My therapist has given up on me

[Penguinbee]

As the title says, my therapist has given up on me. She's treating me like I'm just not engaging with services anymore and I've tried to explain to her that I've tried every service available to me. It's not like they haven't helped, they were good at the time, but I've been stuck in this cycle of suicidality for so long that I don't see any other way out. I don't want to take the place of someone who could benefit from the therapies I've been offered again when I'm going to end up dying anyway. I've told her my intentions so at least I won't have to let her know. Has anyone else experienced this with their therapist? I know it's her job to help me but honestly in all the time I've seen her all she does is refer me to other services so she doesn't have to deal with me, she talks to me for the usual 9 minutes and that's it

 

[Nutshell]

I haven't even started yet but I already feel this way.. Except I have not "exhausted" the services there have been limited available to me.

 

[Ghost2211]

Mine did too. She sad if I don't get the bs fake help they try to force on us she won't be able to work with me anymore. I told her fine I'm not being forced into meds and services I don't want.

 

[511115]

I've been working with mine since 2017. She went behind my back and broke confidentiality and called my mom bc she was supposedly concerned for my safety, didn't tell me about it, then had a few sessions before letting it slip. I walked out and she said if I dont come back she considers me discharged.

Yeah, so much concern for my safety she's discharging me the same week she broke confidentiality? Hmmm.

 

[Esc9434]

I think your therapist is just trying to cover her own butt.

In my definition, a therapist is someone who tries to introduce a positive thought process to help you rationalize and cope with your own problems.

If your mind is not going to change, then no other options are left for your therapist. Therapy does not work for everyone.

 

[Jackobox]

As the title says, my therapist has given up on me. She's treating me like I'm just not engaging with services anymore and I've tried to explain to her that I've tried every service available to me. It's not like they haven't helped, they were good at the time, but I've been stuck in this cycle of suicidality for so long that I don't see any other way out. I don't want to take the place of someone who could benefit from the therapies I've been offered again when I'm going to end up dying anyway. I've told her my intentions so at least I won't have to let her know. Has anyone else experienced this with their therapist? I know it's her job to help me but honestly in all the time I've seen her all she does is refer me to other services so she doesn't have to deal with me, she talks to me for the usual 9 minutes and that's it

I am so sorry to hear this happened to you. Sometimes it can take a while to find a good therapist. I had a couple of "okay" ones, and then a terrible one, before finding the perfect therapist that helped me a lot in the past. I have since moved from that town and I am now trying to CTB for chronic illness related reasons but I wouldn't give up after one therapist. For instance she should be talking with you for far longer than 9 minutes; that is not the norm.

Good ones exist, you just have to find them. Maybe search for reviews in your area.

 

[autumnal]

[...] I don't want to take the place of someone who could benefit from the therapies I've been offered again when I'm going to end up dying anyway. [...]

Is there any chance that your reluctance to take the place of someone who could benefit means you are at least somewhat self-sabotaging any chance of the therapies being successful?