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[Mia Wallace]

I decided there will be no note when I go except for how I want my money to be distributed after death expenses but I am going to STRESS how I do not want a funeral, wake, not even a tombstone. I'd like to be cremated and have the person I'm closest to take some of the money I will be leaving for them to take a nice trip and spread my ashes there…
I really desperately do not want any announcements about my death and I especially don't want my sister to be posting all over her social media about it (I am not close to her and the thought of her using my death as a way to get attention-which is something she would totally do, disgusts me)
I also plan on closing all of my social media accounts before I go as well.
Does anybody else have similar wishes as me or thinks it's strange to not want any of that?
I guess it won't matter after I die but the thought of them holding a service, posting and fake mourning for me when nobody gave a fuck while I'm still alive irks me so bad lol

 

[chronicallybroken]

You've made me think that I need to add to my note that I don't want a funeral etc! Happy to be cremated I guess. I am sad that I won't be able to donate my organs.

 

[Mia Wallace]

You've made me think that I need to add to my note that I don't want a funeral etc! Happy to be cremated I guess. I am sad that I won't be able to donate my organs.

I've heard that before! What is the reasoning for that again? If we were found in time (like shortly after death, would it still be a possibility?)

 

[chronicallybroken]

I've heard that before! What is the reasoning for that again? If we were found in time (like shortly after death, would it still be a possibility?)

It depends on the method of death mainly. I'm hoping to do SN so I imagine my organs will be fucked if not, then hanging. I guess if I was found soon enough and rushed to a hospital maybe my organs could still be used?? I really don't know. I would just like to be able to do one last good thing.

 

[CrazyMary]

In my case I have told my friends in jokes and seriously that I want my funeral to be a party and everyone get drunk and end up saying "I hope he died more often". My ashes hopefully will be pressed into a vinyl that would keep traveling for a few years.
I have mentioned it to several groups of friends hoping they remember.
Also I have mentioned that all my money goes to animal shelters and no one else.

 

[nys]

I have similar wishes. I don't want a funeral and I don't want to be remembered. I'm going to pretend my death was an accident so no one is like "Oh no it's so sad she killed herself! I had no idea she was suffering! If I knew I would have helped her!" Like no lol you knew and you didn't care. I don't want anyone pretending they're really sad I'm gone when they actually aren't

 

[Zegers]

I will only leave cash to my mother, i have no one else apart from others who don't give a fuck about me.

 

[Jrmull1993]

I decided there will be no note when I go except for how I want my money to be distributed after death expenses

Mia,

In most countries, a note holds no power, and laws will automatically dictate that all your assets go to your closest kin. To avoid this, you'd need a will and it would need to be written in a manner dictated by your local laws. Be sure you do not reference suicide in any way in the will, as it will be void and easily contested since one can argue you were not mentally fit to sign.

I'd like to be cremated

This too most likely cannot be guaranteed in just a note, as final disposition of your body will be dictated by next of kin per your local laws. While there are ways to dictate your intentions that the law will recgonize, it's commonly accepted that the law will side with prearranged AND prefunded arrangements. When I was drafting my will, my lawyer reccomended to me that in addition to my living will, I prefund my cremation with a local funeral home.

 

[Mia Wallace]

I have similar wishes. I don't want a funeral and I don't want to be remembered. I'm going to pretend my death was an accident so no one is like "Oh no it's so sad she killed herself! I had no idea she was suffering! If I knew I would have helped her!" Like no lol you knew and you didn't care. I don't want anyone pretending they're really sad I'm gone when they actually aren't

Girl same! What method do you have in mind that will make it look like an accident?

Mia,

In most countries, a note holds no power, and laws will automatically dictate that all your assets go to your closest kin. To avoid this, you'd need a will and it would need to be written in a manner dictated by your local laws. Be sure you do not reference suicide in any way in the will, as it will be void and easily contested since one can argue you were not mentally fit to sign.

This too most likely cannot be guaranteed in just a note, as final disposition of your body will be dictated by next of kin per your local laws. While there are ways to dictate your intentions that the law will recgonize, it's commonly accepted that the law will side with prearranged AND prefunded arrangements. When I was drafting my will, my lawyer reccomended to be that in addition to my living will, I prefund my cremation with a local funeral home.

@Jrmull1993 oh wow thank you for this info. I was not aware that a note wouldn't suffice. I'll have to do a Google search to find out who I can contact in my area. I'm in my late thirties, do you have any advice on what I should say about wanting to write a will at my age when I'm seemingly in good health?

 

[nys]

Girl same! What method do you have in mind that will make it look like an accident?

I've faked an interest in cliff diving and jumping off bridges into water- it's an extreme sport that some people are interested in. I'm going to jump off a bridge while I'm drunk and purposely get the angle wrong so I die the moment I hit the water. If I don't, I'll drown, and people will just assume I drowned because I was drunk and not because I wanted to.

Unfortunately the bridge is known as a suicide bridge, but I'm pretty young and I don't think anyone knows I have depression or suicidal thoughts, and they really do think I enjoy jumping off of bridges/cliffs for fun, so they'll probably (hopefully) believe I just wanted to jump off the bridge for fun and it went wrong.

I'm not sure about the method now, though, since the bridge isn't super high and after some research, I discovered some people have survived with injuries, like broken bones. I don't want to risk surviving, and I definitely don't want to risk living the rest of my life in a vegetative state, trapped in my body and unable to ctb. I'm probably going to change my method. What's your method?

 

[Theanswer]

You can definitely assign beneficiaries to your bank accounts and retirement accounts. No need for a will and this beneficiary assignment would supersede all next-of-kin laws and is a legal document. In addition, there are prepaid, self-directed cremation, funeral services that can be purchased by yourself Again, superseding all next-of-kin laws and is a legal document. And, I ran all of this by an attorney who confirmed.

 

[AnonymousS]

I decided there will be no note when I go except for how I want my money to be distributed after death expenses but I am going to STRESS how I do not want a funeral, wake, not even a tombstone. I'd like to be cremated and have the person I'm closest to take some of the money I will be leaving for them to take a nice trip and spread my ashes there…
I really desperately do not want any announcements about my death and I especially don't want my sister to be posting all over her social media about it (I am not close to her and the thought of her using my death as a way to get attention-which is something she would totally do, disgusts me)
I also plan on closing all of my social media accounts before I go as well.
Does anybody else have similar wishes as me or thinks it's strange to not want any of that?
I guess it won't matter after I die but the thought of them holding a service, posting and fake mourning for me when nobody gave a fuck while I'm still alive irks me so bad lol

I get the familial aspect you mentioned, i am estranged from my "family", that is the kind of thing my sister would probably do too. It makes sense to not want a fuss, though understanding your close friends will be upset.

 

[Jrmull1993]

oh wow thank you for this info. I was not aware that a note wouldn't suffice. I'll have to do a Google search to find out who I can contact in my area. I'm in my late thirties, do you have any advice on what I should say about wanting to write a will at my age when I'm seemingly in good health?

I was 28 when I put my will together, no need to justify it, but you can always make something up. You can also lookup templates online so that you can write your own will. Just keep in mind, depending on where you live you'll need to have this notarized and/or witnessed by others. If you have realestate, I reccomend you get an attorney to draft the will for you.

Also as @Theanswer stated, if your bank(s) allows for Beneficaries, you can name them and they will be entitled to whatever is in your accounts (minus debts) upon receipt of your death certificates.

 

[Mia Wallace]

I've faked an interest in cliff diving and jumping off bridges into water- it's an extreme sport that some people are interested in. I'm going to jump off a bridge while I'm drunk and purposely get the angle wrong so I die the moment I hit the water. If I don't, I'll drown, and people will just assume I drowned because I was drunk and not because I wanted to.

Unfortunately the bridge is known as a suicide bridge, but I'm pretty young and I don't think anyone knows I have depression or suicidal thoughts, and they really do think I enjoy jumping off of bridges/cliffs for fun, so they'll probably (hopefully) believe I just wanted to jump off the bridge for fun and it went wrong.

I'm not sure about the method now, though, since the bridge isn't super high and after some research, I discovered some people have survived with injuries, like broken bones. I don't want to risk surviving, and I definitely don't want to risk living the rest of my life in a vegetative state, trapped in my body and unable to ctb. I'm probably going to change my method. What's your method?

Oh wow, if you could find a place to jump that would be high enough then that method sounds ideal for you if you want it to look like an accident. I do understand your hesitations though as ending up in a vegetative state. That's my biggest fear. I'm most likely going to purchase a shot gun once my application goes through for my foid card. I've thought about SN as N seems impossible to obtain but a bullet in my head seems more peaceful to me than SN as it's quick, pretty much over the moment you pull the trigger so if I do it right, there shouldn't be too much suffering involved

 

[Euthanza]

That's one important aspect of post-mortal, no it's not weird to have last wishes but I think I'm gonna need notes about it; I have partner to explain me but it will not be wise to put him in trouble for me. I don't want my suicide to be objectified against me or anykind for suicide prevention celebration, but I do wish I can contribute to right to suicide and probably science behind it.

 

[nys]

Oh wow, if you could find a place to jump that would be high enough then that method sounds ideal for you if you want it to look like an accident. I do understand your hesitations though as ending up in a vegetative state. That's my biggest fear. I'm most likely going to purchase a shot gun once my application goes through for my foid card. I've thought about SN as N seems impossible to obtain but a bullet in my head seems more peaceful to me than SN as it's quick, pretty much over the moment you pull the trigger so if I do it right, there shouldn't be too much suffering involved

I wish I could get a gun. Even though it's important to me that my death looks like an accident, I have awful SI and I always worry that when I'm about to jump off the bridge, I'll get too scared and change my mind. I feel like with a gun, my SI wouldn't be as bad for the reason you mentioned- it's over when I pull the trigger, unlike a fall from a bridge where I have a few seconds to regret my decision.

Unfortunately it's impossible for me to legally purchase a gun, and quite complicated to illegally purchase one, so I guess I'm going to have to settle for jumping. It's good that you can get a gun, though. I hope you get out of whatever terrible situation you're in that makes you want to do this, whether it's by your life getting better or by successfully ctb'ing. Best wishes

 

[Mia Wallace]

I wish I could get a gun. Even though it's important to me that my death looks like an accident, I have awful SI and I always worry that when I'm about to jump off the bridge, I'll get too scared and change my mind. I feel like with a gun, my SI wouldn't be as bad for the reason you mentioned- it's over when I pull the trigger, unlike a fall from a bridge where I have a few seconds to regret my decision.

Unfortunately it's impossible for me to legally purchase a gun, and quite complicated to illegally purchase one, so I guess I'm going to have to settle for jumping. It's good that you can get a gun, though. I hope you get out of whatever terrible situation you're in that makes you want to do this, whether it's by your life getting better or by successfully ctb'ing. Best wishes

Thank you and same to you @nys! All the best to you in whatever decision you make

 

[FuneralCry]

I don't like the sound of a funeral, personally. Ideally, I would want to be completely forgotten about after I am gone like I never existed at all. Both my life and my death are so meaningless and insignificant anyway, but it really doesn't matter to me how others would react after my death as I simply wouldn't be there at that point. I wish you relief from suffering.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Think I'm going to look into pre-paying for the most basic of funerals- no service- just collection and cremation. Not sure if you have to pay upfront or whether the money comes out of your estate. Maybe you need to give them a deposit or something. My Dad says he keeps seeing adverts on the TV for them.

I'm miles away from family and friends and have lost touch with most people. I don't want them to feel obligated to come to a funeral. Plus, I don't want some fake 'celebration' of my life- when I wish it hadn't happened in the first place. Same goes with birthdays- I'm so grumpy- don't see the point in celebrating being a year older or having been born in the first place!

 

[Hope:-)]

I too don't want a funeral. I want my death to be discreet.

 

[Un-]

I want to be cremated, and have my ashes thrown in a trash can. The only person I'm thinking of, in regards to my death, is my mother. She's the only person I can say loves me, even though I don't love her back. I have no friends. I don't talk to my family. There's nothing special about me. Even if I wasn't a nihilist, I can assure you that I don't mean anything - to anyone, to anything.

Is it better to have to worry about how people will treat you after you die, or to know that you're absolutely meaningless to everyone around you? I don't know.