Is it wrong to be envious of others

[StillWaiting]

I guess I am just sensitive.
People I know indirectly or directly show off how well they are doing.
It makes me feel envious of them and because of it ,I hate myself so much because I can't even do simple things well.
It is painful to know how well others are doing but I can't completely shut myself off from people(for example: my relatives)
My parents will make me feel guilty if I refuse to visit my relatives because it hurts me so much to know how well others are doing.

 

[divinized]

I feel the same way. I know it's not a good feeling to have but I do envy people who seem happier than me. (Which is a lot of people, lol) I don't show it though since I don't like coming off as negative.

 

[StillWaiting]

I feel the same way. I know it's not a good feeling to have but I do envy people who seem happier than me. (Which is a lot of people, lol) I don't show it though since I don't like coming off as negative.

I am trying my best not to show it but sometimes I just want to cut them off so I don't have to feel that way. Then again they have nothing wrong to deserve this treatment

 

[divinized]

I am trying my best not to show it but sometimes I just want to cut them off so I don't have to feel that way. Then again they have nothing wrong to deserve this treatment

Yep. I've cut off a few of my friends because of how much I envy them. It kind of just sucks to be around them after a while. They're good people but I felt left out.

 

[Threads]

No. It's a human emotion.

The best thing you can do is take the negative feelings you are having and turn them into something productive. Don't let your envious feelings dominate and control your life. I'm jealous of a lot of people, but those same people haven't suffered like I have. They have it easy. I know if they walked a mile in my shoes, they'd need a life alert.

Because they're going to fall, and not be able to get up.

 

[To match the colors]

in as world that was actually fair, it would be wrong to feel that but we dont live in such world so its completely normal to do so so dont beat yourself about it.

 

[concededarc]

Who dafuq cares what's right and wrong. You're gonna die anyway lol

 

[stargazer]

No

 

[Thoughtforms]

Comparison is the thief of joy

 

[worldexploder]

Being envious is apart of being human. I'm envious of the people who hurt me and got away with it - having fulfilling lives as I continue to live as an emotional burn victim. I'm often envious of people who are so good looking / charming that they can get away with doing half the work for twice the praise. It's unavoidable.

 

[azucaramargo]

spend soooooo much time/energy being jealous. or, enviious. not sure of the difference. one therapist told me, "To compare is to despair." But, I have a hard time not doing it.

 

[weedoge]

I guess I am just sensitive.
People I know indirectly or directly show off how well they are doing.
It makes me feel envious of them and because of it ,I hate myself so much because I can't even do simple things well.
It is painful to know how well others are doing but I can't completely shut myself off from people(for example: my relatives)
My parents will make me feel guilty if I refuse to visit my relatives because it hurts me so much to know how well others are doing.

I don't think its bad to envy other people, its just a good idea to check ourselves when possible so that envy doesn't become unnecessary hatred. Its only when you let it get really out of hand it can become an issue, but just being envious in itself isn't deplorable.

 

[Yuffe]

I don't think its bad to envy other people, its just a good idea to check ourselves when possible so that envy doesn't become unnecessary hatred. Its only when you let it get really out of hand it can become an issue, but just being envious in itself isn't deplorable.

Exactly, envy is a good thing if it motivates people.

 

[Trashcan]

It's not. It isn't the emotion that's the problem. It's what you do with it.

 

[Misanthrope]

It is not wrong to be envious, it is only really wrong when that envy manifests in some direct hostile way towards those you are envious of. A sort of mentality of, if I can't be happy no one can! Don't feel guilty you are envious of others who are not in pain, as it is an entirely understandable response to the unfairness of life. Guilt can bring its own pain if you are not careful. Despite the success of others can you still enjoy their company as people?

Take care, I wish you all the best.

 

[Meeseeks]

It's not wrong but it sure as shit isn't helpful to your mental health.

Makes me hop into all the "woulda, coulda, shouldas" in my life. No bueno.

 

[therhydler]

Right now I am envious of every single person I see because they don't feel like they have to ctb. (of course I can't be sure but I'm still envious)

 

[Severen]

No.

 

[MsM3talGamer]

I feel envy when I see happy families and couples. I don't feel guilty about it.