BitterlyAlive
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- Apr 8, 2020
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I kept my mouth shut. I personally disagree. I don't think it's self-murder. Nor is it giving up, nor is it weak. In my opinion, of course.
It just frustrated me...
It just frustrated me...
I kept my mouth shut. I personally disagree. I don't think it's self-murder. Nor is it giving up, nor is it weak. In my opinion, of course.
It just frustrated me...
sui: self cide: kill
She's right
Right. I don't want to try and "convince" her because she, like you said, has the right to her opinion. I guess it just bothers me because of the stigma. Sorry :/Also you're opinion is equally as valid as your mom's. You don't have to convince her.
Right. I don't want to try and "convince" her because she, like you said, has the right to her opinion. I guess it just bothers me because of the stigma. Sorry :/
I don't care. Sorry. No offense.Sorry I'm a bit out of my tree right now so don't take this an attack or anything but, isn't that just semantics?
By definition it is. Who cares though, people who aren't suffering won't understand. It's that simple.
Not to get too deep into an argument over semantics, but I would think 'suicide' is more accurately self killing, not self murder. Homicide does not necessarily imply murder. Not all instances of killing are murder -- for instance, unintentional accidents, accidents that were a result of negligence or disregard, and self defense -- and I would say the same goes for suicide.
I disagree with your definition. I would argue that murder is non-consentual (sp?), hence why it is problematic. Suicide, on the other hand, is consentual, so it's fine.
She doesn't know I'm suicidal. At least, I don't think she does...I mean, she is your mother, probably wants to protect you at all costs.
Lmao at the last part. But it reminded me of something I also told her. I told her earlier that "some people online" are beginning to refer to the act of suicide as "dying by suicide" instead of "committing suicide" due to the connotation. She...rolled her eyes and scoffed. :/ Maybe she viewed it as people trying to make more things PC. I dunno.I personally really dislike it when suicide is called self-murder, because it has to do with intention. Murder generally has to do with malice or ill will.
Some folks who suicide genuinely hate themselves and want to murder themselves. But it seems to me that most people suicide because they want to escape situations and/or conditions, and ending their life is the means to the desired end/ending.
I'm sure there's plenty I haven't taken into account, and someone may argue with me about my assessment when it's applied to them, It's cool to reject my assessment, I'm not trying to define everyone and I know I'm not the ultimate authority. Neither is the OP's mom and other sources that call it self-murder. I'm not cool with that anymore than some people are cool with the pronouns used to refer to them. Suicide is an act of murder of the self, but the word murder has connotations and emotional charges, so I take exception to using it when applied to suicide, at least to my own. And if you want to know, my preferred pronouns are she/her, and I like being called a "woman" and dislike being called "person born with a vulva." :)
I personally really dislike it when suicide is called self-murder, because it has to do with intention. Murder generally has to do with malice or ill will.
Some folks who suicide genuinely hate themselves and want to murder themselves. But it seems to me that most people suicide because they want to escape situations and/or conditions, and ending their life is the means to the desired end/ending.
I'm sure there's plenty I haven't taken into account, and someone may argue with me about my assessment when it's applied to them, It's cool to reject my assessment, I'm not trying to define everyone and I know I'm not the ultimate authority. Neither is the OP's mom and other sources that call it self-murder. I'm not cool with that anymore than some people are cool with the pronouns used to refer to them. Suicide is an act of murder of the self, but the word murder has connotations and emotional charges, so I take exception to using it when applied to suicide, at least to my own. And if you want to know, my preferred pronouns are she/her, and I like being called a "woman" and dislike being called "person born with a vulva." :)
Yeah. Can you tell I'm very particular about semantics? I guess I have nothing better to think about. How sad lol.in my opinion, suicide is the opposite of weak. how many people can fight their survival instinct and willingly end their life? do they think that's easy? it takes a considerable amount of willpower and strength.
and how, exactly, is it "giving up"? nobody asks to fight an uphill battle. you can't give up in a battle you never wanted to fight in the first place.
It's not. Murder is a crime. Suicide is not a crime. Difference is not just opinion.I kept my mouth shut. I personally disagree. I don't think it's self-murder. Nor is it giving up, nor is it weak. In my opinion, of course.
It just frustrated me...
There is a legal difference. Not insignificant either. There was a time when suicide was a crime. That's thankfully no longer the case; otherwise people who attempt and fail would be criminally charged. Murder is the unlawful killing of another person. A semantic difference would be self-homicide but that would be a paradoxical thing to say since suicide is a more accurate term since homicide is the killing of another person. In fact murder is homicide with intent. Another reason self-murder is paradoxical and inaccurate.The difference is only semantic. Self-murder and ctb are synonyms in my opinion. And so what about it, who cares, its your decision.
Technically inaccurate if we're talking about semantics/etymology. The word comes from latin and literally means self-killing. 'Murder' further implies that something unlawful and/or immoral has been committed, which is untrue or highly questionable at least.I kept my mouth shut. I personally disagree. I don't think it's self-murder. Nor is it giving up, nor is it weak. In my opinion, of course.
It just frustrated me...
'Committing' implies or connotes that something unlawful or wrong has been done, i.e. 'x committed a crime', 'y committed murder' 'z committed incest' (although I would question the absolute immorality of incest if no one is actually harmed, and it is all consensual and based on freedom of choice).Lmao at the last part. But it reminded me of something I also told her. I told her earlier that "some people online" are beginning to refer to the act of suicide as "dying by suicide" instead of "committing suicide" due to the connotation. She...rolled her eyes and scoffed. :/ Maybe she viewed it as people trying to make more things PC. I dunno.
Yes, there is no 'victim' of suicide in the legal sense. It can have negative effects on other people, but they aren't technically victims.I've always thought of murder as against the victim's will. Suicide doesn't fit that.