she did some things that made me feel uncomfortable and insecure during our relationship, but she always blamed me. at one point, i exploded with anger and cursed her a lot. when everything calmed down, i tried to take it back, and until now, all i've done is humiliate myself and cry.
I'm sorry ,
What kinda things did she do?
I feel like in most disagreements the fallout is because people dont know how to communicate properly , or are having trouble communicating for different reasons ofc…..
If you are sorry , and she's not being outright abusive to you ( if so , please set as many boundaries as possible ….)
Also … Maybe try and explain to her that those things you said are untrue instead of just apologizing because words can hurt - and do stick with people ….
I'm sorry that you feel like you're always blamed though , if this person isn't able to have a conversation you may have to seek closure from within yourself ….
Try not to engage if they are completely one sided , I know it's easier said than done.
you may already be thinking this …. But perhaps it's not meant to be….
Some people are very incompatible , regardless of feelings ….
Follow your heart , but protect it as well.
Apologize if you are sorry ….
And try to be kind to yourself / take care of yourself . Humiliating oneself is only going to dig you into a deeper hole of self loathing and depression …..
It sounds like you've both made mistakes .
The question is , can things be fixed ? Will you put in the work for things to be fixed as a pair ?
If you are keeping score now ….. it's not a great sign …. I heard couples who keep score are doomed in psychology but I could be wrong.
