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Triangle
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- Jan 29, 2020
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For as long as I can remember I've found the world to be very unintuitive and contrary to myself... The things that are popular are always the things I couldn't care for, while the things I liked were never liked by anybody around me. The things other people want are always things I don't, to the point where things that people consider universal human nature just don't apply to me, and people think something is wrong with me. I don't like to eat around others and consider mealtime to be a private time to relax, but others consider it to be a social time and decide I'm "wrong" instead of just accepting that people can have different preferences.
I'm worried for my future because it seems like there is no career out there where I can thrive. My personality is that I excel when I work in solitude, am able to be an individual, and can do a variety of different things from different fields. But this directly contradicts what... just about 100% of careers want from you. Everything involves working as a team, being empathetic, and specialization, which are the exact things that go against what's natural and enjoyable for me. It really bothered me when I found out that science is no longer the stereotypical solitary field for nerds as I had envisioned as a young child. The only jobs that seem to allow you to work alone tend to be physical labor, and I just don't have the physical health or a large enough build to even begin to do that. Even among introverts, I feel like I have a disadvantage. Most introverts seem to be sensitive people who can easily understand and care about others, and that just isn't me. I'm not a cruel, rude, or mean person (which I worry people will judge me as), but I simply don't easily relate to others or feel their feelings myself, even if I try to be polite and nice.
I get that socializing is a skill that can be developed, but what cannot change is that my natural personality is one where I thrive when I can do things on my own. Whether or not I could work in a team isn't what I care about, I just feel like the world wants me to always be faking it and never be able to succeed AND be myself. It feels awfully unfair that this huge facet of who I am has to be denied and forced into hiding just because I'm not good at one thing. You can be bad at drawing, mathematics, writing, science, history, and just about anything else, but I can't find a career which would allow me to be myself even though I'm fairly good at all those other things, just because I'm not good with conversation. It's one thing, but the world is so stubbornly intolerant of letting me live because of it.
I took an online career test that's supposed to come up with many possibilities for things you would be good at, but it ended up finding "1 career in 1 field" out of all the ones in its database "based on 15+ years of experience profiling 1200+ careers." It didn't tell me what the one thing was, it wanted me to pay for my results (in my case, my singular result). The images show my preview results:
I'm worried for my future because it seems like there is no career out there where I can thrive. My personality is that I excel when I work in solitude, am able to be an individual, and can do a variety of different things from different fields. But this directly contradicts what... just about 100% of careers want from you. Everything involves working as a team, being empathetic, and specialization, which are the exact things that go against what's natural and enjoyable for me. It really bothered me when I found out that science is no longer the stereotypical solitary field for nerds as I had envisioned as a young child. The only jobs that seem to allow you to work alone tend to be physical labor, and I just don't have the physical health or a large enough build to even begin to do that. Even among introverts, I feel like I have a disadvantage. Most introverts seem to be sensitive people who can easily understand and care about others, and that just isn't me. I'm not a cruel, rude, or mean person (which I worry people will judge me as), but I simply don't easily relate to others or feel their feelings myself, even if I try to be polite and nice.
I get that socializing is a skill that can be developed, but what cannot change is that my natural personality is one where I thrive when I can do things on my own. Whether or not I could work in a team isn't what I care about, I just feel like the world wants me to always be faking it and never be able to succeed AND be myself. It feels awfully unfair that this huge facet of who I am has to be denied and forced into hiding just because I'm not good at one thing. You can be bad at drawing, mathematics, writing, science, history, and just about anything else, but I can't find a career which would allow me to be myself even though I'm fairly good at all those other things, just because I'm not good with conversation. It's one thing, but the world is so stubbornly intolerant of letting me live because of it.
I took an online career test that's supposed to come up with many possibilities for things you would be good at, but it ended up finding "1 career in 1 field" out of all the ones in its database "based on 15+ years of experience profiling 1200+ careers." It didn't tell me what the one thing was, it wanted me to pay for my results (in my case, my singular result). The images show my preview results:
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