Love is never going to happen for me suicide is the only way out now

[FireFox]

I turn 27 in two weeks I can't stop crying over the fact I am never going to meet a man and find love. All my life I have only known male rejection even before I was born my father didn't want me and saw another family he left us for as better. At school I was the weird social outsider girl who struggled to fit in and regularly got builled while all the other girls at school got asked out. I have the natrual confidence to talk to people, good at remembering names and I am extroverted but still no guy ever shows interest in me. I even experienced guys I liked constantly humiliating me at school, pretending to like me as joke for thier friends and in adulthood all I got was nothing but rejection from guys. I ask guys out when I was at university at the last minute they always dumped me. It never works out with any guy I want all I get is hurt, rejected and never ever picked. I wish for once a man loves me and I can be picked and be that man special woman. A lifetime of rejection has finally become too much all I wanted was to be loved. I am sick of going to places by myself and not having a man with me every where I go its couples. I am just all by myself.

So much love to give but nobody wants it. Seeing everyone I grew up with getting married its a reminder of how I have never had real male love and appreciation. Its so hard because all I want is be loved and to give love.

I watched so many YouTube videos which explain once your 30 a woman has hit the wall and NO man will data you anymore. Its all too late for me no man will want because I have never a boyfriend so its a red flag.

I can't cope anymore which the rejection, being overlooked and never being picked. All I have known is male rejection since I was born. I can't do it anymore.

I don't want to be the unwanted woman anymore. I have been unwanted all my life by men. Suicide is my only option I have right now because being a single woman society doesn't care about me and there is no help for us. This world is made for couples

 

[derpyderpins]

This is a really crappy feeling to have, and I'm sorry you're going through it. I don't know you, personally, but I'll say at 27 it's definitely not too late based on age. I'm not going to tell you you're beautiful and any guy would be lucky to have you, because I don't know you so that would be insincere.

Some things I can tell you:

• As far as those youtube videos, the redpill men who would NEVER date a woman at 30 or over is a pretty small group.
• Also, for men (at least in my experience), no boyfriend before is a selling point, not a red flag.
• The history with your dad really sucks, but you have to know that his failure doesn't say anything about you. And, yes, it was a failure. He failed. Not you.
• While I don't know you, the odds of you being so repulsive no man would be interested is pretty low. The sexual marketplace is good for women right now.

I agree with you that love is a great thing, but you're not even close to the point where you should give up on it. For now, I'd just have the goal of going on some simple dates to "get in the groove." Don't try to force love on the first guy who shows interest. You can take your time and pick someone good.

 

[EternalShore]

I'm so sorry this has happened to you~ :( Being without a man is one of the worst experiences ever~ :( I ran to the first guy I could get and was definitely abused by him! >_< I wish you well in your pursuit for love and hope you find a guy who truly resonates with you~ And the marriage jealousy is already killing me inside too and hardly anyone my age is married yet (I'm much younger than you~)! >_<
And truly, those boys who pulled all those pranks on you and stuff are so evil! :/ I don't even get why they would do such a thing! so cruel~ :(

 

[melancholymallory03]

I turn 27 in two weeks I can't stop crying over the fact I am never going to meet a man and find love. All my life I have only known male rejection even before I was born my father didn't want me and saw another family he left us for as better. At school I was the weird social outsider girl who struggled to fit in and regularly got builled while all the other girls at school got asked out. I have the natrual confidence to talk to people, good at remembering names and I am extroverted but still no guy ever shows interest in me. I even experienced guys I liked constantly humiliating me at school, pretending to like me as joke for thier friends and in adulthood all I got was nothing but rejection from guys. I ask guys out when I was at university at the last minute they always dumped me. It never works out with any guy I want all I get is hurt, rejected and never ever picked. I wish for once a man loves me and I can be picked and be that man special woman. A lifetime of rejection has finally become too much all I wanted was to be loved. I am sick of going to places by myself and not having a man with me every where I go its couples. I am just all by myself.

So much love to give but nobody wants it. Seeing everyone I grew up with getting married its a reminder of how I have never had real male love and appreciation. Its so hard because all I want is be loved and to give love.

I watched so many YouTube videos which explain once your 30 a woman has hit the wall and NO man will data you anymore. Its all too late for me no man will want because I have never a boyfriend so its a red flag.

I can't cope anymore which the rejection, being overlooked and never being picked. All I have known is male rejection since I was born. I can't do it anymore.

I don't want to be the unwanted woman anymore. I have been unwanted all my life by men. Suicide is my only option I have right now because being a single woman society doesn't care about me and there is no help for us. This world is made for couples

Hey do you have the means to travel? I know it's easier said than done , but possibly put yourself out there , I know it's hard for anxiety reasons but if you could somehow muster up some courage to go out , let people come to you instead of coming to them I heard works sometimes , like maybe eye contact but don't always give all of you're feelings so soon because this tends to scare people I've heard in therapy. My old therapist read me a book about a boa constrictor and then said , this is you when you're in love … lmao …..there's a lot more to the world than where you are, if you can get out and see the world and just do as much as you can, also don't worry so much about the looks of the person ( not assuming you do ) but have no expectations , just have fun. Go out and see the world , meet people without the intention of the first meet being a long term relationship , and then just let things unfold naturally. I promise , there is someone who will love you , and all your flaws . It's mathematically impossible in a world this big, you're just in the wrong place … and it could be the wrong time.

I have love for you because you're in this community if that means anything lmao which I know it dosent but just reminding you lol

You seem so full of love, and so likeable. Please if love is why you're feeling down, in a world full of cold people, the warm ones will stand out if you loook close enough . Protect your safety please, annd love slowly , love develops slowly annyhows I heard
all of this being said , I don't want anyone taking advantage of your kind heart. As people do in this cruel world sometimes ……
Also side note 30 seems like a perfect age to be in, from my side of things and I'm a younger woman who I feel like all the guys want , sex , fun , ( from what I see ) ( and not all )

and I don't judge but I think as times go on , people get older they understand the value of having a genuine person beside them, and if the sex is good that's just a bonus I suppose

 

[Regen]

I can understand you even if my biography is a little different.

I had a very long love for a man, but he treated me very badly and hid me from others and abused me. So I've never had normal, friendly love in my life and I really long for it.

However, the thing about the age of 30 is not true, I really don't believe everything that is said on the internet. I know many couples who only met later.

The problem is more your schema. You have only experienced male rejection in your life. So you unconsciously choose what you already know, namely men who reject you. Unfortunately, this deep-rooted trauma can almost always only be resolved through schema therapy or trauma therapy or something similar. Until you resolve the trauma at its root, i.e. your father's rejection, you probably won't find other men attractive and they won't find you attractive. Dissolving trauma and reconciling with your inner child can help a lot.

I really hope you feel loved and wanted!! I know how hard this can be...

 

[FireFox]

I can understand you even if my biography is a little different.

I had a very long love for a man, but he treated me very badly and hid me from others and abused me. So I've never had normal, friendly love in my life and I really long for it.

However, the thing about the age of 30 is not true, I really don't believe everything that is said on the internet. I know many couples who only met later.

The problem is more your schema. You have only experienced male rejection in your life. So you unconsciously choose what you already know, namely men who reject you. Unfortunately, this deep-rooted trauma can almost always only be resolved through schema therapy or trauma therapy or something similar. Until you resolve the trauma at its root, i.e. your father's rejection, you probably won't find other men attractive and they won't find you attractive. Dissolving trauma and reconciling with your inner child can help a lot.

I really hope you feel loved and wanted!! I know how hard this can be...

@Regen You are such a sweet person and you deserved so much better. People who abuse deserve no peaceful death. When it comes to euthanasia I strongly believe abusers should be denied euthanasia by the state as justice for the victims. The victim has to suffer with the trauma of the abuse til the day they die therefore it is fair the abusers has to live with the consequences of their actions until the day they die.

Thank you for being understanding of how it hurts to long for love. Your post it has been wonderful and reassuring to read.

I wish you well
FireFox :)

 

[vitbar]

Take it from a man who is over 30: Single women over 30 are not "past it", christ I've had interest in women even older. It's actually frustraiting how rarely I meet a woman around my age who is single.

 

[FireFox]

Hey do you have the means to travel? I know it's easier said than done , but possibly put yourself out there , I know it's hard for anxiety reasons but if you could somehow muster up some courage to go out , let people come to you instead of coming to them I heard works sometimes , like maybe eye contact but don't always give all of you're feelings so soon because this tends to scare people I've heard in therapy. My old therapist read me a book about a boa constrictor and then said , this is you when you're in love … lmao …..there's a lot more to the world than where you are, if you can get out and see the world and just do as much as you can, also don't worry so much about the looks of the person ( not assuming you do ) but have no expectations , just have fun. Go out and see the world , meet people without the intention of the first meet being a long term relationship , and then just let things unfold naturally. I promise , there is someone who will love you , and all your flaws . It's mathematically impossible in a world this big, you're just in the wrong place … and it could be the wrong time.

I have love for you because you're in this community if that means anything lmao which I know it dosent but just reminding you lol

You seem so full of love, and so likeable. Please if love is why you're feeling down, in a world full of cold people, the warm ones will stand out if you loook close enough . Protect your safety please, annd love slowly , love develops slowly annyhows I heard
all of this being said , I don't want anyone taking advantage of your kind heart. As people do in this cruel world sometimes ……
Also side note 30 seems like a perfect age to be in, from my side of things and I'm a younger woman who I feel like all the guys want , sex , fun , ( from what I see ) ( and not all )

and I don't judge but I think as times go on , people get older they understand the value of having a genuine person beside them, and if the sex is good that's just a bonus I suppose

@melancholymallory03 I go out visting museums, parks and exhibitions in the city I live in all myself since I don't have friends. I have travelled to aboard since my teens due to having my relatives living overseas.

When I vist a museum and it is so hard seeing the other couples together while I am alone. All I ever wonder is why I am I so hard to love and i feel like a freak and a failure of a woman because I have been always unsuccessful with men.

Being single I have experienced other women hating me and bullying me. Earlier this year I experienced bullying from other women who were single like me and now think they are better than everyone because they found a man.


I left a digital detox discord group that promotes wellness because some of the members were just judgmental people who blamed me for ALL my own problems of being single already knowing I was depressed and suicidal due to a lifetime of male rejection and being humiliated by men.

● One White woman let's call her A - She said I need to "put myself out there". I already explained I have the natural confidence to talk to people but all my life guys ignored me and dont want to know me. She responded saying "use dating apps". I explained I don't feel comfortable using dating apps because me being a black woman growing up my whole life I have experienced never being seen as pretty while racial groups got desired even men of my own race harassed me and abused me while they were always nicer to the white women and girls. I read dating apps have a very low succes rate for black women I don't want to go through a competition I won't win. She is a white woman, she doesn't get how hard it is for black women to find love due to society and men attracted to eurocentric standards of beauty.

She proceeds to criticise me for my poor "attitude" and how its my fault I am single. She went on about her experiences of not being attractive and having a facial swelling deformity and how she met her husband on a dating app. Not everyone is lucky as she is

Another woman let's call her B- she talked about her experiences of male rejection and how she "never let it get to her". She says she has husband now and how" I need to put myself out there". This same woman went on about the city we both live in having free therapy and how I am not trying. These free therapies and low cost options have restrictions which i dont meet criteria for. I have had issues navatigating healthcare in this country I am not going through it again.

● Another user let's call him C- He said how I need to go gym, "put myself out there" and wear make up. I don't need gym I slim build already and I am very feminine in how I dress. He kept acting as if it was so easy for a woman to find a man.

I left because the moderators didn't intervene in the bullying and other members stood by a did nothing. These people in the community regularly complained about how social media is harming society but they can't see they are part of the problem and perpetuate the system of social media bullying in their treatment of me.

Take it from a man who is over 30: Single women over 30 are not "past it", christ I've had interest in women even older. It's actually frustraiting how rarely I meet a woman around my age who is single.

@vitbar Thanks it is so reassuring. Turning 27 soon with my life not being on track mentally I feel like I can't cope anymore and overwhelmed with it all.

27 is a great age to be, most people peak peak mentality at 25 or so and as a woman you have plenty of options.

My guess is either your standards are too high and/or you're overweight.

Most men just want a simple quiet life, with no drama and in so many ways less is more.

There's countless women ruining their appearance with tattoos, piercings, dyed hair, plastic surgery, massive amounts of make up or even weird clothes. Men really don't respond to any of these things other than a minimal amount of makeup. They do however appreciate it when a woman is in shape, the whole fat positivity crap is a lie.

@Aloneandinpain NO I am an not overweight and no I don't have high expectations. I am feminine in my appearance and open minded. I feel in love with a 55 year old man who turned out to be a horrible man. I didn't care he had grey hairs and false teeth I still loved him anyway and wanted a future with them.

Modern men my age are waayy too entitled compared to previous generations, it is the truth which nobody wants to admit. The problem is because of wider acess to pornography and availability of sex work Morden men have higher demands of what a woman should look like. There is a reason why more women my age getting filler and botox and implants it is because this is what is popular in society and matches what males want due to pornstars and sex workers have this enhanced look.

My looks are on the average spectrum and having black hair, brown skin and dark eyes puts me at an enormous disadvantage because it doesn't stand out the way blondes, red headed and brunettes stand out. Research has even found black women have lower sucess rates on dating apps .

Again men like you sit and there judge when they are not in the position themselves and living my reality

 

[EvisceratedJester]

The whole "once a woman hits their 30s nobody wants to date them" crap is basically just bullshit spewed by insecure weirdos in order to make others feel bad about themselves. It's not true at all, and I should know since my mom was still getting hit on in her 30s. Hell, she's already had guys hit on her during her trip back to her home country (prior to the one we are on now) and she's 40. Most guys, and just people in general, don't care about that crap. It's only creeps who make a big deal over this type of stuff. A lot of people also don't start noticing a peak in their attractiveness until their 30s.

People like to make a big deal over romantic relationships and getting hit on but in reality none of it matters. In most cases, even if guys started to slobber over you, you'd probably still feel miserable. I used to feel like shit over having never been hit on (outside of two instances from back when I was a child). I wanted to be desired so badly that it (along with some other things I was going through) led to me wanting to have all sorts of awful things happen to me. I'm only just now learning to try and let go of those thoughts and not give a shit about being desired anymore.

I got hit on around last week, I got catcalled for the first time in the fall, and, while out at lunch with my mom and her friend, my mom pointed out the fact that a lot of men kept on staring at me. This didn't make me feel good about myself. It didn't make me feel happy despite these things being the type of stuff I used to want to happen to me. Even when I had someone confess their love for me and beg me to be their girlfriend I still felt like shit and was unable to accept their feelings for me. It was never enough. Nothing was ever enough. I posted all sorts of shit for random dudes online all to satisfy my desire to be desired and it only led to me feeling worse. I've even done something awful that I can never forgive myself for all because how desperate I was to chase that feeling because I wanted to believe that it would make me at least somewhat happy and fill the void inside of me.

My point is that you are chasing something that likely won't provide you with any long-lasting happiness because your issues go beyond just dating troubles. Despite what people like to say, being in a relationship doesn't necessarily lead to happiness and there are a lot of cases of single women who lead very good lives. I'm sorry that you've been rejected and even humiliated by so many boys and men throughout your life, that must be an awful thing to go through. I know that there is a lot of pressure on people to have a relationship and that romantic relationships are incredibly glorified but there is a good chance that a romantic relationship won't be enough for you, because your issues run much deeper than that.

My guess is either your standards are too high and/or you're overweight.

Oh, how I love when random dudes online assume that if a woman has problems with finding a date then it must be because her standards are too high, even though most women don't really have high dating standards to begin with. As we all know, men who are picky when it comes to dating don't exist and men will date anyone (so long as you arent a fatso). Sure, let's ignore the fact that the OP has already mentioned on multiple occasions that some of the guys who've rejected her were also incredibly racist towards her afterwards and that there is a huge issue with black women being both hypersexualized but also treated like trash by others and seen as undesirable outside of being treated like objects. Men are simple creatures, but all women have super high standards that no one can reach./s

Most women have incredibly low standards yet we still constantly told that our standards are too high. The OP is having dating issues and your response is to immediately assume that it's because they have high standards and that they are overweight, seriously? Why even bother making a post if that's what you are running with?

 

[melancholymallory03]

@melancholymallory03 I go out visting museums, parks and exhibitions in the city I live in all myself since I don't have friends. I have travelled to aboard since my teens due to having my relatives living overseas.

When I vist a museum and it is so hard seeing the other couples together while I am alone. All I ever wonder is why I am I so hard to love and i feel like a freak and a failure of a woman because I have been always unsuccessful with men.

Being single I have experienced other women hating me and bullying me. Earlier this year I experienced bullying from other women who were single like me and now think they are better than everyone because they found a man.


I left a digital detox discord group that promotes wellness because some of the members were just judgmental people who blamed me for ALL my own problems of being single already knowing I was depressed and suicidal due to a lifetime of male rejection and being humiliated by men.

● One White woman let's call her A - She said I need to "put myself out there". I already explained I have the natural confidence to talk to people but all my life guys ignored me and dont want to know me. She responded saying "use dating apps". I explained I don't feel comfortable using dating apps because me being a black woman growing up my whole life I have experienced never being seen as pretty while racial groups got desired even men of my own race harassed me and abused me while they were always nicer to the white women and girls. I read dating apps have a very low succes rate for black women I don't want to go through a competition I won't win. She is a white woman, she doesn't get how hard it is for black women to find love due to society and men attracted to eurocentric standards of beauty.

She proceeds to criticise me for my poor "attitude" and how its my fault I am single. She went on about her experiences of not being attractive and having a facial swelling deformity and how she met her husband on a dating app. Not everyone is lucky as she is

Another woman let's call her B- she talked about her experiences of male rejection and how she "never let it get to her". She says she has husband now and how" I need to put myself out there". This same woman went on about the city we both live in having free therapy and how I am not trying. These free therapies and low cost options have restrictions which i dont meet criteria for. I have had issues navatigating healthcare in this country I am not going through it again.

● Another user let's call him C- He said how I need to go gym, "put myself out there" and wear make up. I don't need gym I slim build already and I am very feminine in how I dress. He kept acting as if it was so easy for a woman to find a man.

I left because the moderators didn't intervene in the bullying and other members stood by a did nothing. These people in the community regularly complained about how social media is harming society but they can't see they are part of the problem and perpetuate the system of social media bullying in their treatment of me.

@vitbar Thanks it is so reassuring. Turning 27 soon with my life not being on track mentally I feel like I can't cope anymore and overwhelmed with it all.

@Aloneandinpain NO I am an not overweight and no I don't have high expectations. I am feminine in my appearance and open minded. I feel in love with a 55 year old man who turned out to be a horrible man. I didn't care he had grey hairs and false teeth I still loved him anyway and wanted a future with them.

Modern men my age are waayy too entitled compared to previous generations, it is the truth which nobody wants to admit. The problem is because of wider acess to pornography and availability of sex work Morden men have higher demands of what a woman should look like. There is a reason why more women my age getting filler and botox and implants it is because this is what is popular in society and matches what males want due to pornstars and sex workers have this enhanced look.

My looks are on the average spectrum and having black hair, brown skin and dark eyes puts me at an enormous disadvantage because it doesn't stand out the way blondes, red headed and brunettes stand out. Research has even found black women have lower sucess rates on dating apps .

Again men like you sit and there judge when they are not in the position themselves and living my reality

I'm so sorry this isnyoure experience , nobody deserves this and it sounds so alienating:( I can see that you've tried many things and put yourself out there ,sorry if my response wasn't helpful - I can relate to having issues with dating .. I always wonder what's wrong with me… arranged marriage is an option for me through my dads side but I don't feel right doing it and at this point in time I'd rather just allow myself to be alone then hurt being with someone who is probably going to reject me. I don't like the misconception that it's super easy to get a partner but I do think certain efforts could be made to increase one's chance possibly, and social skills probably play a role in this. Which I don't have very great ones so I cannot always keep a partner ….


I'm wishing you peace on you're journeyand peace from you're suffering

 

[AkaRed]

Hey. I may be younger than you by some years (20) but I am having the exact same issue. I swear everywhere I go now is just always surrounded by couples and it makes me feel so, so alone. So unlovable.

I don't know what's wrong with me either, its so confusing and I just want something to happen. Literally anything.

Please know you are not alone in this feeling, I am genuinely having the exact same issue as you and this post really spoke to me because I relate deeply to it. Sending you so much love and support, I know it won't do much but I'll try anyways.

Life truly isn't fair and loneliness (especially romantically) is one of my biggest reasons for wanting to CTB.

<3

 

[OICU812]

This is one of the saddest posts I have ever read on here. I can't even imagine going through a lifetime of rejection. I wish I could give you some advice or some words of comfort.

You do have one big positive in your life right now. You're almost 27 years old, and time is on your side. Seriously, I would give anything to go back in time to be 27 again. Don't listen to those YouTubers who say once a woman is 30 she's hit a wall and no man will date her anymore. That's not true at all. I bet the people making these clickbait videos are stupid misogynistic men who are over 30!

Twice I found love when I least expected it. I truly wish that you can experience love one day. The way I look at it, your man is still out there just waiting to be found by you.

 

[FireFox]

Hey. I may be younger than you by some years (20) but I am having the exact same issue. I swear everywhere I go now is just always surrounded by couples and it makes me feel so, so alone. So unlovable.

I don't know what's wrong with me either, its so confusing and I just want something to happen. Literally anything.

Please know you are not alone in this feeling, I am genuinely having the exact same issue as you and this post really spoke to me because I relate deeply to it. Sending you so much love and support, I know it won't do much but I'll try anyways.

Life truly isn't fair and loneliness (especially romantically) is one of my biggest reasons for wanting to CTB.

<3

@AkaRed Being single is so lonely but social media, women's lifestyle magazines and blogs along with celebrities and influencers promote being single as a cool lifestyle and preach how a "woman doesnt need a man". These woman have already had multiple relationships so don't understand how it feels to go through your entire life being never picked and the psychological damage it does.

I am 26 but mentally I have a maturity of a teenage girl who never had a boyfriend. Never having a boyfriend I feel like a girl who never got a chance to grow into a real woman but majority of women my age don't understand it.

Other women even tell me I am "lucky" that I am single and not missing much. A woman can whinge about bow boring or useless her man is and get sympathy but if you talk about the sadness of being single other women don't feel sorry for you, dismiss you and worst of all make you feel like there is something wrong with you for being upset.

r/twoxchromosomes - I posed on a reddit sub community r/twoxchromosomes about my persistent sadness over being single while seeing other women i grew up with getting married and being successful with men.
None of the thousands of women who were active on that sub didn't even respond to my posts but whenever a woman posts about how awful, lazy or useless or an arsehole her boyfriend or husband is it gets over a thousand likes and so many responses along with support. Another time I posted about how I can't cope anymore with the years of make rejection I have experienced. The women on the sub pretty much looked down upon me for wanting a loving relationship with a man and told me how being single woman is cool.

I am expected to be grateful for the thing that has caused me a lifetime of misery to the point I want to die.

This is one of the saddest posts I have ever read on here. I can't even imagine going through a lifetime of rejection. I wish I could give you some advice or some words of comfort.

You do have one big positive in your life right now. You're almost 27 years old, and time is on your side. Seriously, I would give anything to go back in time to be 27 again. Don't listen to those YouTubers who say once a woman is 30 she's hit a wall and no man will date her anymore. That's not true at all. I bet the people making these clickbait videos are stupid misogynistic men who are over 30!

Twice I found love when I least expected it. I truly wish that you can experience love one day. The way I look at it, your man is still out there just waiting to be found by you.

@OICU812 Being single there is no social support which is why I have struggled even more with being single in my 20s. I have used reddit and discord to open up about being single even in women's spaces I get judged, dismissed over my feelings. I have used so many reddit subs in my country and other large communities including women's spaces. I wish I never reached out for help. I regret it.

● Casual UK- The British men were blaming me for being single just because I an antinatalist and post threads in r/antinatalism of my beliefs. Meanwhile the British women were like "single is not bad"
The arsehole men kept going through my post history and I post a lot of Feminist and antinatalism threads. These men called me a terrible person just because I believe it is immoral to bring children into this world.

● two x chromosomes - I posed on a reddit sub community r/twoxchromosomes about my persistent sadness over being single while seeing other women i grew up with getting married and being successful with men.
None of the thousands of women who were active on that sub didn't even respond to my posts but whenever a woman posts about how awful, lazy or useless or an arsehole her boyfriend or husband is it gets over a thousand likes and so many responses along with support. Another time I posted about how I can't cope anymore with the years of make rejection I have experienced. The women on the sub pretty much looked down upon me for wanting a loving relationship with a man and told me how being single woman is cool.

●Ask women over 30 useless sub the responses were all the same old phrases " single is not bad, " you are not missing much", "love yourself"

● black ladies- OK but it is frustrating how the users at times question whether or not if i went to white school whenever I mention I am from the UK. The black women who are mainly from USA believe if i live in a multicultural city i can get a man.

I grew up and live in a multicultural city black men and teenage boys too in the in the UK date mainly white or asain or mixed race women and girls. I experienced the worst misogynistic abuse from black males at school I attended. The black boys at school made fun of the black girls appearances but where were always nicer to the white girls.

● forever alone women sub has repetitive threads complaining and having resentment over attractive women having it easy which gets tiresome after a while. One of the moderators is a massive femcel bully who stalks peoples posts and uses it against them. Other women have even mentioned the reason why they left that sub was because of the behaviour of the moderators. I have been reading other women's experiences it is shocking why women leave the sub.

 

[AkaRed]

@AkaRed Being single is so lonely but social media, women's lifestyle magazines and blogs along with celebrities and influencers promote being single as a cool lifestyle and preach how a "woman doesnt need a man". These woman have already had multiple relationships so don't understand how it feels to go through your entire life being never picked and the psychological damage it does.

I am 26 but mentally I have a maturity of a teenage girl who never had a boyfriend. Never having a boyfriend I feel like a girl who never got a chance to grow into a real woman but majority of women my age don't understand it.

Other women even tell me I am "lucky" that I am single and not missing much. A woman can whinge about bow boring or useless her man is and get sympathy but if you talk about the sadness of being single other women don't feel sorry for you, dismiss you and worst of all make you feel like there is something wrong with you for being upset.

r/twoxchromosomes - I posed on a reddit sub community r/twoxchromosomes about my persistent sadness over being single while seeing other women i grew up with getting married and being successful with men.
None of the thousands of women who were active on that sub didn't even respond to my posts but whenever a woman posts about how awful, lazy or useless or an arsehole her boyfriend or husband is it gets over a thousand likes and so many responses along with support. Another time I posted about how I can't cope anymore with the years of make rejection I have experienced. The women on the sub pretty much looked down upon me for wanting a loving relationship with a man and told me how being single woman is cool.

I am expected to be grateful for the thing that has caused me a lifetime of misery to the point I want to die.

No you're so right with this!
I think one of the most triggering things for me is when women (who are in fucking relationships) try and give you advice like: "Ohhh if you stop looking it'll come to you" "Relationships aren't that importanttt" "Don't worry about itttt" "I'm sure you'll fine someoneee"

Like SHUT. THE. FUCK. UP!!!


It's so ignorant and selfish and it drives me up the wall. I can't take any social media posts seriously that promote a 'single lifestyle' because I know I feel incredibly unfulfilled being constantly single, and there's only so much 'me-time' I can handle.
I do also struggle with being physically isolated and don't really have IRLs, but I do feel that even with IRLs to hang out with, I'd still be struggling with romantic loneliness. I'm not necessarily asking for the perfect man to sweep me off my feet, I just want to be loved- even if it's sporadic and takes time to find someone who fits.

I envy girls who are able to find new relationships easily, and always seem to have some sort of active dating life. They don't relate because they always have someone wanting them eventually, they're always being fulfilled in one way or another.
When you don't have that, it really eats away at your soul and sends you spiralling.

I know I need to meet more people, but I do have struggles when it comes to that. Mostly location based, and being an adult doesn't make it much easier. I also don't have any co-workers my own age- as lovely as my current ones are.
It's a real struggle out here man.

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