Loved ones do not understand our suffering.

[strangelife]

When I tell my family that it is not possible to live with my disease, such a quality of life does not suit me in any way, they give examples of people who may be even worse and say that they live and nothing. I think they've just never been in our place and haven't felt it themselves, they can't understand us. Do your loved ones behave the same way? Do you talk to them about your suffering?

 

[Throwawayacc3]

When I tell my family that it is not possible to live with my disease, such a quality of life does not suit me in any way, they give examples of people who may be even worse and say that they live and nothing. I think they've just never been in our place and haven't felt it themselves, they can't understand us. Do your loved ones behave the same way? Do you talk to them about your suffering?

You know what you reply? If that's the case then why did you have a child? Is it a competition to see how can compete for the "worst outcome".

It'll either 1: shut them up
2: question their sanity
3: get angry and defensive

 

[strangelife]

Unfortunately, I no longer have parents, and I hear these words from my brother. Mentally, I am healthy and I was always happy until I got sick. I did not voice to my loved ones that I want CTB, but I voice that my life could not stand that in the case of CTB they would not blame themselves, that only my illness was to blame, that I could not accept such an existence

 

[juna]

I talked to my parents and tell them what I feel, how I feel that I can't continue for much longer anymore, at this point they just think I am not serious. They are incapable of understanding anything. Their solution is always visit us as if that would solve anything. If I am around them, I feel even more sadder, they stress me so much. Or they will say go to a doctor as if the doctor can solve anything. It is rightly said "Only one who has suffered can truly understand suffering". That's why I love this site, it gives me a way to see other people who are going through something similar. Makes me feel just a bit less lonely.

 

[strangelife]

But it turns out that if they say that others who are worse off still live, it will mean in their understanding that I am showing weakness

I talked to my parents and tell them what I feel, how I feel that I can't continue for much longer anymore, at this point they just think I am not serious. They are incapable of understanding anything. Their solution is always visit us as if that would solve anything. If I am around them, I feel even more sadder, they stress me so much. Or they will say go to a doctor as if the doctor can solve anything. It is rightly said "Only one who has suffered can truly understand suffering". That's why I love this site, it gives me a way to see other people who are going through something similar. Makes me feel just a bit less lonely.

They really don't understand us. They didn't suffer like us
I believe that if life really couldn't stand it and there is no way to fix it, then CTB is the act of a brave and decent person, because a decent person did not deserve such a terrible existence.

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

You know what you reply? If that's the case then why did you have a child? Is it a competition to see how can compete for the "worst outcome".

It'll either 1: shut them up
2: question their sanity
3: get angry and defensive

That is what I did! Told "loved ones" to shut up and questioned their sanity. People should not procreate if they don´t want others to die. There is only selfishness and cruelty behind forcing someone to live and suffer. Health problems and death can occur at any age. Unfortunately, we live in an age when humans are forced to live - in a world where we all must die.

 

[theboy]

true

 

[annxietty]

Im sorry to hear you are sick.
One thing you learn is that people that love you often tell you to be honest with them "just tell me if something bothers you", its a lie, because If you tell them the truth they will feel bad, nobody wants to feel bad, so when they say that, they hope you say "Im ok, thank you". This doesnt mean they dont love you, everyone is selfish in their own way, EVERYONE. Answering your question, I think most of us relate with you, they dont understand, you know what they want to hear and many times you are going to answer those things even if they are not true just so you dont feel like a burden to them... Its sad, but I still havent found anything that made me change my mind on this: we are alone, A L O N E.
"Just call me when you have an urge to hurt yourself" then you call and its "I have problems too, you are so selfish, have you stopped to think about how am I doing?" Ive lost count of how many times I fell for this... and you have to constantly remember yourself "they love you" because there is this voice telling you "nobody loves you"...
Again, Im sorry you have to go through this, I wish you find peace within your decisions.

 

[Timothy7dff]

If you've never been suicidal, you have no idea.

 

[LunarLight]

Most people can't understand my suffering, and it's normal, because they can't imagine how much I suffer, they're not in my shoes.
My partner understands. They're begging me to stay, to try rTMS and ECT, but they understand, because they live with me everyday, and they see how much I suffer, rotting in bed, crying loudly.