so my main reason for wanting to CTB has gathered a lot of opinions in terms of being invalidated. While you're entitled to your views, every single person that's tried to compare my situation to what they "felt in the past" about someone they deeply loved has been just laughable and idiotic to read. I've noticed a lot of people making comparisons and invalidating this are much much older, and seem to think we still live in the 1960s… news flash, we don't.
Love will always be a valid reason for CTB in my view and this whole "you'll find someone else" trope truly makes me question if the ones invalidating me are even truly happy. Settling versus truly enjoying a person and having compatibility are vastly different. My standards are high because I've always applied the same pressure so please, don't feed this lie that "we can always find someone else". You may be able to, but that doesn't mean you're compatible. It seems a lot of you "found another" and simply settled for that out of being lonely and that's not the same situation as mine. Has it ever occurred to those of you invalidating us in terms of this that maybe some of us are decent enough people to not just get hitched with a random person because we are lonely?
Aside from high standards, I love this person truly. Just because a majority of you hop from one dick or vagina to the next and settle for scraps doesn't mean the rest of us do and even if we found someone exactly like what we lost, there is still no guarantee we would be able to feel what we had for the one we fell in love with.
A lot of you share your stories and I laugh because they are so opposite of what me and others are going through yet some of you think it's the exact same and it isn't. Come back to those of us going through this when you truly found love again and didn't just settle because you grew up in a time where marriage was a must.
I hate to tell you, but that's not love. Did deluding yourselves for these last 30 years help you feel better?
A lot of us may be young, but we aren't the same generation as you. A lot of you invalidating us have zero idea how the world is now and that's why it's so funny when you try to compare. CTB because of love isn't something someone does lightly; there's a reason someone would be compelled to do that over someone. And having slight suicidal thoughts over someone you THOUGHT you loved is not the same thing as being internally destroyed for years and trying to take physical action because of what you lost…. CTB for any reason is valid, regardless of how you see it, and if you're here to judge someone's reasons for wanting self termination, why are you here? Why are you in a forum that preaches open mindedness when it comes to CTB? The fact a lot of you think there is an endless supply of love just displays to me how narrow minded and deluded you are by your own generational propaganda that was spoon fed to you.
Compatability matters. That's where I'm leaving this.
Love will always be a valid reason for CTB in my view and this whole "you'll find someone else" trope truly makes me question if the ones invalidating me are even truly happy. Settling versus truly enjoying a person and having compatibility are vastly different. My standards are high because I've always applied the same pressure so please, don't feed this lie that "we can always find someone else". You may be able to, but that doesn't mean you're compatible. It seems a lot of you "found another" and simply settled for that out of being lonely and that's not the same situation as mine. Has it ever occurred to those of you invalidating us in terms of this that maybe some of us are decent enough people to not just get hitched with a random person because we are lonely?
Aside from high standards, I love this person truly. Just because a majority of you hop from one dick or vagina to the next and settle for scraps doesn't mean the rest of us do and even if we found someone exactly like what we lost, there is still no guarantee we would be able to feel what we had for the one we fell in love with.
A lot of you share your stories and I laugh because they are so opposite of what me and others are going through yet some of you think it's the exact same and it isn't. Come back to those of us going through this when you truly found love again and didn't just settle because you grew up in a time where marriage was a must.
I hate to tell you, but that's not love. Did deluding yourselves for these last 30 years help you feel better?
A lot of us may be young, but we aren't the same generation as you. A lot of you invalidating us have zero idea how the world is now and that's why it's so funny when you try to compare. CTB because of love isn't something someone does lightly; there's a reason someone would be compelled to do that over someone. And having slight suicidal thoughts over someone you THOUGHT you loved is not the same thing as being internally destroyed for years and trying to take physical action because of what you lost…. CTB for any reason is valid, regardless of how you see it, and if you're here to judge someone's reasons for wanting self termination, why are you here? Why are you in a forum that preaches open mindedness when it comes to CTB? The fact a lot of you think there is an endless supply of love just displays to me how narrow minded and deluded you are by your own generational propaganda that was spoon fed to you.
Compatability matters. That's where I'm leaving this.
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