My mom is turning into an asshole

[fisbp]

For months, I constantly told my mom that I was unable to study because of suicidal thoughts. At first, she was supportive and took me to a psychiatrist. But since I did not study for months, she became fed up, and changed her attitude. Whenever I talk to my mom about my suicidal thoughts, she says "Why don't you use that energy to study instead of thinking about useless things". I DON'T THINK ABOUT SUICIDE BECAUSE I WANT TO, AND I WANT TO STUDY!

 

[GongLiFang]

I am so sorry to hear your mom has given up on being supportive and has turned into someone filled with anger. :(

Just know that I support you and I understand this struggle as well because my parents have been the same. Sometimes I think it is because they get frustrated or worried that things aren't changing fast enough for them and they can't process this so they take out there anger/worry from the situation on you.

I am in your corner and I am certain many people here can understand what it is like when you just think about death all the time without even wanting to or trying.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

Sounds like parent is a boomer who thought reality was negotiable

They only want children when they are convenient.
When you produce a child you roll the risk the child will have issues and problems.

 

[freedompass]

I am so sorry to hear your mom has given up on being supportive and has turned into someone filled with anger. :(

Just know that I support you and I understand this struggle as well because my parents have been the same. Sometimes I think it is because they get frustrated or worried that things aren't changing fast enough for them and they can't process this so they take out there anger/worry from the situation on you.

I am in your corner and I am certain many people here can understand what it is like when you just think about death all the time without even wanting to or trying.

This is a balanced appraisal of the situation. As a parent myself of a 26 year old I can empathise with your mom to some degree. Unfortunately parents are prone to respond with anger because mental illness in their children strikes at the core of their sense of self. My own mother wasn't understanding really because a) she hadn't experienced mental ill health herself and b) she couldn't encompass the idea that her precious daughter could be struck down like this. She continued in a state of denial for decades, maybe she still is. Perhaps it is preferable to going through the grieving process for the child you feel you have lost - along with your hopes and dreams for the future.

Just another perspective really, I wish you the best OP.

 

[Insomniac]

It's always like that.

First, they ignore you and don't take you seriously.

Then they hear about depression and anxiety from someone they trust (a doctor, a TV campaign, a friend, etc) and then they finally decide to listen to you and help you

Despite hearing that depression and anxiety are difficult to treat and that it takes time, they expect you to fix yourself completely within 6 months with meds and therapist as well as healthy food and exercise

After 6 months they go back to not giving a fuck and even become abusive and blatantly disrespect you because they feel like you're no longer a respectable person because of your depression

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry that you are suffering. It sounds stressful and tiring what you are going through and other people can often just make things worse. Some people really are so cruel and insensitive. I feel like non suicidal people are likely to be unable to understand what you are going through as they are not suicidal themselves. I wish you the best in whatever happens.

 

[GongLiFang]

This is a balanced appraisal of the situation. As a parent myself of a 26 year old I can empathise with your mom to some degree. Unfortunately parents are prone to respond with anger because mental illness in their children strikes at the core of their sense of self. My own mother wasn't understanding really because a) she hadn't experienced mental ill health herself and b) she couldn't encompass the idea that her precious daughter could be struck down like this. She continued in a state of denial for decades, maybe she still is. Perhaps it is preferable to going through the grieving process for the child you feel you have lost - along with your hopes and dreams for the future.

Just another perspective really, I wish you the best OP.

True, that is also a fair assessment. For my case it certainly appears like it comes from a place of frustration more than anything but I totally see where you are coming from. Honestly now that you mention this I have seen this in other parents. Makes sense considering many parents take their kids accomplishments as their own so I can see mental illness as a blow to ego for some despite how problematic that is.

 

[Cathy Ames]

For months, I constantly told my mom that I was unable to study because of suicidal thoughts. At first, she was supportive and took me to a psychiatrist. But since I did not study for months, she became fed up, and changed her attitude. Whenever I talk to my mom about my suicidal thoughts, she says "Why don't you use that energy to study instead of thinking about useless things". I DON'T THINK ABOUT SUICIDE BECAUSE I WANT TO, AND I WANT TO STUDY!

I sort of think that this type of intrusive (and maybe obsessive?) thinking might be something different than depression. In fact, this sounds an awful lot like a drug side effect from an antidepressant. Are you taking meds? You've mentioned it to your mother, but have you mentioned to your doctor? I'm NOT saying that you're not depressed; I'm saying you may have an additional problem happening.