Venting Losing Weight

[DevonBostick'sAss]

Its been 25 days since I started my diet. I consume less than 100 calories a day. Ive been bloated because of my period. I lost 8 kg but I assume its more than 8 kgs cuz Im in my period and Im bloated. When my period ends I will weigh myself and If I lost less than 10kgs Im scared of hurting myself. I dont want that. Ive been clean for 5 weeks. I just want to be skinny and fit into cute clothes while not looking like a pig.

For once In my life I dont want to be the fattest girl in my class ,friend group, school , family. I want to look good. I want compliments. I want to see my collarbones my rib cage. I wanna be called pretty not big boned.

Ofc there are ppl who are attracted to me atm. But they only lust over me. I dont want lust. I want love not even in a romantic way. I wanna feel loved and I wanna know that people wont judge me when they look at me. I bet my friends think that Im too fat when I dress in a certain way but they dont tell me that. I can see that in their eyes.

They realized that Im losing weight and they know that I dont eat and they try to stop me. They offer me food. They say dont do it. They look weird to me .

I dont even wanna be THAT skinny. I wanna look normal. I wanna be normal. If i eat I wont be able to stop. Im too close to my goal weight. I dont wanna give up.

I wanna be pretty. I want to be normal.

 

[사람이 없어]

Very doable, though there are better and worse ways to do it.
Not sure if you want advice or if this is just a vent, so I'll keep it short, but:

1. Work your muscle. It'll tone up your body, keep you learner and work as a glucose sink
2. Fasting is good, but do have some healthy re-feed days every now and then instead of starving yourself for days and days on end. (The leaner you get the more this part is important)
3. Protein! You don't want to lose muscles, because if you do it'll be much harder to stay lean, stay as functional and healthy, and you're more likely to regain all the lost muscle as fat further compounding into big issues down the road (see also GLP-1 agonists like Ozempic or Wegovy causing this issue)
4. Diet also plays a huge factor, if not the biggest factor. Avoid anything ultra processed if you're easily predisposed to addiction like I am. You're fighting a war you cannot win. Focus on healthy whole foods, meats, fruits, greens primarily.
5. Sleep/Stress/Emotional management is a huge one as well. Many people (including me) use e.g. food to cope with our feelings and to celebrate things. Finding alternatives to eating can help a lot, but it'll take some time to find what works for you. Poor sleep will also make you way more likely to make poor food decisions and make your blood glucose control increasingly worse.

I know how it is. I've been there, maybe in your exact shoes. I went from heavily overweight to borderline anorexic where I still saw myself as fat at the time.
Eventually I somehow started focusing on health and it's been a huge help for me staying lean in a healthy way, healthy and active.
I do still binge and abuse food, but doing it a few times a month compared to my worst when it was daily? Big W in my book.

Wishing you all the best. And sorry if I said too much.

 

[DevonBostick'sAss]

Very doable, though there are better and worse ways to do it.
Not sure if you want advice or if this is just a vent, so I'll keep it short, but:

1. Work your muscle. It'll tone up your body, keep you learner and work as a glucose sink
2. Fasting is good, but do have some healthy re-feed days every now and then instead of starving yourself for days and days on end. (The leaner you get the more this part is important)
3. Protein! You don't want to lose muscles, because if you do it'll be much harder to stay lean, stay as functional and healthy, and you're more likely to regain all the lost muscle as fat further compounding into big issues down the road (see also GLP-1 agonists like Ozempic or Wegovy causing this issue)
4. Diet also plays a huge factor, if not the biggest factor. Avoid anything ultra processed if you're easily predisposed to addiction like I am. You're fighting a war you cannot win. Focus on healthy whole foods, meats, fruits, greens primarily.
5. Sleep/Stress/Emotional management is a huge one as well. Many people (including me) use e.g. food to cope with our feelings and to celebrate things. Finding alternatives to eating can help a lot, but it'll take some time to find what works for you. Poor sleep will also make you way more likely to make poor food decisions and make your blood glucose control increasingly worse.

I know how it is. I've been there, maybe in your exact shoes. I went from heavily overweight to borderline anorexic where I still saw myself as fat at the time.
Eventually I somehow started focusing on health and it's been a huge help for me staying lean in a healthy way, healthy and active.
I do still binge and abuse food, but doing it a few times a month compared to my worst when it was daily? Big W in my book.

Wishing you all the best. And sorry if I said too much.

Thank you so much for this!! Is there a way to maintain the weight after the diet ends? Like I said Im close to my goal weight but I dont know If ı should keep eating or not once Im in my goal weight.
I was thinking about eating 1k cals and 10k steps and once a week i get to eat a fast food for a day. This is my after diet plan do you think this will help me maintain my weight

 

[Forveleth]

I am saying this with all the care a stranger on the internet can give, this is not healthy in so many ways.

You are losing weight to "look good". You seem to be very concerned about outside perception and body shape. This leads to a dark path of obsession over food and weight. You should never lose weight for external validation. You should be losing weight to be healthy and only because you truly want to be that way.

Eating 100cal/day or even 1000cal/day is NOT healthy. You are severely underrating. This is not sustainable and not a good way to go about losing weight. This shows you have a very unhealthy relationship with food which means you long-term weight loss goals will probably never be met.

As a result of the above, I would highly suggest you talk to a professional about your views around your body and your relationship with food. There is something else going on in your head that will not be solved with losing a few kg.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

First off, being skinny won't provide you with love. Love doesn't work like that. Somebody who truly loves won't care about whether or not you are fat or skinny because their attraction to you runs deeper than that.

Secondly, the way how you are going about losing weight is all wrong and incredibly unhealthy. You should be consuming more than 100 calories per day. This type of weight loss method usually ends in the person gaining back all that weight after hitting their goal because it isn't sustainable long-term. Healthy weight loss is meant to be slow and gradual and involves trying to change certain eating and lifestyle habits over time in order to ensure both a healthy relationship with food and long-term results. What you are doing is going to fuck you up.

It doesn't matter how skinny you are because you'll always feel like shit about yourself if you don't address the actual root of your body-image issues and work towards a state of acceptance and body neutrality. Sure, you think that being skinny will make you feel great but what if you just end up jumping from one insecurity to another? What if it doesn't make you as happy as you thought it would? People are actually quite bad at predicting their future emotional states after certain events, overestimating how good or bad something will make them feel.

If you want to lose weight then I can't stop you, but please at least try to do it in a healthy manner.

 

[사람이 없어]

Thank you so much for this!! Is there a way to maintain the weight after the diet ends? Like I said Im close to my goal weight but I dont know If ı should keep eating or not once Im in my goal weight.
I was thinking about eating 1k cals and 10k steps and once a week i get to eat a fast food for a day. This is my after diet plan do you think this will help me maintain my weight

1000kcal is a very, very small amount!
That's not sustainable long term and might cause issues like losing your period, hair, have fatigue, feeling chronically cold, brain fog etc down the road. I say this as someone who used to eat 800-1200kcal herself a day when I was in my "close to anorexic" phase, and this is as someone who is 180cm tall.
You also mention 10K steps a day, which further cuts into your energy deficit. ;~;
Definitely not healthy!
Now I am not saying you should eat 3000-4000kcal a day,,but you should try to find a healthy spot where you feel great, look good and have energy and can to do the things you want to do.
How much that is varies by the invidual, their health history, and even diet to a certain extent.
I've personally maintaned eating 4000-5000kcal a day for many weeks on end (I love my heavy cream at times) at my most, while doing a strict ketogenic diet, and likewise maintained (read: kept myself alive) on 800-1200kcal a day at my lowest, where I had a really hard time losing more and felt awful the entire time, and cold, so cold, lol.
I don't know your health history, current weight, height, diet, exercise regimen and daily life but generally as a girl you generally want to start at around ~2000kcal a day and monitor changes over time (weeks) to adjust either up or down, but again I don't know you so I am really just guessing here.
You can use something like a TDEE calculator as well which is going to be more precise than what I said here.
There's also the alternative of just eating intuitively which is the ideal, but that requires you to know what food you can eat safely without going into a full on binge, or over-eating because the food is so delicious, and this can be really tricky for a lot of people.
And yes, this even includes having an e.g. steak with some BBQ sauce on it.
The sauce will be filled with a lot of ingredients (some chemical maybe) and sugar which will make you overeat on even a steak because it's so good you cannot stop. (Definitely been there myself many times. Some sauces can be amazing, especially certain ones in mind from Korea, or even plain gochujang ngl)
Now try that with even more delicious things like pasta, potato, rice, bread with sauces and a lot of additives and sides you mix with them and you can see where people start to overeat heavily and over months and years you suddenly pack on the weight.

As for the once a week fast food day, maybe!
I say maybe because what does a day mean? Do we talk a single dinner where you have some delicious cake and a pizza and then stay healthy rest of the week? Or an entire day where you go full on binging on your breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks.
Then there's food addiction, knowing myself and many other food addicts we can severely struggle with having something one day and then being clean the rest of the time, whereas some people can eat 1/4th of a Snickers bar and put it away with no cravings towards it. (I envy those people lol) If you're struggling with addiction like this, that's something to be wary of.
Alternatively it might help to have a little something a day. Like one piece of a chocolate a day and not more beyond that, which imo is fine as well unless you're a purist and want to go all in on being perfectly clean.

My own food addiction has been long and still ongoing.
Initially I was trying to be ultra strict, and I was, but then I'd have days and weeks of binging up to 10kcal a day (I can eat a lot easily lol), but I kept adjusting my strictness, coping mechanism, avoid my food triggers (foods that lead to eventual binging), my relationship with food, which foods I can allow myself to eat as an alternative e.g. 86-100% chocolate with some Greek yoghurt and cinnamon and berries vs ice cream would give me the same satisfaction almost, enough to where I wouldn't crave unhealthy stuff, but it'd fill me up and actually be healthy as opposed to actively harming my health.
Now I do binge still, but it's less than before and I do it a few times a month at least.
I do hope I can eventually go down to 0, and have managed that for some months in my life, but again, an ongoing process and as long as I make progress that's what matters for me.

As others have said, you should definitely focus on self-love as well, but as someone who can relate to you, I will say my self love definitely improved after I became lean, but only after I also started focusing on being healthy and having a healthier relationship with food and my body, providing it with the adequate energy and nutrients it needs, for what it is that I am trying to achieve.

/sorry for rambling. I don't know much if anything about chu so it's hard to fully know what to recommend for you and which steps you should start from!

 

[dingokettle3531]

Its been 25 days since I started my diet. I consume less than 100 calories a day. Ive been bloated because of my period. I lost 8 kg but I assume its more than 8 kgs cuz Im in my period and Im bloated. When my period ends I will weigh myself and If I lost less than 10kgs Im scared of hurting myself. I dont want that. Ive been clean for 5 weeks. I just want to be skinny and fit into cute clothes while not looking like a pig.

For once In my life I dont want to be the fattest girl in my class ,friend group, school , family. I want to look good. I want compliments. I want to see my collarbones my rib cage. I wanna be called pretty not big boned.

Ofc there are ppl who are attracted to me atm. But they only lust over me. I dont want lust. I want love not even in a romantic way. I wanna feel loved and I wanna know that people wont judge me when they look at me. I bet my friends think that Im too fat when I dress in a certain way but they dont tell me that. I can see that in their eyes.

They realized that Im losing weight and they know that I dont eat and they try to stop me. They offer me food. They say dont do it. They look weird to me .

I dont even wanna be THAT skinny. I wanna look normal. I wanna be normal. If i eat I wont be able to stop. Im too close to my goal weight. I dont wanna give up.

I wanna be pretty. I want to be normal.

I believe you're approaching this the wrong way, it's not actually feasible to lose weight when you're starving yourself for 2 reasons:
Your body will hold on even more to the fat if you're starving yourself
You'll feel waaayy too hungry and end up overeating a different day, ruining your progress

I'd highly recommend calculating your TDEE and eating 200 cals below that for sustainable weight loss, if you want to make it faster and believe you're determined enough to ignore the cravings then 300-500 calories below is also a good way to approach it. Find what works for you! Also, 10k steps a day is a great and super easy way of doing cardio and getting leaner, if you have access to a bike be it static or a normal one then that's also great cardio, but walking is the easiest and anyone can do it
Do keep in mind to try and eat clean, even though you technically can lose weight/fat eating ultraprocessed/trash food as long as you're in a calorie deficit, when you eat clean you just lose way faster
Working out isn't necessary but building muscle is a great way of getting leaner as well
Just be patient and you'll get the physique you want, I'm sure you can do it! I used to be fat myself too until I got tired of it lol. All the things I'm telling you is what's worked for me and what I had to learn over the course of a few years (wish I had known it from the start though tbh, would've been faster, I used to starve myself too)