Story My first therapy (went bad imo)

[Rainy_Cloud]

So i went to therapy this week . And i think she sucked(my therapist) , to note shes like middle aged woman not really that old.I also waited bout 7 months since i cant afford it.
Here are some things that in my nonprofesional but rational thinking werent okay:
- She asked me once to show her my sh harms after i told her where are they(only on my one tight ) and i said no that im not comftrable (there was another male student observing us as well), and she procecedded trying to convinve me that she needs to evaluvate something and i refused after 3th time i said i dont wanna its not serious and ik i dont need medical treatmet atleast so she finaly backed up
- After taking some questionaries that showed that i asummngy have severe depresion and anxiety she said it cant be that normaly that depressed people cant even get up of bed if i feel like that. i said no but almost. and she said well u have job and doing classe(i btw miss half of it lol) so she basically dissmised it fully . i did respond to her saying that i somehow need to live and go on
- she also said im looking to much on only bad things alltho i came to therappy to talk bout bad things not good once since im trying to procsses it
she said i only need to change "my mindset" and i should be ok
Also she said i seemed calm and shit while i was fidgeding w my leg and playing w small paper whole time cuz i was stressed. At one point i almost cried to.
And i get that hoping to achive help lol.

 

[d3c96524be95]

I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience. From what you described, not only your therapist seems very unhelpful, unprofessional and disrespectful, she's also very ignorant. Many people endure a very poor quality of life and even commit suicide while living a normal life in apparence. From my personal experience, at least half of practitioners are unsafe like this, so that's bad luck on you but still statistically expected IMHO.

As you said you can't afford therapy, I assume you're stuck with her which is very unfortunate. Is she a doctor or just a therapist? Do you have any way to see an actual doctor, so as to go through the "usual" medical care?

 

[SadPingu]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I always remember this advert where there's this guy who works an office job. He goes in day after day and is clearly frustrated with his life. Every day he goes into the office, this other guy says "morning" really happily and upbeat. One day the guy you think would CTB comes to work and the 'happy' guy it turns out has CTB.

 

[HighFlight]

@Rain1 , I'm so sorry you've had to endure that. Finding the right therapist is difficult, and made even worse if you're having to save over months to go. My son and I have both struggled in finding therapists that we can connect with. My son is still looking and I'm scared he won't find one in time. Yours sounded too much like she was comparing you with the textbook of mental health conditions. Those broad classifications of what depression or anxiety look like seldom work. I've taken both standard assessments and have scored severely depressed and high anxiety, but very few can tell it - even my closest family members. I will be "the 'happy' guy it turns out has CTB" in @SadPingu 's story.

I'm not sure what country you're in and what resources are available, but I would definitely look for a different therapist. In the US, we've had some good luck with Psychology Today and I usually ask for a 10-15 minute "interview" before actually making a billable appointment. This allows me to get a sense of the person before I have to start paying for their time. Most (but not all) have accommodated this request. You might look around for similar resources.

I truly hope you can find a therapist you connect with and things being to feel better for you.

 

[lachrymost]

Ugh. She doesn't seem very knowledgable about the one thing that is literally her job. Good for you for refusing to show the scars. I let these people push me into revealing things I wasn't comfortable with and it still haunts me.

 

[Rainy_Cloud]

I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience. From what you described, not only your therapist seems very unhelpful, unprofessional and disrespectful, she's also very ignorant. Many people endure a very poor quality of life and even commit suicide while living a normal life in apparence. From my personal experience, at least half of practitioners are unsafe like this, so that's bad luck on you but still statistically expected IMHO.

As you said you can't afford therapy, I assume you're stuck with her which is very unfortunate. Is she a doctor or just a therapist? Do you have any way to see an actual doctor, so as to go through the "usual" medical care?

I dont even want the medecine i just want diagnozes . I expected it as well. i also told her im strugeling for years and i am very direct w my issues and outspoken its not like i can change them. I expected it too but i still wanted to try. I mybe could change her but honestly im to tired even getting this apoitment was hard. I barelly get regural checkups too it must be really bad to see me bothering going to medical care.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I always remember this advert where there's this guy who works an office job. He goes in day after day and is clearly frustrated with his life. Every day he goes into the office, this other guy says "morning" really happily and upbeat. One day the guy you think would CTB comes to work and the 'happy' guy it turns out has CTB.

Yeah she made me wuite frustrated. Its clear that she never had serious problems. U cant help and understand people if u didnt i would say

@Rain1 , I'm so sorry you've had to endure that. Finding the right therapist is difficult, and made even worse if you're having to save over months to go. My son and I have both struggled in finding therapists that we can connect with. My son is still looking and I'm scared he won't find one in time. Yours sounded too much like she was comparing you with the textbook of mental health conditions. Those broad classifications of what depression or anxiety look like seldom work. I've taken both standard assessments and have scored severely depressed and high anxiety, but very few can tell it - even my closest family members. I will be "the 'happy' guy it turns out has CTB" in @SadPingu 's story.

I'm not sure what country you're in and what resources are available, but I would definitely look for a different therapist. In the US, we've had some good luck with Psychology Today and I usually ask for a 10-15 minute "interview" before actually making a billable appointment. This allows me to get a sense of the person before I have to start paying for their time. Most (but not all) have accommodated this request. You might look around for similar resources.

I truly hope you can find a therapist you connect with and things being to feel better for you.

I wish i would have option to pay for one and explor but sadly i am on my own and am limited on who i get. She def was bad 1 experience. im thinking to go to her again just to give her piece of my mind but i cant care enough i just feel abd for rest of the people going there

Ugh. She doesn't seem very knowledgable about the one thing that is literally her job. Good for you for refusing to show the scars. I let these people push me into revealing things I wasn't comfortable with and it still haunts me.

she aslo want me to describe my intrusive toughts , specially suecidal ones and i didnt wanna too i just said i dont remember really much cuz i dont want to and gave one whos literally most easyest one in my mind . or not one thats normaly vivid. i have plenty but its so wierd to explain them while i literally dont wanna think about it to long
smsh

 

[HighFlight]

im thinking to go to her again just to give her piece of my mind but i cant care enough i just feel abd for rest of the people going there

She not worth your time and effort, or the money for another appointment. Spend your time and resources on finding someone who can actual help you. I wish I could provide you with better guidance, but I simply don't know enough about the mental health care system in Europe to help. Please take care of yourself and hopefully you can find a new therapist that you feel comfortable with.

 

[Rainy_Cloud]

She not worth your time and effort, or the money for another appointment. Spend your time and resources on finding someone who can actual help you. I wish I could provide you with better guidance, but I simply don't know enough about the mental health care system in Europe to help. Please take care of yourself and hopefully you can find a new therapist that you feel comfortable with

I luckly didnt pay for it it still sucks thom i appriciate u taking time to respond and try to help <3

 

[HighFlight]

She doesn't seem very knowledgable about the one thing that is literally her job.

One of my early therapists was a complete idiot. We had hour long sessions in which he didn't say a word - he just expected that I would do all the talking. I felt like I was talking to myself. And I can do that without paying someone else to listen in.

 

[chloramine]

Yeah no. That's not a good therapist. I'm sorry you had to deal with that- especially during your first appointment. If you're willing to try again I'd highly recommend finding someone else. Dismissing you, pushing to see sh stuff and the weird toxic positivity she was spouting are all unhelpful at best.

 

[Stormy Raine]

So i went to therapy this week . And i think she sucked(my therapist) , to note shes like middle aged woman not really that old.I also waited bout 7 months since i cant afford it.
Here are some things that in my nonprofesional but rational thinking werent okay:
- She asked me once to show her my sh harms after i told her where are they(only on my one tight ) and i said no that im not comftrable (there was another male student observing us as well), and she procecedded trying to convinve me that she needs to evaluvate something and i refused after 3th time i said i dont wanna its not serious and ik i dont need medical treatmet atleast so she finaly backed up
- After taking some questionaries that showed that i asummngy have severe depresion and anxiety she said it cant be that normaly that depressed people cant even get up of bed if i feel like that. i said no but almost. and she said well u have job and doing classe(i btw miss half of it lol) so she basically dissmised it fully . i did respond to her saying that i somehow need to live and go on
- she also said im looking to much on only bad things alltho i came to therappy to talk bout bad things not good once since im trying to procsses it
she said i only need to change "my mindset" and i should be ok
Also she said i seemed calm and shit while i was fidgeding w my leg and playing w small paper whole time cuz i was stressed. At one point i almost cried to.
And i get that hoping to achive help lol.

I 1st want to apologize for your experience! That lady was insensitive and who is she to assume or judge anything based off what she see or you appear as? If the assessment said you were/ are severely depressed then she should have taken your word and treated you as such. I really hope she prescribed you medication?? It's stereotypical of her to assume someone severely depressed can't work, people do it everyday, heck I do it everyday! I hope 1 day people will treat us with respect and dignity, we are not always treated as such unfortunately! If it makes you feel better I suggest you simply tell her how she made you feel in a respectful way and help her to understand people suffer in silence and yes you are severely depressed and besides what you think a person behavior should consist of, she is looking at you! I'm done with the mental health because of these reasons, ask for a new therapist and I wish you the best in your recovery

 

[Rainy_Cloud]

One of my early therapists was a complete idiot. We had hour long sessions in which he didn't say a word - he just expected that I would do all the talking. I felt like I was talking to myself. And I can do that without paying someone else to listen in.

I mean u basically di<3 i hope u found someone better now

 

[Rainy_Cloud]

Yeah no. That's not a good therapist. I'm sorry you had to deal with that- especially during your first appointment. If you're willing to try again I'd highly recommend finding someone else. Dismissing you, pushing to see sh stuff and the weird toxic positivity she was spouting are all unhelpful at best.

yeah im lucky to see thats wrong but im not sure i can get another one

I 1st want to apologize for your experience! That lady was insensitive and who is she to assume or judge anything based off what she see or you appear as? If the assessment said you were/ are severely depressed then she should have taken your word and treated you as such. I really hope she prescribed you medication?? It's stereotypical of her to assume someone severely depressed can't work, people do it everyday, heck I do it everyday! I hope 1 day people will treat us with respect and dignity, we are not always treated as such unfortunately! If it makes you feel better I suggest you simply tell her how she made you feel in a respectful way and help her to understand people suffer in silence and yes you are severely depressed and besides what you think a person behavior should consist of, she is looking at you! I'm done with the mental health because of these reasons, ask for a new therapist and I wish you the best in your recovery

thank u and no she didnt give me anything, nor im not here for that purpose she said we will jsut work on some stress managment or some shit like miss im okay under stress i dont need that sigh