I'm struggling too, been apart of a group for over a year now and had ups and downs, because one individual is a right twat. I'm being gaslit and slyly abused and the others don't see it or don't care to see it, malicious comments about suicide because I've opened up, says his bants isn't malicious then uses choice words whilst playing Mr Nice guy with everyone else, I've laid it out to the one everyone goes to, cause there's a business side to it as well, so there's a leader so to speak, but he isn't bothered. It's my problem to deal with, I've tried to laugh at him, he's pathetic, must be threatened by my presence, bitches about others behind their back trying get me on side all time, likely to twist anything if things come to a head in future, but doesn't do it to their face, but will do it to me under their noses, he's currently been slyly making comments and I'm back to square 1, don't want anything to do with any of them because of 1 individual, I can't balance friendships with a cunt amongst the group. So back to being a recluse, it's more peaceful than putting up with humans anyhow. Learnt friendships aren't worth the effort anymore, clear efforts are not thrown my way fairly.
And part of me thinks, because they benefit from him in various ways, personal & business, I feel no one wants to rock the boat with him and tell him to chill it with me, cause they're scared of losing their slice of pie. Illegally has free money, lets leave it at that, so he can come to the rescue for people and it's all an act. Nothing more than a criminal masking to fit in with good people.
Come to realise with the behaviours going on from my over analysing Austism, that it's just another toxic group of people and I'm better off without.