BlackEyedDog
Mage
- May 6, 2024
- 538
well, there are those times when u feel really down and alone and just one person reaches out and it can make it better. in those times it doesn't even have to be a romantic partner or someone super special.
Been thinking about this.One person can accomplish a lot, but I think most people will typically need more than one person in their life. Different connections give you different benefits. Different people can fit different moods and more appropriate for certain subjects. It's nice to have a primary romantic partner and then supplemental friends to fill in the cracks.
It's a lot of pressure to dump on one person expecting them to be everything for you.
It's sad how the more empathic, the more aware you are, the more you suffer. These people.. they come into our lives, they pretend we matter and then they get bored and toss us away like we're some kind of old phone model and not humans with minds as infinite universes.Yes, but he doesn't want to be around me anymore, he got bored of me where I would have spent decades more analyzing every inch of him and his mind, and it was so easy to make up something to talk about, i felt seen, like someone had finally crossed into my world and cared.
Thank you for your kind words, I'm still new here so I don't know how this reply thing works.It's sad how the more empathic, the more aware you are, the more you suffer. These people.. they come into our lives, they pretend we matter and then they get bored and toss us away like we're some kind of old phone model and not humans with minds as infinite universes.
I can imagine what you're going through @flunkky, I'm going through it as well. I'm really sorry you're experiencing this, you don't deserve it! : (
<3Thank you for your kind words
I wonder if it wasn't always like this. I mean I haven't lived for thousands of years but (based on the available information) looking at the human mind and the human evolution in general the one trait that seems to rule them all is selfishness. Buddhism teaches that thirst is the root of all evil, we always want suff, nothing is ever enough. I think this thirst is selfishness. I look at humans and I look at myself as well and I see this thirst. But I am aware of it and how it affects me and the ones around me and I try to manage it. Others.. I'm not so sure.It's true especially as of late, it seems anyone can toss another person aside as soon as they've juiced out all entertainment from them and all they've had to give. It's cruel considering the complex mind of even just one person, like taking a few bites of an apple and tossing it, to put it simply.
No, no, I completely understand what you mean. I suppose it is the abundance and lack of self awareness, makes much more sense. I think though unfortunately this lack of appreciation and trust in abundance does come from confidence, being confident that you'll always get more because you're so great or pretty, if that makes sense? Which is just rather sad because confidence is supposed to be a positive thing, no? I haven't looked much into Buddhism, but they seem to have wonderful values and have got their stuff together. It's more widely accepted today to indulge in the plentiful options, and even if they aren't plentiful, people often become bitter and angry at the fact that they aren't, further pushing people to the other side. (I'm definitely losing my train of thought here, but I hope my point is jumping across somewhat)<3
I wonder if it wasn't always like this. I mean I haven't lived for thousands of years but (based on the available information) looking at the human mind and the human evolution in general the one trait that seems to rule them all is selfishness. Buddhism teaches that thirst is the root of all evil, we always want suff, nothing is ever enough. I think this thirst is selfishness. I look at humans and I look at myself as well and I see this thirst. But I am aware of it and how it affects me and the ones around me and I try to manage it. Others.. I'm not so sure.
So maybe this is why they're jucing out all the entertainment and moving on, they always want more, it is never enough. And they don't understand what they're doing because they're ignorant.
I think it was always like this. I think that if our society would have shown more love and understanding then we would be in a different place right now.
Hmm.. there's also the fact that for various reasons they have more options then us. Imagine if you have one bag of cherries every year. When you do get them you eat them slowly, you focus on how they taste, you realize how good they are, you appreaciate them, you enjoy them! Others who have plenty of bags don't appreciate them, they eat them fast, they gobble them up. Who cares? They can always get more.
I'm not sure if I make much sense, sometimes I ramble. I just, I had a bad day, I haven't slept much, I'm sorry. I agree with you though.
Yes, that is correct! They have plenty but feel less. This reminds me of animals which have highly specialized in order to survive their stark environments. They achieve the most of what they have, they maximize their returns. Maybe this is why we felt so much when we met them, we need love too so when we finally experienced it, we tried to make the most of it, the best of it. We appreciated it.I suppose it is the abundance and lack of self awareness
this lack of appreciation and trust in abundance does come from confidence, being confident that you'll always get more because you're so great or pretty
Hmm.. well, yes, it is a positive thing when it is based on truth. It helps, it gives us the strength to move forward in a controlled and safe way. Like: I've hiked for many years, I went through many different scenarios and now I'm experienced enough to know what to do and how to do it when I'm in the mountains. I'm confident that I can make if I find myself going through one or a combination of the scenarios that I've been through. Period! If I continue with I'm confident that I can make it through ANYTHING because I went through all those different scenarios then I lie to myself. That's overconfidence! You never know what you can find around the corner. Every situation can be different and should always be treated as such. Confidence not based on truth can be bad for us and for the ones around us.Which is just rather sad because confidence is supposed to be a positive thing, no?
It is never enough for them so they keep taking again and again and again with no regard for the suffering they cause. I understand their thirst, it's all these drugs, these "poisoned gifts". But it's not difficult to move past this thirst. You can either remove these "gifts" from your environment or replace them with healthy ones. This requires awareness, understanding and the will to do good. Most don't have any of these attributes. : (It's more widely accepted today to indulge in the plentiful options, and even if they aren't plentiful, people often become bitter and angry at the fact that they aren't, further pushing people to the other side.