Why are there so many divorces or, women not choosing to marry to begin with then- do you suppose?
'As of 2024, the U.S. divorce rate remains between 40% to 50% for first marriages, though this number has been steadily declining over the past few decades.'
7 Oct 2024
from:
https://www.modernfamilylaw.com
So presumably, the 50-60% who didn't get divorced are happy? Good for them, I guess. Presumably, that's why they haven't divorced! A 50-60% failure rate is bad though- wouldn't you say? I imagine also, the only reason it isn't higher is that fewer people are getting married to begin with!
Not that I'm against marriage. I used to have a very fairytale admiration for it. I don't think it's for everyone necessarily though. I don't believe it guarantees happiness either.
Maybe it's true. Who knows? Maybe more men and women would be happier here if they got married. My married friends seem reasonably happy. I don't think they regret their choice anyway. Not sure it's the same for everyone though. I definitely think you need to be fortunate in picking a good partner otherwise, you're opening up a whole lot of hurt I imagine. I also know plenty of marriages that have ended in tears and abuse.
Personally, of all the people I've liked enough for that, even if they'd liked me back to that extent (which they absolutely didn't,) I don't think any of the relationships would have lasted ultimately. So- I'm actually grateful I never got the chance to have my heart broken.
There are also plenty of members here who've at the worst- had abusive or hurtful or manipulative relationships. Some even seem to have very loving and supportive partners yet, they can't seem to 'save' them from wanting to kill themselves. So, how effective is it really for everyone? That said, if it's what you want, I hope you find someone and, I hope it works out for the both of you.