Discussion Just a feeling

[a_french_guy]

you ever had a secret that you protected more than anything in the world? the kind of secret you don't know who to confide in? the kind of secret that could destroy your reputation. it's hard to bear in the long run and it becomes a burden... it's the kind of secret that makes you feel different from others. I've always been very afraid of the judgment of others... man I want to confide but I'm too afraid of being rejected even here

 

[The anhedonic one]

Just let it all out. Confession is good for the soul as they say.
Unburden yourself here. It's completely anonymous.

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

Everybody has secrets and you should only share if you are comfortable with sharing that secret and no one should force you unless if you want it out there. The most judgemental people in the world are the ones with the "darkest secret" and trust me I always go by this saying" people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones"

"This means that you should not criticise other people for bad qualities in their character that you have yourself". I know two of the biggest liars in the world but they are calling me a liar.. hahaha…

 

[a_french_guy]

You all are right... and then shit it's anonymous afterall
I'm a foot fetishist
it is very hard to live for me. I feel different from others and helpless. I didn't want to feel that! It is unfair. Ever since I was little I have debated it to keep it a secret. maybe I took a step by talking about it here... I'm afraid of your reactions to be honest...
I don't even know if I'm speaking properly because google translate isn't known for its rock-solid accuracy

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

i guess i do, even in the past when i have shared it online, quite a few people were judgemental and hostile about it. this community though seems supportive although ive never truly tried to open up there ive seen others do, i think it's a better community to share a secret etc in than any other communities.

It's everywhere even online or in person people will always have different opinions when it comes on how you deal with certain situations etc. However, if the general consensus understand what you are going through then that's fine. I have been viewed as weak by other women online but it is because they want you to do better and be better for yourself. I have read loads and loads of forums since 10 years ago and majority of these people that post about their stories or situations always have people who might be harsh, I mean that's the reason why it's internet. I remember Rihanna mentioning one time that she avoids reading gossip or anything to do with her on the internet because she said she was hurt by some things that people said about her and this is a woman who is beautiful, rich as and successful and that's why I always say that the internet and technology is "a double-edged sword".

 

[a_french_guy]

Of course, I'm not scary about it...I've never told anyone about it...and I'm way too shy to tell a woman...and anyone.
but i'm ashamed

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

if you are ashamed then you need to work on yourself… there are people like Jack the Ripper that murdered a lot of people and I think that's the only thing you need to be ashamed of. Embarrassed I might understand that since this girl said to me G, you are not bad but it's these people around you they are crazy, mind you "these people were old news" but they somehow try to insert into my life to remain relevant and yeah their life must be "great" if they focus on me that much and have to tell everyone connected to me how terrible of a human being iam… hahahaa and follow me even online to tell me how great their life is … yeah sure Jan …whilst following me a "friendless" person whilst I'm not even checking for them... Hahaha

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

Everyone is different. I once saw a documentary about fetishes. And believe me, there were some very weird fetishes.
But yours isn't abnormal. I believe it's quite a common fetish in both men and women.
I have a fetish about women with bushy eyebrows. I LOVE THEM.
I don't know why I love them but I do.
It is what it is.
If you had a fetish about dogs arseholes then that really would be a fucked up fetish.

Haha "Bushy" that's something this closeted gay man would talk about hahah!! I can understand though he liked men … and why would anyone be so invested in another person's body part like that, that's a definition of being "creepy" but if you love it then, good for you…

 

[OceanBlue]

I have a fetish about women with bushy eyebrows.

Looking at Brezhnev's eyebrows on a woman arouses you?

I'm a foot fetishist

That seems very common and also mild. It also causes no harm, so there's no reason you need to be so burdened by it - you could talk to an experienced therapists about this, they could help you accept that part of yourself.

You could watch some documentaries about how different humans can be in this regard, maybe it would help you feel less different. I'm sure your colleagues would gossip about this, but what the normies think is not a good indication of anything.

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

Looking at Brezhnev's eyebrows on a woman arouses you?


That seems very common and also mild. It also causes no harm, so there's no reason you need to be so burdened by it - you could talk to an experienced therapists about this, they could help you accept that part of yourself.

You could watch some documentaries about how different humans can be in this regard, maybe it would help you feel less different. I'm sure your colleagues would gossip about this, but what the normies think is not a good indication of anything.

Hahah colleagues most workplaces are filled with gossip… I heard people gossiping about each other at work all the time. Calling each other snakes, racist and all sorts of things and then smiling at each other the next minute. People do gossip, period as I have seen it with my own eyes at work. I remember even a colleague telling me how much my work place was filled with so much gossip and I tried to stay clear out of it until in March " well something done by someone else" and now I'm the gossip. Truth is people gossip and will always gossip and Even the biggest gossip mongers will get "gossiped" by other people, that's the circle of life.