Keeping Quiet Vs. Telling Others

[user1912012]

What do you guys think of letting others know you will CBT and leaving it open to discussion versus keeping quiet and leaving a letter?

 

[yoiyun]

i think finding people who aren't biased is better. a lot of people view suicide as black and white or as selfish unfortunately. i think keeping quiet and leaving a letter will only increase suffering and loneliness. wouldn't it be peaceful for people to metaphorically be holding your hand as you drift away, or just have the discussion with someone unbiased? idk if you're looking for someone irl, but if you aren't, i'm here :)

 

[stoopid]

Don't ever tell anyone, they will try to prevent it. I've tried to talk about it and explain the situation and the libertarian worldview that it's my right and stuff and as a result I had to lie about my plans, and I hate to lie.

People should shut the f up and should take care about their fking life and don't interfere how I decide to leave this shithole planet

 

[runrabbit]

Letting anyone else know that you are going to CTB is one of the worst things you can do if you are genuinely wishing to pass on. Majority of people, especially those you love/love you, are going to immediately take drastic actions to make sure you're "safe."

A lot of those folk get seriously upset and emotional, force their way in on your choice and tend to make it about them and how much you upset them. However, most of this behavior is genuinely coming from a place of love and concern.

Personally, I hate people knowing that I'm suicidal, or have been in the past. It makes everyone go on high-alert and treat me with kiddie gloves. The amount of babying and forceful "help" makes me feel suffocated, and like they don't really care about what I'm going through. They'd rather have me "work through it" and continue to suffer, pushing me to live for nothing. Mostly for their own benefit mind you.

 

[HerculePoirot]

I only discuss of it here (PM's) on SS, anonymously (always through Tor nodes). Only with trusted persons. Absolutely never IRL. Would be going into guaranteed serious trouble obviously.

 

[GasMonkey]

Telling others is very dangerous in jurisdictions where they can forcefully take you to the psych ward.

 

[ThisIsLife]

Letting anyone else know that you are going to CTB is one of the worst things you can do if you are genuinely wishing to pass on. Majority of people, especially those you love/love you, are going to immediately take drastic actions to make sure you're "safe.

Exactly. I never told anyone for that reason.

 

[FuneralCry]

It's a terrible idea telling other people in advance about ctb plans and I believe that if someone seriously wants to die then they should never tell them instead I would see it as being beneficial to leave notes if one wishes to give an explanation to others or say farewell.

The reality is that so many in this world are against the right to die and don't wish to accept that suicide is a perfectly logical solution, and instead they will try to prevent it, meaning that they will try to prolong the person's suffering by potentially trying to interfere in their plans to die. People should be able to be open about their plans to leave without the fear of others trying to force them to stay here but unfortunately in this cruel world that is not the reality.