Marriage before CTB

[EscapeFromLife]

Is getting married before CTB a good idea? Perhaps it can be a way of recovery--- but that's very HARD. Has anyone experienced it?

Probably getting married would make things worse-- for the existing issues that are leading to CTB. So, getting married can just make things more complicated. For example, the CTB can lead investigations to the in-laws and partner, whereas doing CTB when single may only lead investigations to own parents. But, I think leaving a suicide note saying "No one is responsible for by death" beside the body may resue everyone from investigation. What do you think?

 

[Traveller12724]

Is getting married before CTB a good idea? Perhaps it can be a way of recovery--- but that's very HARD. Has anyone experienced it?

Probably getting married would make things worse-- for the existing issues that are leading to CTB. So, getting married can just make things more complicated. For example, the CTB can lead investigations to the in-laws and partner, whereas doing CTB when single may only lead investigations to own parents. But, I think leaving a suicide note saying "No one is responsible for by death" beside the body may resue everyone from investigation. What do you think?

Bro you must be trolling, I mean who in their right mind would get married only to ctb right after ? Why would you want to put anybody through that ?

 

[Myforevercharlie]

I think putting someone through that is fucking horrible.
Did you ever think how this would effect your s.o.?

 

[rozeske]

There are better ways for recovery that don't involve marriage. Have you looked into those?

 

[who doesn't matter]

Oh no, never that. My first rule has been to never personally involve anyone in my life to that extent. I know my life is basically screwed and bringing someone else on this "joyride" would be beyond cruel.

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

That is fucking cruel. Why on earth would you put someone through that, knowing the entire time, you're going to kill yourself?

Other people are not responsible for your happiness. Having mental health difficulties, and then getting married doesn't magically make that go away.

It sounds like you don't want to actually ctb, so perhaps you should be working on yourself, and find others ways to heal, rather than bringing future partners into it.

 

[LunarLight]

If it's easier for your current partner to get your money if you get married, why not. But if you're single at the current time, no way, it's very selfish.

 

[Ihoujin]

That sounds reasonable. Get married, have a child, plant a tree. Life accomplished - logout.

 

[nozomu]

I got married as part of my attempt at recovery but nothing in my life actually changed. Same old fights, same old mistreatment. Same old I'm so starved so I must inhale the crumbs I get.

So I just set up legal avenues to mitigate my departure's impact.