Well the thing is, I'm too stupid to kill myself. I treid hanging 2 days ago and today, but I just choked myself. I don't want to involve people in my death and live with my parents so can't order drugs.
I read that it's easier for a young woman without experience than a man to find someone. But ever heard of "hit the wall". If I'm worthless at 25, why not end it now. I am always anxious. I've been on reddit on r/agegap. Guess what 30/40/50/60/70 year old men want women in their 20s. And apperently there are no shortage of them who want to date a much older men. I think if your over the age of 30, it is definetly better to be a guy in terms of dating. You know many women in their 3ß/50/60/70s dating 20 something year old men?
You don't know that you're going to be worthless at 25. I think the best thing for you to do is live in the moment and not worry what is going to happen four years from now. If you spend all your time worrying about the future then you're not living in the present. There's a saying that goes.....if you have one foot in the future and one foot in the past then you're pissing on the present. It's so true. Don't worry about this dating age thing. You need to get yourself better first. It may be a long process but every step counts. Let things happen. Don't fight the good.
It sounds like you are MGTOW maybe? What is according to you atop tier man? I don't want a millionaire. If he earns the same as me or abit less it's okay. I want someone to genuinely love me. If you talk about appearence I don't like bodybuilder like looking men. I would describe my taste in men as "theoretical nerd", maybe? Google Peter Scholze. Is he average looking? Or the guy in the pic? Is he over-average looking?
Why do you care so much about what other people think? You're putting pressure on yourself because you say your parents don't want you to spend another year in college. So what? They're going to get over it. This is your life, remember that. You have to do what makes you happy. When you meet a guy, you'll know if you like him or not. It doesn't matter what he looks like or how many people you know find him attractive. Why does that matter so much to you? You have to just say screw it! There's also another saying that goes....what other people say about me or think about me is none of my business. It shouldn't be any if your business because you shouldn't care. You go for whatever makes you happy.
Its not that important, but there are many more lesbians than gay men, its not even close.
Something that is important is do not rely on "medicine". If you just now started using a drug and it is working, you are extremely fortunate. That part of life will only get worse. Drugs do permanent damage, even when they seemed to be helping at the time. They also have withdrawals. Many of us have found that to be true, including me. You need to be very cautious with psych drugs.
You shouldn't try to dissuade someone from taking a medication that is helping them.nwoukd you rather her go back into full depression and possibly kill herself? Don't tell her things will get worse because you don't know that. You don't know what she is on and how much she is on. I'm sure her psychiatrist is being cautious. But don't bring her down when she is feeling better.
I take Venlafaxin. They don't really have creazy side effects. And according to what I read and to my gp, they do not make you addicted. She said, it's also possible for me to take them for the rest of my life.
Listen to your psychiatrist. If this medication is helping you then keep taking it. Everyone responds differently and you can always talk with your doctor about being on these meds for a long time. Don't listen to people that try to dissuade you from doing something that is helping you and your mood.
I am sorry that I sound like I don't appreciate the advice given here. I was just trying to show my view of the world as I think I don't experience the world the same as most people do.
I think I am very naive and insecure. If I read something very often, I think it is true. But it seems that I was spendingtoo muxh time on the wrong websites.
What would you advice? I read that sport should help when you have depression. I am also about 10 kg over my ideal weight. If I would loose weight, I think I would be more confident about dating.
Should I better focus on becoming better, before I try dating? And how should I approach this?
You have to make yourself better before you enter into any relationship. If you don't love yourself how is anyone else going to love you? When you don't love yourself it shows and you aren't going to attract the kind if people who treat you right and respect you. You have to have self worth. And know your self worth. Know who you are and what you have to bring to the table. Right now the most important person in your life needs to be you. You have to fix you before starting on anything else. That is also something you can talk about with your therapist.
Don't even think about dating. Clean up your diet, because junk food causes depression. Start juicing. Quit sugar, caffeine and alcohol and gluten completely. Get into a sauna. Do yoga. Exercise, sweat, get sun, and fall in love with yourself for a few years.it works.
Good advice. That is what I said. It just shows how young she is when she asked that question. So young and so much to live for.
