Ico
Member
- Jun 27, 2023
- 40
Is there a way of drafting up a living will with a Lawyer in such a way that won't set off any alarms / red flags? I'm not even sure that 'living will' is the right term. Sorry.
I've been aggressively saving and getting all affairs in order for my wife & daughter for the last 4 years. Cars are paid off, there's enough cash to last them for years, all bills are automated. My wife's name is on the home (not the mortgage), both vehicles, and all major accounts. She has access to my 401K, rollover IRA, daughter's college savings account, credit card (which all the bills flow to), etc.
Optimally, I'd like to go to an Attorney and give them some B.S story about a terminal condition that will result in my death (but I'm not sure how to work in the euthanasia angle). Then we could set them up as a fiduciary to implement an action plan of things that would happen automatically after my demise: Body is disposed of (I don't want or need a funeral / wake), all finances are transferred, etc. My wife will have enough on her plate adjusting to being a single parent, and the two of them will require some time to come to the realization that they're better off without a mentally ill person dragging down every aspect of their lives.
Both of our families are pretty awful, and cannot be counted on to offer any kind of meaningful help or assistance. THIS much has been obvious the last 13 years. It would be nice to make sure that there is someone who could navigate the complexities of my death while my wife and daughter recenter themselves.
Is this just a pipe dream?
I've been aggressively saving and getting all affairs in order for my wife & daughter for the last 4 years. Cars are paid off, there's enough cash to last them for years, all bills are automated. My wife's name is on the home (not the mortgage), both vehicles, and all major accounts. She has access to my 401K, rollover IRA, daughter's college savings account, credit card (which all the bills flow to), etc.
Optimally, I'd like to go to an Attorney and give them some B.S story about a terminal condition that will result in my death (but I'm not sure how to work in the euthanasia angle). Then we could set them up as a fiduciary to implement an action plan of things that would happen automatically after my demise: Body is disposed of (I don't want or need a funeral / wake), all finances are transferred, etc. My wife will have enough on her plate adjusting to being a single parent, and the two of them will require some time to come to the realization that they're better off without a mentally ill person dragging down every aspect of their lives.
Both of our families are pretty awful, and cannot be counted on to offer any kind of meaningful help or assistance. THIS much has been obvious the last 13 years. It would be nice to make sure that there is someone who could navigate the complexities of my death while my wife and daughter recenter themselves.
Is this just a pipe dream?
