My new "boyfriend" steals my drugs

[Susannah]

I've had some wonderful weeks now, in love with this hot and funny guy. He's awesome in bed and my parents like him. He early admitted having a problem with alcohol. He smokes weed and he's got a thing for coke. It's been going well between us for almost 2 months.

The last days he's been living in my appartement, and I have several meds (on a shelf) due to severe pain (Tramadol, Paralgin Forte, Neurontin, Sarotex and Valium). Tonight I noticed how few I had left.... It's obvious that he's been popping pills. That would also explain his fucked- up condition the last days, both physically and mentally (aggressive, but not violent). I know he loves Vodka, so I'm sure his condition is cause by a mix of spirits and pills.

What do I do?

 

[BPD Barbie]

Personally that's a lot of red flags. Have you confronted him over this? If so, what was his reaction? If he's becoming aggressive as well as stealing your medication, I'd be inclined to ask him to leave. Of course it's easier said than done when you have feelings for someone, but I wouldn't wanna see you end up hurt.

 

[dontwantocareanymore]

Yeah... that sucks. That'd be a big "bye" from me. If he rehabilitated himself, I may reconsider. Dishonesty is where I draw the line.

 

[Lmd]

Run gurl. "he is so funny and hot" ok but he is a drug addict. Im sure you can find another hot and funny guy out there without being into drugs and you are gonna save a lot of bad times there. People like that requieres A LOT of effort and A LOT of disgusts, time and money to recover and you only are with him for only 2 months? Not worth, not your fight either.

 

[Susannah]

Personally that's a lot of red flags. Have you confronted him over this? If so, what was his reaction? If he's becoming aggressive as well as stealing your medication, I'd be inclined to ask him to leave. Of course it's easier said than done when you have feelings for someone, but I wouldn't wanna see you end up hurt.

He's too fucked up to be confronted. He's going home tomorrow, so I think it's better to "distance- confront" him. I'm fully aware of all the red flags. I just feel so disappointed. I would never ever have done the same.

Thank you. I don't want to get hurt either.

 

[BPD Barbie]

He's too fucked up to be confronted. He's going home tomorrow, so I think it's better to "distance- confront" him. I'm fully aware of all the red flags. I just feel so disappointed. I would never ever have done the same.

Thank you. I don't want to get hurt either.

They say you never truly know someone until you live with them, even for a short time. At least you found this out now instead of much further down the line. I agree, confronting from a distance is probably better. Hope it goes well.

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

I agree with what has already been said.

But dammit! This just sucks.

 

[Susannah]

Yeah... that sucks. That'd be a big "bye" from me. If he rehabilitated himself, I may reconsider. Dishonesty is where I draw the line.

Yeah, dishonesty is the worst, and he's lying about how much alcohol and drugs he uses. I guess it was too good to be true.

 

[dontwantocareanymore]

Yeah, dishonesty is the worst, and he's lying about how much alcohol and drugs he uses. I guess it was too good to be true.

I feel you lots. My ex certainly was & he swore he wasn't!

 

[AJ95]

That's a huge red flag to me, this guy is not boyfriend material at all

 

[Viro_Major]

I certainly learned that I won't get along well with most severely intoxicated people because usually they tend to be on/off switches. But I also learned that some are able to evolve when you give them a chance and/or support. Until you try, I wouldn't dump him. Most are first and foremost hypersensitive beings. Either they melt or the agressivity bumps are kept contained (most of the time anyway). "Distance-confront" appears like a sweet spot of a compromise to me, a brave and caring one. Keeping your attitude to high standards matters as much as his but that's only my stance. You'll figure out the futur soon enough.

 

[RedFoxSwims]

Damn that sucks. This is a good time to get away from him tbh

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Big big red flag. I just speaking from my personal experience. Being charmed by someone and head over heels in love, everyone likes them... narcissists are very much like that then their true self comes through. My ex used to steal my prescriptions I started locking my bag and tieing it around my wrist at night. Be very careful with this guy. Anyone who steals from you doesn't care about you. They could end up hurting you worse. In my opinion before you get further attached leave. He will try to pull you back with empty promises and apologies but if he is anything like my ex it's all fake. I don't want anyone to get hurt like I did...leave for your safety.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

@Susannah , curios how things have progressed, especially wondering if he got aggressive or violent.

 

[Susannah]

@Susannah , curios how things have progressed, especially wondering if he got aggressive or violent.

I actually gave him a chance to explain, and he admitted everything, said sorry. I'll give him a slack, this time. We have a break now, to let things calm down. Everybody's got issues. I know I do. I don't really believe in finding a "soulmate". Relationships are all about working a way around problems. Nobody's perfect.. thank god.