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- Jul 14, 2022
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I had a disfiguring surgery and my mom heard me crying to myself in the morning. She sends me a text. Her reaction? Telling me to do the laundry.
Here's the thing, when I basically lost my right half (I estimate it works like 30% after the bonk), I REFUSED any help. Vehemently.That's absolutely rotten how that heartless carcass ignored your suffering and demanded labor from you!
This all feels like gymnastics to me. Why wouldn't your first thought be to comfort your crying child? Am I in crazyland?Here's a thing - people don't know how to handle tense situations like that very well.
She's probably thinking "my son/daughter had a fucking ton of bricks fall on them. How do I make them feel normal despite that fact?"
She's probably not a therapist. Even if she was, she'd probably not want to be your therapist because of that family connection.
She may be trying to make you feel normal despite the surgery, like "yeah, you just had a shitton of bricks fall directly on your face, but you're still capable of doing the laundry."
edit: I admittedly don't know how disfiguring the surgery was.
I mean, this is Ukrainian standards, "big boys don't cry" type of bull. It's all over the world in various ways.This all feels like gymnastics to me. Why wouldn't your first thought be to comfort your crying child? Am I in crazyland?
I mean, this is Ukrainian standards, "big boys don't cry" type of bull. It's all over the world in various ways.