List your regrets in your 20s

[FireFox]

I turn 23 in May and i have so many regrets in life and feel like i cant change my life. My sucidial thoughts have increased as my birthday nears. If wasnt for this lockdown shit i was going to kill myself.
My regets

1) Regret going to university after my A levels. I wish i went to university later on life like in 25+ . After spending a lifetime in education i cant cope anymore with loss of structure , lack of purpose and loss indentity.
I sometimes wish i left school and just worked. Everyday i regret it so much
Sometimes i am jealous of people who have no qualfications because they start again and have somewhere to start from . They find it easier to find jobs. I am jealous of my friend who has no gcses and has a job as support worker in a care home.


2) I regret turning down a job i was offered in this church set up by this woman all because i was scared of messing up and being needy
I feel like now i never ever have a job offer .
Everyday i regret it


I hate my life .
What your regret in your 20s?

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Everything. Literally every major life decision I made in my 20s has turned out bad and a complete failure (college, jobs, relationships, finances). I'm left with nothing but regrets and what ifs.

 

[FireFox]

I am just upset because seeing all these stories of people getting jobs in supermarksts ..i apply and hear nothing .
Getting rejected from a shop is worst rejection because you feel like a failure as we are always told they hire anyone.
I feel stupid that i cant hired in a shop. If cant get hired in a shop i cant get hired anywhere

It makes me cry so much.
I never had a job at 22 i made myself unemployable forever i believe

Everything. Literally every major life decision I made in my 20s has turned out bad and a complete failure (college, jobs, relationships, finances). I'm left with nothing but regrets and what ifs.

I am sorry what happened if you dont mind me asking

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

I'm 27. Never had a girlfriend. Been stuck at university for 8 years and I'm about to quit.

 

[LifeIntolerance]

I regret finishing med school and being a doctor. I wish I was a pilot of an Boeing 737 Being a pilot was my dream in my life. But it didn't work. It's easy to say but try to follow your dreams. I love my wife but I regret getting married and changing my country too. Because I can't work as a doctor in this new country. There is still lots of things to do for this. Basically, I screwed up my life.

 

[TStorm]

Dropping out of college. Leaving someone I loved a lot because i felt like i wasn't good enough for him. And then he got married to someone else. I was easy to forget. I'm bad at dating in general i guess things like that happen a lot. I feel like my life is just a huge pile of regrets at this point tho

 

[RestingGirl23]

OP, maybe this won't make you feel better but know that there's a lot of people (myself included) that felt the way you do. I've had small jobs when I was in my teens (all of them lasted less than a year) and I could never find a job that didn't pay shit or I got treated like shit. I always felt less because everyone around me was busy and going to their jobs after class. Or they had internships with big companies and I never got those opportunities. Eventually, I did get an offer for an internship that I am currently at but sometimes it just takes a while.
Also, my friend recently got a job at Wal-Mart and that's her first ever job. She's 23 now.
With this virus going on, the economy is really tanking so a lot of us are going to be on the same boat and be laid off and have a hard time getting hired afterwards.

 

[WinterFaust]

I just regret the whole thing. I just turned 26 and I would like to return the entire experience. Can I go back to 19 and try again? Mm... I'd still probably fuck up a redo lol. Unless... Could I like sacrifice a year for the ability to be high functioning? Or even simply functional?

Honestly, not being better with my money, the way my life exploded in my face 9 months ago. I should have just stayed at my last job and been miserable. At least I would have had money and might have been able to hold onto my relationship longer. Mm... Probably not. Maybe if I had more aggressively persued a good therapist early on and learned to love myself?

Hm... Right now, my biggest regret is completely succumbing to this depressive episode that continues to show me that if I don't care for myself, life can always get worse. Well, won't matter one way or another soon enough.

 

[muffin222]

I regret hurting the only person I ever truly loved and who loved me back because I was immature and didn't recognize true love when it was staring me right in the face. I chose shitty people instead, likely because that's what I subconsciously felt I deserved :(

I also regret smoking weed all day everyday for 3 years straight. It changed me in subtle, but detrimental ways

- Edit: I also regret not getting myself into therapy when I had ample funds to do so. My mental health is in shambles now. I'd love to get therapy now, but I can't at the moment due to money problems

 

[Genetics]

I turn 23 in May and i have so many regrets in life and feel like i cant change my life. My sucidial thoughts have increased as my birthday nears. If wasnt for this lockdown shit i was going to kill myself.
My regets

1) Regret going to university after my A levels. I wish i went to university later on life like in 25+ . After spending a lifetime in education i cant cope anymore with loss of structure , lack of purpose and loss indentity.
I sometimes wish i left school and just worked. Everyday i regret it so much
Sometimes i am jealous of people who have no qualfications because they start again and have somewhere to start from . They find it easier to find jobs. I am jealous of my friend who has no gcses and has a job as support worker in a care home.


2) I regret turning down a job i was offered in this church set up by this woman all because i was scared of messing up and being needy
I feel like now i never ever have a job offer .
Everyday i regret it


I hate my life .
What your regret in your 20s?

I regret enlisting in the Navy (I was 18 but was in until I was 20) because I was gang raped and nothing happened to the men.
I regret letting alcohol and drugs self-medicate me until I was 30. I lost so much valuable time with my daughter who was born when I was 26.
I regret my 1st two marriages.
I regret allowing people to physically and sexually abuse me.
I regret that my suicide attempt(cutting wrists) had been successful when I was in the Navy.
My entire 20's were a nightmare even if I don't remember most of it.

I'm 59, to be 60 in September.
I plan to ctb in 2031.
I don't want to regret seeing my grandsons become men. Then I'll be ready to cbt.

 

[Notabadguy]

I turn 23 in May and i have so many regrets in life and feel like i cant change my life. My sucidial thoughts have increased as my birthday nears. If wasnt for this lockdown shit i was going to kill myself.
My regets

1) Regret going to university after my A levels. I wish i went to university later on life like in 25+ . After spending a lifetime in education i cant cope anymore with loss of structure , lack of purpose and loss indentity.
I sometimes wish i left school and just worked. Everyday i regret it so much
Sometimes i am jealous of people who have no qualfications because they start again and have somewhere to start from . They find it easier to find jobs. I am jealous of my friend who has no gcses and has a job as support worker in a care home.


2) I regret turning down a job i was offered in this church set up by this woman all because i was scared of messing up and being needy
I feel like now i never ever have a job offer .
Everyday i regret it


I hate my life .
What your regret in your 20s?

You don't see it because you're too young (yes, I know that you don't want to hear this, but it's the truth). You say you'd prefer to go to college past 25. That doesn't make sense. You say that you prefer shitty jobs, that doesn't make sense. There're people who say they want to CTB because they dropped college. I think that you want to CTB because, for some reason, you like CTB. You're an adult, do what you want, but I advise you to seek profesional help. It's my humble opinion.

 

[Deathbydemo]

My only true regret of my 20s has been wasting 2 years of my life on a man I would have moved mountains for only to realise that he systematically broke me down to the point where I changed who I was and alienated my friends and family to make him happy. It's bizarre to me now that I once considered (and acted out on my plan) to end my life over it. If I could change anything it would be to have never met him at all.

 

[enjolras]

1) hit by mental illness, should have accepted external help/support, but refused to seek therapy (minimising + stubborn). I was privileged regarding comfort (mid-high class family) and with extra basic financial ongoing support and a reasonable outlook on life (which defines me), I may have had a totally different path than struggling to integrate in the societal life as a normie. Even not considering specific situation, mental health is not something to disregard, acting like an oyster putting his head on the sand. Take it seriously

2) I put my life on pause for a girl regarding my own studies & location, which started as a long-distance relationship first. It was a first love. I was faithful when I had other opportunities, 6 years later she cheated on me. I could never get back the consequences of my sacrifice for her own evolution. Don't sacrifice your own goals and dreams in the name of love, especially at an early age when you've got something else to focus on. The life road is long. Love affairs should be bonuses that are not traumatic. Consider being selfish and protective to yourself, build, then love will come gravitate around you in better circumstances, not the other way around

My only true regret of my 20s has been wasting 2 years of my life on a man I would have moved mountains for only to realise that he systematically broke me down to the point where I changed who I was and alienated my friends and family to make him happy. It's bizarre to me now that I once considered (and acted out on my plan) to end my life over it. If I could change anything it would be to have never met him at all.

Same here : she was not even corresponding to who I am. Was blinded. Bad breakup encouraged spiral depression. Pondered countless times how I wished I never met her. Not reasonable thinking given the poor match. Wasted years

 

[Khyber]

I turn 23 in May and i have so many regrets in life and feel like i cant change my life. My sucidial thoughts have increased as my birthday nears. If wasnt for this lockdown shit i was going to kill myself.
My regets

1) Regret going to university after my A levels. I wish i went to university later on life like in 25+ . After spending a lifetime in education i cant cope anymore with loss of structure , lack of purpose and loss indentity.
I sometimes wish i left school and just worked. Everyday i regret it so much
Sometimes i am jealous of people who have no qualfications because they start again and have somewhere to start from . They find it easier to find jobs. I am jealous of my friend who has no gcses and has a job as support worker in a care home.


2) I regret turning down a job i was offered in this church set up by this woman all because i was scared of messing up and being needy
I feel like now i never ever have a job offer .
Everyday i regret it


I hate my life .
What your regret in your 20s?

One of my biggest regrets is not going to university straight after my A levels. I didn't go to uni until I was 27. I feel my life could have been totally different and that I missed out on so much. It hindered my social development, my independence, my employment opportunities etc. It's crazy how subjective our thoughts are and how much we're controlled by them. To be honest it probably doesn't matter what I've done in the past or what I'll do in the future as I'll regret it all regardless, and convince myself if only I'd made a different choice my life could have been so much better.

 

[Timetodie90]

Snorting cocaine when I was 20. Which I think has caused my Chronic Rhino-Sinusitis. If I hadn't. My life would be so much easier. But when you're depressed and want to die anyway you just don't care what you do at the time.

 

[Quarky00]

1) Regret going to university after my A levels

Same!

University was expensive , I had to work to pay for it , studying dual BSc is hard , and I broke down -- while finishing the degree had been useless anyway (many fields require MSc). Really annoys me because 20 years ago BSc was more than enough while tuition & accommodation were dead cheap . I wish I had just worked at a simple job , saved money , and built my life -- instead of engaging in this higher education mess.

2. Meeting my abusive ex.. Took 10 years of my life , 3 mental breakdowns , and ended up totally shattered . Wasted the best years of my life .

 

[Apathy79]

20s, 30s and so far 40s same regret - procrastination/laziness. Sitting around playing games, going on forums or watching TV shows half my life - even when I was travelling. They disappear so fast and you never get them back. I'm still doing it now.

 

[enjolras]

I never had a job at 22 i made myself unemployable forever i believe

I'm sooon 40 and I've been employed with a boss 1 month in total in my life. The rest of the years, 30% were spent procrastinating, searching for myself, 70% self employed in a specific solitary activity I regret, working 14/24 6/7. My CV is mostly empty to be useful. Will never have retirement to survive older.
Still, I don't think I would be unemployable but for sure glued to basic positions. My decision is to not serve the society who will let me down ultimately no matter my efforts (due to past off-roading, small errors) to join it again, and whose way of life I do not share views with. I will swim backwards and give it the finger, as a happy camper to be eaten by a bear encounter (society's ferocity) as the ending. I'll just waste away my savings from now on (could last me 5-15 years depending on spending ...if I decide to pursue).

22yo is very early. Keep the faith, there is hope with opportunities. This is the right time to not give up. Wish I was your age to start again with more clever decisions

 

[Soul]

I regret worrying so much about being a bit plump - I was punishing myself, uncomfortable in my own body, afraid of rejection, when in fact I was a perfectly attractive plump girl who could have been enjoying life a lot more - especially since the plumpness resolved itself into a dew in my 30s.

I hope no one here is torturing themselves over body image paranoia. It's such a waste.

 

[coreofanapple]

I don't feel as creatively productive as other people my age. There's immense pressure to create my magnum opus before I hit 30, but I can't even sketch a figure without wanting to ctb.

So, I guess I regret not having a better output earlier in life.

 

[Notwinnernotawin]

I regret letting people ruin me. Also regret not killing myself when I was younger, would've spared me from a lot of unnecessary suffering.

 

[oneside]

I regret not having killed me before

 

[LavenderMemories]

I regret pretty much everything. As I look back on my life, I realize that I've been suffering from mental illnesses since pretty much the beginning. I'm 25 right now. Where I am mentally just feels like a culmination of years of untreated mental issues that slowly wore me down. I flunked out of college before I could really even begin, I can't keep any type of relationships alive, I live life on autopilot.

It's weird. I think I've always subconsciously known that ctb was inevitable for me. I've always shunned any sort of romantic relationship, I've never had day dreams of my wedding or becoming a mother because I always knew that wasn't in the cards for me. It wouldn't be fair to put any other person threw the torment that I go through.

My regrets started way before my 20's.

I regret that there was no one that noticed that I needed help. I regret that as I got older, I didn't seek help for myself. I regret not being strong enough to ever give myself a fighting chance. But at this point, it would take years and years of work to turn me into a somewhat normal functioning person and I'm way too tired for that. And that's okay.

The pandemic sort of fucked up my plans, but its okay. I'm taking this time to make sure my family is okay and taken care of. Then I can go peacefully.

 

[Supersadmommy90]

I just turned 30 so this is still fresh for me. Main regret is choosing the wrong men to be with and have children with. My standards have always been too low because I've been afraid of being alone so i just picked the most accessible guys that showed interest when I should have held out for better.

 

[Donk]

i regret not getting N when it was more accesible and when there wasnt as much of awarness of it being used for suicides.

 

[Mr2005]

My 20s

 

[toomuchtimetodie]

Not offing myself when I became homeless at 20-21. Going through so much to get where I am now nearing 30 for it to have all been a waste.

 

[Nem]

I have no regrets from my 20's. My 30's is when I jammed myself up the arse by getting involved with a sociopath. A SOCIOPATH!!!!!

peace/hugs

 

[Final Escape]

Everything. Literally every major life decision I made in my 20s has turned out bad and a complete failure (college, jobs, relationships, finances). I'm left with nothing but regrets and what ifs.

Same, but add in my abortions. It's crazy how bad u can screw yourself when u are not really guided well. Working in a strip club as a stripper was a big mistake too.

I just turned 30 so this is still fresh for me. Main regret is choosing the wrong men to be with and have children with. My standards have always been too low because I've been afraid of being alone so i just picked the most accessible guys that showed interest when I should have held out for better.

I had same problem. Low self worth.

 

[Genetics]

I regret enlisting in the Navy (I was 18 but was in until I was 20) because I was gang raped and nothing happened to the men.
I regret letting alcohol and drugs self-medicate me until I was 30. I lost so much valuable time with my daughter who was born when I was 26.
I regret my 1st two marriages.
I regret allowing people to physically and sexually abuse me.
I regret that my suicide attempt(cutting wrists) had been successful when I was in the Navy.
My entire 20's were a nightmare even if I don't remember most of it.

I'm 59, to be 60 in September.
I plan to ctb in 2031.
I don't want to regret seeing my grandsons become men. Then I'll be ready to cbt.

Can you imagine if I list the regrets from 30 - 59!