Story My therapist told me to move

[OnlyOneSolution]

I had to see a therapist after I was discharged from the hospital following a failed OD attempt. Through the course of our discussions, he told me something that I wanted to be offended by, but it made too much sense.

He said, "If you decide again to take your life. Spend a little bit of time to consider your loved ones. Tell them you are moving to a new state to take a job. Move. Don't make new friends. Slowly distance yourself from your family. Then when you are truly alone in life, carry out your plans. If you believe your does not matter, then make it really not matter."

Today, I am waiting to find that one pill I can take, lay down, and never wake up. (Any ideas?) I live several states away from my family. I rarely talk to them and have not visited them for some time now. I have acquaintances but no friends. Will it make a difference? Once I am gone, I suppose I won't have to think about it.

 

[alienfreak]

A therapist telling you to distance yourself from your family/"loved ones" is interesting to say the least. Not sure what i think of that

 

[Forever Sleep]

A therapist telling you to distance yourself from your family/"loved ones" is interesting to say the least. Not sure what i think of that

Yeah, definitely. I wonder if they thought the home environment was part of the problem OP. That maybe if you lived independently for a bit, you'd feel differently about life. It does seem strange that a therapist would almost seem to accept the decision of suicide and advise on how to make it less painful for loved ones.

Yeah- I think we'd all like to find that magic pill that just sends us off into a forever sleep. Sadly, I don't think it's that easy.

My life has pretty much organically done what that therapist suggested. I live hundreds of miles from friends and family and don't have any real friends here. I'm not entirely cut off I suppose. It's hard to live totally as an island. Still, I'm also hoping the distance will help if I ever do it. I wonder if it helps entirely though. I still grieve for people I wasn't really in touch with that much before they died. I guess we won't know- like you say.

 

[alienfreak]

I wonder if they thought the home environment was part of the problem OP. That maybe if you lived independently for a bit, you'd feel differently about life.

Yeah it would make sense.

My life has pretty much organically done what that therapist suggested.

Me too. Due to depression and desire to ctb, I intentionally tried to make a drastic change to my environment by immigrating to another country etc. It kind of worked in some way for a while, but 5 years later im back here again. It is certainly true that i didnt realise how unhealthy my environment was until i left it for some time. Looking at how it has played out, I think it would have hurt my mother less if i just ctb back then instead of slowly cutting her off and then doing it now

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yeah it would make sense.

Me too. Due to depression and desire to ctb, I intentionally tried to make a drastic change to my environment by immigrating to another country etc. It kind of worked in some way for a while, but 5 years later im back here again. It is certainly true that i didnt realise how unhealthy my environment was until i left it for some time. Looking at how it has played out, I think it would have hurt my mother less if i just ctb back then instead of slowly cutting her off and then doing it now

I made moves in life too to hope to turn things around. I know what you mean- it helps for a while and then, we're back stuck with ourselves. I think in my case, I didn't make enough effort to work on underlying problems- social anxiety, crippling lack of confidence etc. Not enough anyway so- at some point, I just reverted back to the same old life and same old me but, just in a different place!

I'm so sorry yours didn't work out though. A change of country is a much braver move than mine. It's awful when people put so much effort in to turn things around and it still flops.

 

[TAW122]

It sounded like the advice given by the therapist sounded like something that was actually sensible and constructive. And similar to what @Forever Sleep may have stated, it seemed like the therapist wanted to say what he thinks, but because of legal obligation, he couldn't openly say it, but instead tiptoed around it and left it open to the patient's interpretation. I don't think there are many therapists that would be as practical or sensible, let alone not patronize or condescend towards their patients. As far as finding the magic pill, it is not easy and all methods have some sort of risk as well as oneself having to battle one's own self preservation instincts (which can be very strong) before one could successfully CTB. Anyways, I hope you are able to find peace in whatever you choose to do.

 

[depthss]

ive never heard of a therapist giving this type of advice before. i kind of wish my therapist was like this lol, but hes just trying to keep me here. i guess because the more of your clients live, the more money you can get from them lol. its nice that you found a therapist that seems to be pro-choice

 

[Leiot]

OMG! My therapist told me the same thing. I moved to a new city about a year and a half ago and I'm miserable. Haven't met anyone and I'm lonely past anything I've experienced before. He suggested getting the hell out of there and going back to where I was. I'm visiting there now and I feel much better. When my lease is up I'm out of Colorado.

 

[Marco77]

Law enforcement and psychiatrists have a very high suicide rate. Paradoxically they are the ones who want to save us.

 

[annen]

Law enforcement and psychiatrists have a very high suicide rate. Paradoxically they are the ones who want to save us.

I mean, also the firefighters have probably the highest death by fire rate?