Venting My girlfriend broke up with me

[Jinx88]

My girlfriend of two months, who I love dearly, has broken up with me. We wanted to have kids and get married. I don't wanna live anymore

 

[Languish]

Loss is a crippling feeling, I wish I didn't empathize so much. I hope you can find love again one day.

 

[durros]

I don't doubt it was a special relationship, and that you're really hurting now.

However, two months is not a long time. If you experienced something so great in that short period, imagine what else could be out there in the coming months and years. There are a lot of people, and you can find someone else to share those goals with.

Give it some time. It may take a few months or longer, but I think you can get through this.

 

[Yume Nikki]

It's tragic to think that the ones we love and cherish the most usually are the fastest to break our hearts and/or abandon us. My ex said the same thing to me when we first started dating... the thoughts of love, marriage, and kids were just a fantasy in his head during the honeymoon stage, once that phase ends, they start to change either for better or for worse.

The pain that comes after a breakup is indescribable and I can sympathize with your feelings of rejection. Love is a temporary feeling unfortunately and we can't take what others say at face value because people aren't reliable. They can go from being the most important person in your life to suddenly disappearing one day. But the good thing is, she's not the only girl out there who exists, it will definitely hurt the remaining days to come for sure, since she was special to you, but five months from now, you'll begin to think less due to time. I still have bad days myself after the breakup, but it wasn't as difficult as the beginning. My recommendation is to vent or write as much as you can about it until you reach a point where you're ready to move on.

 

[Reflection]

I don't doubt it was a special relationship, and that you're really hurting now.

However, two months is not a long time. If you experienced something so great in that short period, imagine what else could be out there in the coming months and years. There are a lot of people, and you can find someone else to share those goals with.

Give it some time. It may take a few months or longer, but I think you can get through this.

4 month relationship (with someone I knew for a long time before) single-handedly made me depressed for a year and half now. I don't think time matters as much as how much the person meant.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I understand how much a breakup can hurt, but after 2 months you were still early in the infatuation stage of the relationship, and it's hard to see things as they really are with such intense emotions on both sides. You should give it some more time, and if you keep looking you could find someone who's a better fit.

My wife just left me this year after 20 years of marriage, and it's devastating. My entire life was intertwined with hers, and she filed for divorce without any warning one day. We take a big risk whenever we fall in love with someone, there's always a chance they leave us no matter how long we're together.

 

[needthebus]

However, two months is not a long time.

I don't agree with this. 2 months can be enough time to really bond with someone if the people are having sex or the relationship is intense.

My girlfriend of two months, who I love dearly, has broken up with me. We wanted to have kids and get married. I don't wanna live anymore

I hope you wait at least 6 months before even considering anything. I am sure you were completely in love with this person and the pain must feel excruciating. It is still going to hurt for weeks, and months. Please wait at least 6 months because at that point the pain will be awful, but less bad.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

This sounds awful, but if you found her then there's a decent chance you might find someone else, plus you've gained experience too which is usually a positive for guys.

 

[ecstasy]

i almost ctb when my last bf broke up with me, and im so so glad i stayed. even tho i want to ctb for other reasons, i would've regretted ctb over him so heavily
if theres anything you can stay for, even the small things, plz do. ur life is worth more than a relationship and i know the grief is so bad but its not worth ctb over that imo
with what @needthebus said, i would really consider waiting 6 months to a year to reconsider, as it rlly does take that long or even more to get over someone (the pain will be lessened by then). and just remember the grief you feel is just the love u have for them, if u didnt feel anything rn/weren't grieving it means you didnt care as much, which is special
but above anything i hope u heal fast and we're here for u

 

[theboy]

It's painful...but it will heal. I know it sounds cliché but at some point you'll remember it without so much pain

 

[Aloneandinpain]

For me it would be an accomplishment to even have an ex.