Is it useless to talk about CBT with close friends?

[Tommysway]

Hey guys,

I'm new to the forum and English isn't my first language, so bare with me.

I have though about cbt for many years but never took real steps to realize it, until a few months ago. Won't bore you with the details, but I feel that life ain't gonna be comfortable for me ever. Lost hope and don't see reasons to continue fighting to make myself comfortable/happy

Yet I still feel the strong urge to talk with people about it, that a close to me. Especially close friends. Maybe because it would make me feel less lonely or maybe I want someone to validate my decision or maybe, deep down, i just want someone to talk me out of it.

Anyways i don't feel it's fair to put someone in that position and i feel that it is useless anyways, because my feeling towards life isnt gonna change. What do you think ? Do you talk about it? And if so, does it help you in anyway?

 

[Linda]

It will depend very much on the friend, and I don't think there is any way of knowing in advance how each person will react.
It might be wiser to talk to someone a little more distant than a "friend", but someone you are sure you can trust.

 

[thealteredmind]

eeeeeh I'm not sure. what if they try to help you? what if the contact your family? or authorities? and then you end up locked up in a psych drugged up to the ass.

 

[divinemistress36]

I wouldn't they won't understand even my mentally ill friends don't quite get it.

 

[bipbapbop]

It depends on who your friend is but I wouldn't really recommend it. I thought my bff would understand because she has passive SI but instead she just freaked out when I told her I tried to CTB. Now I feel like I have someone watching me instead of supporting me.

 

[catladyJ]

In my experience, it can be very hard on other people, especially close friends and family. I have one friend that I talk about it with, but I'm wracked with guilt every time I do, which is part of why I've joined this forum. She wants to know if I decide to CTB and for our relationship I think that's fair, but I don't want to cause her undue stress and worry by talking it out beforehand.

 

[sickgirlzis]

depends on the friend and what you wanna hear.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Most people who never were suicidal cannot understand us. It's better to vent here and to discuss such stuff here.

 

[halleyscomet]

Yes.

Does it do anything? No. Will it cause you more pain in the long run? Absolutely. But for me personally, I wouldn't want people to be blind sighted by my ctb I find it needlessly cruel. I choose to be as open and honest as possible, if I'm going to exit from this world either way I may as well do it with nothing left to hide.

 

[Eudaimonic]

I'd say it generally is, especially since most people are not pro-choice and tend to react negatively. If they are depressed or suicidal themselves, they may understand better, but it's highly dependent on the person. I try to avoid it, but I still sometimes mention it.

 

[AkaRed]

Really REALLY depends on the friend, what they know of your mental health, what you know of theirs, shared history, everything.

Most people don't react very well in my experience, and its understandable as to why, but its often just made me feel worse. Not to be overly pessimistic, but it is worth thinking about if you don't think you can handle a negative reception from them.

If they're good to you, they'll listen and try their best to help. Wishing you the best.

<3

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Depends. I've had the range of responses from complete acceptance to having the cops sicced on me.

 

[UKscotty]

Depends if you want to CTB or you want help.

If you want to CTB then talking to others is a bad idea as we have a moral obligation to intervene.

If you want help or are not sure then a friend is a good start.

 

[BlockHammer]

Maybe first you have to know what tkind of person you want to share with, i have some good friend of mine, they were good people but they absolutely not build for suicidal talk like this. In fact i can guess judging by their belief and how do they talk about a certain topic that most of my friend aren't build for suicidal convo. I know this's gonna be cliche but yeah like everybody said, better know your friend tendancy first when it came to sensitive topic

 

[Endisclose]

CBT is cognitive behavioural therapy which is a legitimate subject of discussion with friends.. I presume you mean CTB here.. which is not so straightforward. You may talk about it if you're seeking help. If you wanna CTB you can't expect them to be quiet. I think it would be a litmus test of sorts for the friendship anyway.

I think over the course of time even if the friend were "understanding" it'll be a strain on the relationship and people's patience wears out eventually and one gets abandoned. One can find help by oneself on the internet.. Or maybe go to a landmark forum.. Maybe the friend can point you towards something like that.. That could help. I'd avoid talking about it repeatedly. Nobody likes a moaner. I've found the truth about that all too painfully so..