own for that. i figured out how to take a razor apart on my own

It's an awful habit and once you start, it's hard to stop. I don't want to help someone with ways to physically hurt themselves like that.

 

[TheQ22]

I live that same hell. I'm at one year post rather than three. Heart goes out to you. I know that kind of hurt never stops.

It's difficult. I thought i'd cracked it a while back by being Stoic, using mindfulness and meditation.

Seems all I did in reality was kick my mental can of worms down the road.

Eventually you catch it up again, unless you can really learn not to care.

But that really means not just not caring about them, but not caring about yourself and what they put you through.

 

[AlreadyGone]

The funny thing is this. Newbies will ignore this thread and posts and still create a thread asking for the quickest painless way to CTB. Like Thanos, it is inevitable.

 

[checkouttime]

can all new members please report to recovery (come on, you know thats what you came for)

there's plenty of fairy dust and magic wands for everyone.

i'm not encouraging use of such hazardous things though.

please also search 'happily ever after' and the 'fairytale/story book' threads. its not all doom and gloom here!

 

[Xander_McG]

Yeah the biggest bummer of all is I retreated into my shell after the years of emotionally abusive shit she put me through and am now in a total mess, no real friends, no relationship, etc since we split up almost 3 years ago. She has a house, amazing job, boyfriend - just moved on like nothing happened.

I do feel sorry for the new guy though, because the old leopard has those spots forever.

If I can just sort myself out income wise and start to get out there a bit more then I might be able to build a life, but I feel like I've sunk so far beneath the surface I'm at the point where I can ony sink further from here.

Shit man I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm going through the exact same stuff just now, mines has only been 3 and a half week though but I know that I'll be the exact same as you in 3 years time. I've already retreated into myself and because of the way I am I honestly don't think that I'll ever get over it. Its crazy that people all the world over all end up with the same problems at some point or another.

 

[a.h]

Will grinding up a few apple seeds kill me? How about apricots?

No. Some people think that eating few unprocessed apricot seeds can help fight cancer.

 

[TheQ22]

Shit man I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm going through the exact same stuff just now, mines has only been 3 and a half week though but I know that I'll be the exact same as you in 3 years time. I've already retreated into myself and because of the way I am I honestly don't think that I'll ever get over it. Its crazy that people all the world over all end up with the same problems at some point or another.

I think my biggest mistake was thinking "I'll be alright, I can get over this" - if you can get support, counselling, hell even bereavement counselling (it is a loss after all) - then do it.

Otherwise by the time you really do start to be in a position to recover you'll have dug a hole so deep you cant even work out how to get out of it.

Take care dude.

 

[a.h]

Will grinding up a few apple seeds kill me? How about apricots?

No. Some people think that eating few unprocessed apricot seeds can help fight cancer.

 

[Lmd]

The forum is getting pretty boring. Lately someone new open a new thread with the same questions every 3-4 days.

-Do you believe in afterlife???
-*generic question about SN*
-should CTB be legal???
-*another generic question already answered like a million times in other threads about SN*
-Are u prolife???
-WHERE TO BUY N
-Random question questioning why people make suicidal people feel bad
-Im new and I need your help (with something already answered if you do a simple search)
-Why is people against suicide???
etc etc.

Looking how this forum its a cycle with always the same topics and with some perspective made me realize that we suicidal ppl are SOOOOO BOOORING jesus. I cant blame people if they decide to stay away if im gonna be a parrot talking always about the same things

 

[a.h]

Will grinding up a few apple seeds kill me? How about apricots?

No. Some people think that eating few unprocessed apricot seeds can help fight cancer.

 

[Xander_McG]

I am in the process of starting to get counselling and stuff, my GP has refered me anyway, also getting me a psychiatrist and gave me some valium because I've started having panic attacks and anxiety issues now because of what's happened. Never used to have them before, so I know I need the support and help. Bastard is, I already think that the feelings will never go away, I know what I'm capable of doing and getting over something like this is definately not one of them I think.

 

[checkouttime]

when I see those posts- I wonder if they are under 18 because they obviously didn't take time to read the rules or the pinned messages including the megathread or if they are pro-lifers to use ammunition

I'm 99.9% sure that is totally correct, either they are young ,trying to cause trouble or probably both.

I'm sure someone will say you should give them the benefit of the doubt...well i have 0.01%

we're not all gullible though, on here.

 

[TheQ22]

I am in the process of starting to get counselling and stuff, my GP has refered me anyway, also getting me a psychiatrist and gave me some valium because I've started having panic attacks and anxiety issues now because of what's happened. Never used to have them before, so I know I need the support and help. Bastard is, I already think that the feelings will never go away, I know what I'm capable of doing and getting over something like this is definately not one of them I think.

My ex had suffered panic attacks and anxiety attacks, I'd never had one.

After we broke up I did within a few days (we'd been together about 23 years) - fuck it was bad.

Take all the help you can get - I didn't, which was big mistake no.1

Find people you can talk to who understand and can help - no one I talked to was really interested. Big mistake no.2.

Don't go off the rails because what the fuck - big mistake no.3

And etc

 

[Ghost2211]

I'm 99.9% sure that is totally correct, either they are young ,trying to cause trouble or probably both.

I'm sure someone will say you should give them the benefit of the doubt...well i have 0.01%

we're not all gullible though, on here.

Damn whipper snappers.

 

[checkouttime]

Damn whipper snappers.

unfortunately i think it could be highly toxic for young people to be on here, even if they think they are having a 'laugh'.

can we not just send them all to recovery? why do the pro lifers never want to seem to help them? thats selective helping and they say A selective scams the cheek of these people! double standards!!!

 

[Ghost2211]

unfortunately i think it could be highly toxic for young people to be on here, even if they think they are having a 'laugh'.

can we not just send them all to recovery? why do the pro lifers never want to seem to help them? thats selective helping and they say A selective scams the cheek of these people! double standards!!!

I really think there's less pro lifers and youins' than people imagine there are.

 

[Sinkinshyp]

I really think there's less pro lifers and youins' than people imagine there are.

I know when my membership was accepted they spammed me about look at the rules- so I did that first. Than each forum I checked pinned messages and read the megathread. I think some of those who join and instantly ask for a method are either under 18 or pro life.

 

[checkouttime]

i imagine plenty of people here for attention aswell. i think a thread the other day someone said they were a peado. so we've got a variety!!!

 

[Xander_McG]

My ex had suffered panic attacks and anxiety attacks, I'd never had one.

After we broke up I did within a few days (we'd been together about 23 years) - fuck it was bad.

Take all the help you can get - I didn't, which was big mistake no.1

Find people you can talk to who understand and can help - no one I talked to was really interested. Big mistake no.2.

Don't go off the rails because what the fuck - big mistake no.3

And etc

Aye, same here. My wife had severe anxiety and panic attacks constantly and I never thought they were as bad as what she was making them out to be, until we split up then I started getting them. I understand why she was shaking all the time now.
lol thanks for the advice, I've started telling people a bit more when I'm having a shit mood and stuff so at least some of my family and friend understand what it is im dealing with. I just know it's going to get a lot worse in the next couple of weeks because our wedding anniversary is in 2 weeks so I might go off the rails a wee bit for that

 

[XYZ]

As requested, step by step with diagrams on how to catch the bus.

Please visit wikiHow directly

Someone please give @HadEnough1974 an award for best reply ever

 

[Acopia]

when I see those posts- I wonder if they are under 18 because they obviously didn't take time to read the rules or the pinned messages including the megathread or if they are pro-lifers to use ammunition

I reckon quite a few are under 18.

 

[Deleted member 19654]

There was someone who recently said that they were still in school but they were 18. It's likely that they were lying about their age

 

[Life_and_Death]

There was someone who recently said that they were still in school but they were 18. It's likely that they were lying about their age

i try to not judge on the school thing. my dad is in his 30s and hes still in "school". he has textbooks and whatnot so he can advance in his profession. and im 21 and still plan on going to college but i have to finish high school first (GED)

 

[Sherri]

I'm "newbie" and haven't asked a single question about it. Did all research by myself in the search engine tool.

 

[Deleted member 19654]

i try to not judge on the school thing. my dad is in his 30s and hes still in "school". he has textbooks and whatnot so he can advance in his profession. and im 21 and still plan on going to college but i have to finish high school first (GED)

I don't want to judge on the school thing but there was someone who I spoke to, who said they were 18, at school but just got held back a year. They eventually admitted to me that they were 17. I guess it can be hard to judge sometimes.

 

[Acopia]

There was someone who recently said that they were still in school but they were 18. It's likely that they were lying about their age

I've noticed that too, but try to ignore it bc in America they refer to uni as school.& I suppose even over here you can be in sixth form until you're 18 or 19.

 

[checkouttime]

I've noticed that too, but try to ignore it bc in America they refer to uni as school.& I suppose even over here you can be in sixth form until you're 18 or 19.

i went to college later than that!! i cant remember exact think i was about 23 maybe older!

 

[HadEnough1974]

Someone please give @HadEnough1974 an award for best reply ever

Thank you @XYZ for nominating me for the "best reply ever" category on the ss forum. The ss awards committee will surely review the nomination. I believe the awards night will be live streamed due to the covid pandemic.

In the meantime, I will be working on my acceptance speech. Oh, and if I ctb before the awards night, you can give the award to @GoodPersonEffed because she's had some good replies as well.

 

[almost_dead]

Oh, you didn't know? The pinned resource thread doesn't exist! It's a myth, like unicorns!

smartass