Venting Just stop!

[Cookiedough8956]

people need to stop belittling other people!
You DONT know the whole story, and you CANNOT bring that person down just bc you dont think their problems are not serious enough. Everyones personal problems are big to them; obviously.
You have no right to jump to conclusions.

So please
Stop with the :
"My problems are worse"
" well i purge more than you...im clearly need more help"
"My scars are deeper"
"Oh yeah? Well i attempted more than you. What do you know?"
Etc.

Personally, i don't look like a 80 lb anorexic cutter, in fact i talk pretty cheerful.
But you dont know my story.
And without knowing my story, you have no right to jump to any conclusions.

We are all here to help each other and support each other. Thats what this forum is about.

 

[Weeping Garbage Can]

Thanks for restating this

 

[Meretlein]

I agree. I hate when you have to justify your misery just because some people had it worse. I'm well aware that there were people in concentration camps but their experience does not affect my life and my suffering.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

I agree. I hate when you have to justify your misery just because some people had it worse. I'm well aware that there were people in concentration camps but their experience does not affect my life and my suffering.

Agreed!
And then they make all types of assumptions of you JUST cause you dont fit the category.
Nah u cant have an eating disorder you look too healthy. Proves the ignorance in some.
Nah ur cuts arent deep, your just asking for attn.
So what? Now i have to look a certain way for u to take me serious?
Same goes for cheerful ppl - nah no way hes depressed. Hes alwsys smiling ..got so many friends!

 

[Meretlein]

Agreed!
And then they make all types of assumptions of you JUST cause you dont fit the category.
Nah u cant have an eating disorder you look too healthy. Proves the ignorance in some.
Nah ur cuts arent deep, your just asking for attn.
So what? Now i have to look a certain way for u to take me serious?
Same goes for cheerful ppl - nah no way hes depressed. Hes alwsys smiling ..got so many friends!

The worst one for me is when people think nothing traumatic has happened to you so you have no right to be in pain.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

The worst one for me is when people think nothing traumatic has happened to you so you have no right to be in pain.

Fucking dumb i swear (not you)

 

[About_to_Go]

Where is this happening?

 

[Cookiedough8956]

Where is this happening?

What do u mean where? This is a general statement. People should be reminded.

 

[Sixfeetunder]

Agreed. One-uppers are the worst. Yes, someone has it worse, but that doesn't invalidate what I'm going through.

 

[About_to_Go]

What do u mean where? This is a general statement. People should be reminded.

Well you're giving some pretty specific examples and relating it to yourself. I just wanted to see where it's happening for contextual purposes. You don't have to oblige though

 

[Meretlein]

Where is this happening?

It tends to happen on these kinds of forums. I kind of think it's because people want to reassure themselves that their problems are bad and they are not weak for wanting to give up.

 

[Whatshername]

Well you're giving some pretty specific examples and relating it to yourself. I just wanted to see where it's happening for contextual purposes. You don't have to oblige though

Specific indeed
https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/farewell-from-just-about-done.12725/

 

[Cookiedough8956]

Well you're giving some pretty specific examples and relating it to yourself. I just wanted to see where it's happening for contextual purposes. You don't have to oblige though

Yes i provided examples of what happened to me; and showing that its NOT okay.
I dont want it to happen to someone else and i just want ppl to be wary of whay they are saying; and to not judge.
Thats all im trying to say here.
I can somewhat handle ignorant, closeminded ppl but what about ppl who are very vulnerable atm, that any little thing might push them over the edge,
Thats not something u want to in ur conscience.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

Specific indeed
https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/farewell-from-just-about-done.12725/

Dont start something.
Ive read, i dont agree with what he said, personally it was uncalled for.

im stating a general statement as well.

 

[Whatshername]

Dont start something.
Ive read, i dont agree with what he said, personally it was uncalled for.

im stating a general statement as well.

I agree with the general statement, and I didn't "start" anything. I don't think I passed judgement on either side. I just answered @About_to_Go 's question.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

I agree with the general statement, and I didn't "start" anything. I don't think I passed judgement on either side. I just answered @About_to_Go 's question.

Okay, thanks for clarifying.

 

[About_to_Go]

Yes i provided examples of what happened to me; and showing that its NOT okay.
I dont want it to happen to someone else and i just want ppl to be wary of whay they are saying; and to not judge.
Thats all im trying to say here.
I can somewhat handle ignorant, closeminded ppl but what about ppl who are very vulnerable atm, that any little thing might push them over the edge,
Thats not something u want to in ur conscience.

Fair enough. Did you tell them that you have atypical anorexia? It makes sense that they'd be confused since anorexia nervosa, which is commonly referred to as just 'anorexia', is characterized by having extremely low weight. I think educating people is the best way to stop ignorance.

 

[borntodie777]

Tl;dr

 

[Cookiedough8956]

Fair enough. Did you tell them that you have atypical anorexia? It makes sense that they'd be confused since anorexia nervosa, which is commonly referred to as just 'anorexia', is characterized by having extremely low weight. I think educating people is the best way to stop ignorance.

If they'd ask me personally i would most def explained.
Instead of making assumptions
How am i to know what ppl are thinking?
U wanna say something? Tell me! Lets clear this up together.

I was diagnosed with anorexia subtype bulimia. Plumeted to 80 lbs.
Sent into recovery.
Before "healthy" wouldve been a trigger for me. Now i learned to cope with this.

But if i wasnt? If i didnt learn to cope?
All bc you want to go and assume things
This is my point.
Be wary of what u say!

 

[borntodie777]

If they'd ask me personally i would most def explained.
Instead of making assumptions
How am i to know what ppl are thinking?
U wanna say something? Tell me! Lets clear this up together.

I was diagnosed with anorexia subtype bulimia. Plumeted to 80 lbs.
Sent into recovery.
Before "healthy" wouldve been a trigger for me. Now i learned to cope with this.

But if i wasnt? If i didnt learn to cope?
All bc you want to go and assume things
This is my point.
Be wary of what u say!

Do you really get so butthurt by mere words? You oughta grow a tougher skin, love

 

[About_to_Go]

If they'd ask me personally i would most def explained.
Instead of making assumptions
How am i to know what ppl are thinking?
U wanna say something? Tell me! Lets clear this up together.

I was diagnosed with anorexia subtype bulimia. Plumeted to 80 lbs.
Sent into recovery.
Before "healthy" wouldve been a trigger for me. Now i learned to cope with this.

But if i wasnt? If i didnt learn to cope?
All bc you want to go and assume things
This is my point.
Be wary of what u say!

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend, it was just the way the OP was worded — it read like you are currently suffering from it.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend, it was just the way the OP was worded — it read like you are currently suffering from it.

At the moment; im trying not to relapse. But things like that dont help.

 

[About_to_Go]

At the moment; im trying not to relapse. But things like that dont help.

Well I'm glad to hear that you're not suffering from it right now. Hopefully you don't relapse, I wish you the best.

 

[Whatshername]

If they'd ask me personally i would most def explained.
Instead of making assumptions
How am i to know what ppl are thinking?
U wanna say something? Tell me! Lets clear this up together.

I was diagnosed with anorexia subtype bulimia. Plumeted to 80 lbs.
Sent into recovery.
Before "healthy" wouldve been a trigger for me. Now i learned to cope with this.

But if i wasnt? If i didnt learn to cope?
All bc you want to go and assume things
This is my point.
Be wary of what u say!

I absolutely understand where you're coming from. People make assumptions that hurt, but I do think it's better to clear the air personally afterwards. I was only a bit bothered that you started a thread calling this person basically an ignorant fucktard without even naming him. I din't mean to hurt you, but that was a bit too sneaky for my taste. I do wish you the best with recovery.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

Well I'm glad to hear that you're not suffering from it right now. Hopefully you don't relapse, I wish you the best.

Thank you

 

[Cookiedough8956]

I absolutely understand where you're coming from. People make assumptions that hurt, but I do think it's better to clear the air personally afterwards. I was only a bit bothered that you started a thread calling this person basically an ignorant fucktard without even naming him. I din't mean to hurt you, but that was a bit too sneaky for my taste. I do wish you the best with recovery.

It might've come off that way but i wasn't meaning that at all. After seeimg what he wrote; i just wanted to make a general statement. I was thinking, perhaps im alright but what about other ppl who didnt get into recovery? Or dealing with other things.I think its good to have reminders like this sometimes- esp when everything is blowing up. We need to stop and think.

Lets just mindful of things we say

Thank you.

 

[Whatshername]

It might've come off that way but i wasn't meaning that at all. After seeimg what he wrote; i just wanted to make a general statement. I was thinking, perhaps im alright but what about other ppl who didnt get into recovery? Or dealing with other things.I think its good to have reminders like this sometimes- esp when everything is blowing up. We need to stop and think.

Lets just mindful of things we say

Thank you.

I understand and as I said, I agree with the sentiment. We all make assumptions sometimes, myself included Peace

 

[Johnnythefox]

was only a bit bothered that you started a thread calling this person basically an ignorant fucktard without even naming him

No need for naming imo

 

[Psilo]

Nice post!

Things went in the wrong way lately, stop the hate!

 

[lululoo]

I didn't see where this happened specifically to you, but I have seen this attitude on here and I agree. There is no requirement to look and act 100% depressed 100% of the time in order to be a "legit" suicidal person.

I think generally there is too much meanness on this forum and I will probably back away soon. It was a real comfort to me at first but now people are just rude to each other. Whether it's accusing them of being fake depressed, of being a scammer (obviously some are, but many innocent people were accused too), of being too stupid to realized they are being scammed, of just being stupid in general, whatever....

Maybe things will calm down, time will tell. But although I value the freedom to discuss suicide here, I'm not sure it's worth the bullshit.

Oh and about the eating disorder comments you got specifically, I'm sorry that happened to you. I haven't had a full blown eating disorder but I do have massive food issues and no one ever believes me because the restricting and overeating balance out somewhat so I never get very overweight or very thin.