Limerence is destroying my life

[SadLoser]

It takes over my life for months or even years at a time. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I can't focus on anything. I spend hours scouring their social media, i'm ashamed to say that back in school I would spend hours each day walking outside hoping that a girl who showed interest in me would come over and "take me back". I never said anything but I bumped into her so often that she told one of her ex-friends that I must have a tracker on her.

I am filled with anxiety and dread when I find out or even suspect they're with another guy. I start contemplating suicide but I don't know if i'd go through with it. I think eventually it'll be too much for me though.

This happens with any girl that shows romantic interest with me that lasts more than a few days. I don't know what to do. I'm in my mid 20s and never had a girlfriend. I feel so lonely and miserable. I have her shirt that I borrowed and it helps to me to sleep at night. I love smelling it because it smells like her. I'll have to wash it and give it back in a few days and that hurts. At least i'll get to see her.

 

[Parnate]

I am sorry for you, ocd medicine help limerence. Risperidone helped me.
Maybe try that or maybe a new relationship?

 

[Nobodi]

It takes over my life for months or even years at a time. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I can't focus on anything. I spend hours scouring their social media, i'm ashamed to say that back in school I would spend hours each day walking outside hoping that a girl who showed interest in me would come over and "take me back". I never said anything but I bumped into her so often that she told one of her ex-friends that I must have a tracker on her.

I am filled with anxiety and dread when I find out or even suspect they're with another guy. I start contemplating suicide but I don't know if i'd go through with it. I think eventually it'll be too much for me though.

This happens with any girl that shows romantic interest with me that lasts more than a few days. I don't know what to do. I'm in my mid 20s and never had a girlfriend. I feel so lonely and miserable. I have her shirt that I borrowed and it helps to me to sleep at night. I love smelling it because it smells like her. I'll have to wash it and give it back in a few days and that hurts. At least i'll get to see her.

"Showed interest" and now all off a sudden she doesn't. becareful if it's lovebombing. If she going around jumping from one relationship onto the next or may be showing interest to multiple guys that is a red flag. Please becareful that feeling your feeling is painful it's a hard crash

 

[SadLoser]

"Showed interest" and now all off a sudden she doesn't. becareful if it's lovebombing. If she going around jumping from one relationship onto the next or may be showing interest to multiple guys that is a red flag. Please becareful that feeling your feeling is painful it's a hard crash

well I met her through friends. I wouldn't consider it lovebombing, just genuine interest. She wasn't overly affectionate, but she would compliment me, be interested in what I had to say, we had sex even, then it just faded away somehow... she's still nice, but no longer sees me romantically.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I 'suffered' with limerence for around 13 years before I finally saw how much it was screwing up my life and, put a stop to it. For me, I needed to be really strict with myself. Stop myself fantasizing about them- especially in a sexual way. Plus, stop looking for them on social media. It was horrible to do- after all, it can be nice to day dream about them but, I had to keep reminding myself it wasn't good overall.

It helped figuring out it was limerence though. I was kidding myself I was in love with them.

 

[fedup1982]

Just remember that the definition of limerence is:

Idealization: Seeing the person as perfect or flawless, focusing mainly on their positive traits.

Nobody is perfect. Far from it! Maybe if you got to know them and their flaws, you wouldn't be so negatively affected