Venting My favorite person lowkey rejected me

[borderline-feline]

A while back, my favorite person and I had a conversation. We decided that we weren't gonna label our relationship, or at least that's how I took it. I still viewed him as my boyfriend until now. He clarified tonight that he doesn't view us as being in a relationship, and I can't handle the rejection. I know he loves me dearly, but I want him to love me in a romantic "I wanna marry you" kind of way. He's the only reason I stay alive, and I just wanna die right now.

 

[Cress]

I've gotten over pretty much all of the relationships that I've had in my life Where I was able to be friends with The girl years after the fact. However there's one girl That I dated in college that I have never been able to get over. She's married now and lives in another state however Sometimes she would message me off and on on Facebook. Seems like she was always a bit undecided about it friending me and Unfriending me at random intervals Over the years Saying that she missed Doing various activities with me.

I haven't spoken to her in two and a half years and I've been Afraid to message her Because maybe she would decide a more permanent solution and decide to block me. The thought of having the communication closed off forever is still painful surprisingly. I guess what I'm trying to say is I can empathize with caring for someone deeply And I'm sorry to hear that you think you're a boyfriend doesn't feel the Same way that you do about them.

Do they just say that they want a casual relationship? I can understand if even asking questions like that sometimes is an answer better not known. There is a finality to it once people tell you exactly how they feel. Anyway you don't have to answer any of that question I was just curious. I'm sorry you're going through all this.

 

[Enlighten]

A while back, my favorite person and I had a conversation. We decided that we weren't gonna label our relationship, or at least that's how I took it. I still viewed him as my boyfriend until now. He clarified tonight that he doesn't view us as being in a relationship, and I can't handle the rejection. I know he loves me dearly, but I want him to love me in a romantic "I wanna marry you" kind of way. He's the only reason I stay alive, and I just wanna die right now.

It's like you said: He probably still loves you dearly, even if not romantically. And it could always change. It's good that you have some support through him.

 

[borderline-feline]

I've gotten over pretty much all of the relationships that I've had in my life Where I was able to be friends with The girl years after the fact. However there's one girl That I dated in college that I have never been able to get over. She's married now and lives in another state however Sometimes she would message me off and on on Facebook. Seems like she was always a bit undecided about it friending me and Unfriending me at random intervals Over the years Saying that she missed Doing various activities with me.

I haven't spoken to her in two and a half years and I've been Afraid to message her Because maybe she would decide a more permanent solution and decide to block me. The thought of having the communication closed off forever is still painful surprisingly. I guess what I'm trying to say is I can empathize with caring for someone deeply And I'm sorry to hear that you think you're a boyfriend doesn't feel the Same way that you do about them.

Do they just say that they want a casual relationship? I can understand if even asking questions like that sometimes is an answer better not known. There is a finality to it once people tell you exactly how they feel. Anyway you don't have to answer any of that question I was just curious. I'm sorry you're going through all this.

He doesn't want to be anything more than friends. I'm an idiot for thinking we were still more than that.

It's like you said: He probably still loves you dearly, even if not romantically. And it could always change. It's good that you have some support through him.

I can't go to him for support after being rejected by him. I also don't see him changing his mind since doesn't want a romantic relationship with anyone.

 

[tiger b]

That really sucks and I feel for you.

"He doesn't want to be anything more than friends. I'm an idiot for thinking we were still more than that."

One thing is for sure, you may feel like an idiot at this point in time, but you're definitely not one.

 

[F&Inside]

Hello.
One-sided love is never worth it, it is an unnecessary waste of energy, we have to accept the decision and feelings of the other person and continue on our way. I know it is difficult to live it because of our feelings, but we have to accept it and love the one who reciprocates us if we also feel the same to live a healthy and true love.
Also while building a relationship we have to make it clear what our intention is to avoid misunderstandings among other things in the near future. It is also better not to dramatize and dismiss the rest of the world for a person who does not love us, when there is probably always someone out there better and willing to love us and make us feel great.
Good luck.

 

[borderline-feline]

Hello.
One-sided love is never worth it, it is an unnecessary waste of energy, we have to accept the decision and feelings of the other person and continue on our way. I know it is difficult to live it because of our feelings, but we have to accept it and love the one who reciprocates us if we also feel the same to live a healthy and true love.
Also while building a relationship we have to make it clear what our intention is to avoid misunderstandings among other things in the near future. It is also better not to dramatize and dismiss the rest of the world for a person who does not love us, when there is probably always someone out there better and willing to love us and make us feel great.
Good luck.

No one would reciprocate my feelings.

I will never get over this rejection.

I don't want happiness; I want to die.

 

[DyingToDie123]

Been there. I'm sorry.

 

[Lookoutbelow]

No one would reciprocate my feelings.

I will never get over this rejection.

I don't want happiness; I want to die.

Yes, my feelings exactly. Lost love is why I am going to kill myself as well.

 

[dizzdesi]

A while back, my favorite person and I had a conversation. We decided that we weren't gonna label our relationship, or at least that's how I took it. I still viewed him as my boyfriend until now. He clarified tonight that he doesn't view us as being in a relationship, and I can't handle the rejection. I know he loves me dearly, but I want him to love me in a romantic "I wanna marry you" kind of way. He's the only reason I stay alive, and I just wanna die right now.

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry, I have bpd and a fp…god I can only imagine how hurt you must be. I know how much I hurt over mine sometimes. It's hard having your emotional state hinge on a single person, an intrinsically flawed human being at that. At least that's how it is for me. I hope things get better for you… :(

 

[CTB Dream]

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[chuerdhmproton]

A while back, my favorite person and I had a conversation. We decided that we weren't gonna label our relationship, or at least that's how I took it. I still viewed him as my boyfriend until now. He clarified tonight that he doesn't view us as being in a relationship, and I can't handle the rejection. I know he loves me dearly, but I want him to love me in a romantic "I wanna marry you" kind of way. He's the only reason I stay alive, and I just wanna die right now.

you are playing into the trope of bpd = yandere...

 

[borderline-feline]

you are playing into the trope of bpd = yandere...

I'm not "playing into" anything. I'm venting about a problem I have.

 

[borderline-feline]

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry, I have bpd and a fp…god I can only imagine how hurt you must be. I know how much I hurt over mine sometimes. It's hard having your emotional state hinge on a single person, an intrinsically flawed human being at that. At least that's how it is for me. I hope things get better for you… :(

How do you handle it?

 

[dizzdesi]

How do you handle it?

Usually not too well tbh, I tend to self-harm and isolate. But when I handle it correctly, I meditate. I use Headspace and it's made meditation not so much a mystery to me. The detachment you get with meditation really helps me cool down…when I come out, I can usually think more rationally. I usually follow my breaths: 1 inhale, 2 exhale, 3 inhale…up to a count of 10. Repeat. It's cliche but it truly does help with those "hot" emotions.
I've also been more open abt my diagnosis with my loved ones including my fp. Idk if your fp knows that you have bpd, but in my experience telling trusted people my diagnosis and the symptoms that come with it have made our relationships stronger. I think we understand each other more.
Again. Really cliche. But meditation and communication are good for you. It sounds like your fp cares about you; I think that you need to have as much of an honest conversation as you can about your feelings. Wishing you the best x

 

[latinoamericanboy]

I have been friendzoned too many times. Usually it happens to sensible man like me. And it's the worst kind of rejection, because there's no bad feelings involved besides yours, and you gotta be careful to not hurt them. And playing it cool is like holding double the pain.

Also, i don't understand why they say so many great things about liking my personality and shit, but don't want romance. To me, romance, comited or not, is the holy grail of intimacy. It's the union of all the personas. I can love animals and my mom, and i can have sex with random people, but i need them both to hit the deep inside my soul.