That's good to hear! I hope (and it seems to be the case that) sharing it here will go some way towards getting rid of the negative influence of this in your life. We've all done things out of anger that we regret. The good news is that, once you build resilience, it serves you well the rest of your life and you recover from new bad experiences more quickly.
Once the teenage bullies are gone, there are insecure professors who try to sabotage you, and then you graduate only to find out how much worse mobbing is than all of them. Then if your partner does not show you due respect and care, you find mobbing was a mosquito bite in comparison. We need a lot of resilience throughout life.
At least insecure professors, bosses and life partners(If you actually want to get in a relationship. Some Sufis ritually practice celibacy here and I am into the philosophy.) do not beat you up in public and humiliate you haha, at least not on the level that demon did to me. And what she did was clearly too much for just a person lifting a fist. The professors in my university so far have been fine for me, there are some 'insecure' ones but they are fine.
I wish I could build resilience, but my mind works the opposite way. The event just broke my spirit, and made facing further bad experiences even more difficult, which in turn affected my mental health for the worse even further. I am not the person who can manage to 'get over' things easily, my mind has been like that since I was young. But I hope I can still manage to get at least some confidence back, if not recover fully. Then again, some things that stick with you, you never recover fully from them, and remember them till death. I am not the person who forgets things easily either, I can remember the details. Though it helps me with exams and studying history, it also allows me to remember the bad things from the past by detail and hear it all back in my head, and sometimes get a panic attack, when the right nerve is hit.
This is EXACTLY what abusers say.
The apologists in this thread have clearly never been subject to bullying themselves. Everyone always sides with the abuser. Abuse victims are expected to be the bigger person and to keep turning the other cheek until their head comes off.
You did nothing wrong @MyLifeMyChoice
Someone raising a fist to you is ABSOLUTELY in no way a green light to beat them up. That excuse wouldn't fly in court, and it didn't with OP's abuser. I know crackpot Americans love an excuse to beat up or shoot each other so you have to take their opinions with a grain of salt - but in any civilized country 'self defence' is not an excuse to brutalise someone in retaliation.
If she was such a 'trained fighter' like these assholes are saying she should have known to show some restraint - not to willfully hurt somone unnecessarily.
Even more infuriatingly, @woxihuanni and @GoodPersonEffed have now moved on to gaslighting OP and convinced them to apologise.
This REALLY is too much. Is this forum totally unmoderated? Why are pro-abuse trolls allowed to spread this vile bullshit.
Thank you for your reply. May I post what I currently feel about this here?
I think it is correct that me lifting the fist escalated the situation, although judging from the kind of person she was, she would have moved to attack me anyway even if I kept to arguing verbally. But I also believe that what she did was still unjustifiable and even if I was responsible for escalating the situation, she is still guilty of physically assaulting me first, verbally harassing me, and potentially dealing serious injuries me. If demon's friend had not stopped her, I am sure I would have woken up in a hospital. Like you tell me those kicks by her strong legs on my stomach and chest when I was lieing on the ground would not have seriously injured me.
I do believe that she crossed the line, lifting a fist is not a reason good enough to inflict the degree of violence she used. You do not punch and knee someone, throw them to the ground, and proceed to kick them for them lifting a fist. In self defense, a thing called principle of least harm is taught on the ground of ethics that you shall not hurt somebody more than necessary for you to defend yourself. I for example would not punch my sister(You know, siblings, no matter gender difference, fight a lot. Even when all grown up.) in the nose if she grabbed me by the neck, and is too excited to consider that she is hurting me. I would instead use methods to break front holds, or maybe light hits if necessary. I may hit a classmate who got seriously aggressive with me in the head, stomp his foot etc. but will not gouge his eyeballs, 'leopard stab' him in the neck etc. If I was being robbed on the streets, I would do all of that without hesitation, but would not continue to hit the robber once he/she is on the ground, and if I do so I can even get into legal trouble. I for one would not be excused for breaking the limbs of or suffocating a robber to death who tried to rob me after I have successfully incapacitated him already, I would be criminally charged for it.