meeting bfs parents

[finish.me]

this is so cringey but im going to be meeting my bf and staying with him and his parents for a teeny bit but im so fucking depressed and lazy and a piece of shit and also horrible at speaking but i really have to be sociable with them especially bc theyre being kind enough to let me stay with them. But i'm /so/ fucking anxious and sad over this. i feel like a little kid. my boyfriend is kind of encouraging me to do this so i know it wont piss him off if i choose to do this but do you think it would be in bad taste if i met them...drunk? like. not blackout drunk but enough to get me light on my feet and loose and funny. bad idea or no

 

[ven]

Depends on his parents. If they're alcoholics, then it's probably a normal behavior to show up drunk. If they're social drinkers, it may be better to drink with them and become tipsy during the first interaction. If they're not really into drinking, then you probably want to refrain unless they offer.

Keep in mind, humans are biologically primed to remember first impressions. Unless you're comfortable with them guessing whether or not you have a drinking problem instead of considering whether or not you're on the shy side during first encounters, then you might want to hold off on meeting them drunk.

 

[finish.me]

Depends on his parents. If they're alcoholics, then it's probably a normal behavior to show up drunk. If they're social drinkers, it may be better to drink with them and become tipsy during the first interaction. If they're not really into drinking, then you probably want to refrain unless they offer.

Keep in mind, humans are biologically primed to remember first impressions. Unless you're comfortable with them guessing whether or not you have a drinking problem instead of considering whether or not you're on the shy side during first encounters, then you might want to hold off on meeting them drunk.

they're a really lax family. they've stopped drinking i think but according to my boyfriend they would party and drink a lot and they even do drugs like xtc and shit WITH him /still/ so I know they wouldn't.. hate me over it. but you're right about first impressions. I just fucking hate being reserved. Like, I want the confidence to just joke and be comfortable around them. I know thats asking for a lot but fuck i'm so sick of being boring and shy

 

[TriggerHappy]

Coming from someone who rarely listens to my own, usually good advice :: don't get drunk.
So so many times I've ended up in that situation (usually slightly high), thinking no-one knows, but they do. Eventually you don't give a fuck and this is how your carnival rolls...
My point is this, for the longest time after you'll wander how it went, wandering if they really like you :: if you're lit you won't pick up the weirdness, and the next time you meet up may be super awkward ( for u) if u meet up again.
The family drug history counts for nothing. Did my first lines with my dad, didn't stop him hating me when I went on my rehab tour... don't think they won't judge u, they will. Whether u use or not....
Sounds like you care, so if you care, don't.
You are enough. Be yourself, if they don't like u..fuck em.
(But don't destroy your bf to get back at them if they are wierd, its not his stuff) dont listen to your fear. It lies and manipulates.

 

[BottomlessPit]

This is part of the reason why I'm apprehensive of getting into a relationship. You're forced to meet so many new people in addition to your partner, and it's just so pointlessly stressful.

 

[finish.me]

This is part of the reason why I'm apprehensive of getting into a relationship. You're forced to meet so many new people in addition to your partner, and it's just so pointlessly stressful.

tbh for me its worth it for my man but literally youre right this is. horribly stressful. my bf is lucky too because he doesn't have to do the same with my parents. all the pressure is on me

 

[Darkmoon Queen]

do this but do you think it would be in bad taste if i met them...drunk

Yes, extremely bad taste. First impressions matter and you would be disrespecting your boyfriend by meeting his parents drunk.

Try to turn up freshly showered and presentable and try to take your thoughts off yourself. Just be polite. I know it's scary as fuck at times but if you just do those things, they can't fault you.

First time I met my bf's mother, I hadn't been in the shower for five days because bf's had stopped working and I wasn't near home. So I not only had to meet her looking (and prob smelling) terrible, I had to use her shower as well. Wasn't optimal and I was very on edge but most people are at least understanding on the surface. If you can smile and coast that surface, you'll be fine.