Discussion It is okay to fake suicide?

[CherryLady]

Hello, I'm new to SS. I started to read a lot of posts here, and had some questions in my mind, so I'm happy that I finally made an account to comment.
I have a lot of suicide thoughts, and I'm used to self-destructive behaviors. I always think of kms, but I don't have courage to do it. Sometimes I think I don't wanna die either. But, I don't know what to do, I feel in pain every day. I really feel lonely and sad. And I want to people, specially my friends, to notice that I'm sad. Just talking and venting to them don't help me at all. I want to feel that they care, I want their pity because I feel empty. So, sometimes I think about faking suicide. But, somehow, I feel that doing it is disrespectful to those who real wanna leave this world and be in peace. Please don't demoralize me saying that I'm just an attention seeker. I aware of that. With all the respect for everyone here, I wanna ask your opinions about faking suicide or other ideas that any can share. (Also, I'm sorry for my English, as I am not a native speaker). Thank you.

 

[thebookofdisquiet]

Right and wrong is completely subjective, I think it's totally okay and you can do whatever you want, but maybe someone else would think it's disrespectful, so I wouldn't worry about people's moral views.

 

[soonatpeace777888]

You should just reach out to people and tell them you want some empathy because you are hurting. Lots of people do faux suicide attempt for attention or for cries of help so it wouldn't be anything new, but you could wind up hurting yourself and regretting it.

 

[macieko0220]

If you dont have enough courage to tell your friends/family about your problems (prob. depression) and you know that you wont do it i think its better to fake suicide than to just wait a few months and do it for real.
I was in the same place as you. Everyday i thought about cutting my wrists seriously enough to make it seem that I wanted to kms but not enough to really do it. As the time went on i decided not to do it and as a result i starter planning to do it for real (my parents took me to the psychiatrist 2 days before i was gonna do it)
So if there is no way you are gonna tell i think its better if you do it

 

[MyChoiceAlone]

Right and wrong is completely subjective, I think it's totally okay and you can do whatever you want, but maybe someone else would think it's disrespectful, so I wouldn't worry about people's moral views.

yes. it's not our opinions that matter. have you considered how your friends may react? especially if they found out it was staged? might make your problems worse.

 

[olearius]

Attention seeking is okay. You need attention and support - that is okay. All people need attention and it is always valid to have that need. even if some people have uninformed opinions about who is deserving of attention. If someone had a broken arm, no one (ideally) would call them and attention seeker for needing medical attention.

It sounds like life is really hard for you right now and you really need medical attention and emotional support - because mental illness is a medical problem. And to be clear I'm not saying suicidal ideation is mental illness bc it can exist independently of mental health problems.

You don't have to tell anyone you're suicidal and thinking about suicide. But it might be good to reach out to your family doctor or a relative about seeing a doctor for how low you're feeling.

 

[alonely]

Being suicidal isn't a competition, whatever your experience is, it is valid. Whatever you choose to do or not do for yourself is valid.

I don't think it makes much sense for someone to get offended at another person's experience or their choices for themselves.

Be careful though if you do not want to get a welfare check or warded - if you tell someone you're going to harm yourself in any way, you may get cops or medical professionals at your door. Be aware of that, whether you want that to happen or not.

Sorry to hear you're stuggling so much, hugs.

 

[Lavender Dreams]

If someone is desperate enough to fake something so stigmatising and awful, then to me that is enough information to say things are not quite right, and that person requires help too. Not everyone will agree, but that's my take on it.

 

[OutOfTheVoid]

are you thinking about faking an attempt or faking your death?

at first i assumed the latter based on the title, but in your post it sounds more like you want to fake an attempt to get sympathy from others? in either case i could understand why someone would think about doing that, and i dont like to moralize. my first thought is that it sounds difficult to pull off, so i would try to explore easier options

you said you do genuinely have suicidal thoughts and self-destructive behaviors, maybe you could mention that to someone (like a doctor or therapist) to try to get hospitalized? i imagine you'd probably get hospitalized if you fake a suicide in a way that others would know about your 'attempt', so you might be able to just skip a step and still get sympathy from others without having to lie to them

 

[Monoblock_Chair]

Hello, I'm new to SS. I started to read a lot of posts here, and had some questions in my mind, so I'm happy that I finally made an account to comment.
I have a lot of suicide thoughts, and I'm used to self-destructive behaviors. I always think of kms, but I don't have courage to do it. Sometimes I think I don't wanna die either. But, I don't know what to do, I feel in pain every day. I really feel lonely and sad. And I want to people, specially my friends, to notice that I'm sad. Just talking and venting to them don't help me at all. I want to feel that they care, I want their pity because I feel empty. So, sometimes I think about faking suicide. But, somehow, I feel that doing it is disrespectful to those who real wanna leave this world and be in peace. Please don't demoralize me saying that I'm just an attention seeker. I aware of that. With all the respect for everyone here, I wanna ask your opinions about faking suicide or other ideas that any can share. (Also, I'm sorry for my English, as I am not a native speaker). Thank you.

Are you this type of person? Btw seeking for attention is normal it's just a human feeling. Don't beat your self up thinking it's a wrong thing to do. You can make some good friends. A partner who will understand that and shower you with attention.
I met a girl exactly like you in 2020. She wanted attention and care so badly she lied that she got r*ped. So yeah! Don't beat yourself up. If you are a girl specially it's just normal. After a while everything will fall into the right place.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Welcome to the forum! I fully understand your desire that you wanna talk to someone about your feelings and desires and you are lonely, too. Loneliness sucks. You should try other ways and only if there's nothing that can help CTB can be still an option.

I clearly do not suggest you try to fake a suicide or only the attempt because that can go horribly wrong, ending up in a hospital, in a psych ward, even severe and permanent injuries (brain damage) are possible. Avoid unnecessary risks because there's nothing to make fun of CTB it's a one time decision and once it is successful there is no way back.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm so sorry you feel so alone and are struggling so much. Like others have said- it's natural to hope for support from other people- especially your friends.

All I will say is- sadly, so many people turn out to be 'fair weather' friends. Say- you do manage to pull off a realistic looking attempt and they believe you. You maybe get that extra support for a few weeks- perhaps a few months. What if they start drifting away after that? Then, what do you do? Attempt again? It may sound cruel to say it but- depending so much on others can be devastating when they keep letting you down.

It's so sad to see it but my Dad once said- 'People will only be patient listening to your problems up to a certain point.' Even with more extreme behaviour, I wonder if sometimes, people just become used to it.

In terms of the solution- I don't really know. I would think just telling a few close friends you are considering suicide OUGHT to be enough to make them want to give you more support. I think people have had varying experiences with therapy here but- that could be another outlet. You clearly need to talk to someone. It would be nice to think we could rely on our friends for that- but I don't think we can always. Therapists are paid to listen! Plus- there's here too. This is a great place to vent and just let everything out. It's not quite the same as real life of course but- it's something. I used to journal a lot too at one point- just to get those thoughts out somewhere.

I'm sorry if what I've said has come across as really harsh. I don't know your friends- obviously. Perhaps- given the chance- they will be more supportive. I suppose I'm basing this on my own cynical experience- that people- sadly aren't that reliable unfortunately. I hope you do find a way to get the support you need and deserve.