Help Is it love or stalking???

[TheDevilsAngel]

I really need help guys . He won't leave me alone his in my complex since Sunday and I can bearly leave my apartment. I'm so scared and he keeps banging at the door calling "babe babe" he says he won't hurt me but I feel he will be always has been writing notes expressing his love which I think is bs but anyway he tried to grab me yesterday to hug me and I ran in home and locked the door. I know it will never work and I keep telling him leave me alone. But his still here drunk and high and out of control.... :( plz help

 

[alwaysalone]

I really need help guys . He won't leave me alone his in my complex since Sunday and I can bearly leave my apartment. I'm so scared and he keeps banging at the door calling "babe babe" he says he won't hurt me but I feel he will be always has been writing notes expressing his love which I think is bs but anyway he tried to grab me yesterday to hug me and I ran in home and locked the door. I know it will never work and I keep telling him leave me alone. But his still here drunk and high and out of control.... :( plz help

Call the police. I don't know where you live but in most countries this behavior is against the law. If he's banging on your door and yelling at the very least it's disturbing the peace. I hope you get some help.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

Call the police. I don't know where you live but in most countries this behavior is against the law. If he's banging on your door and yelling at the very least it's disturbing the peace. I hope you get some help.

I want to but he will hear me and he always swore he would hurt me if I did. He has a warrant out of his arrest he has been running from them for four years. His so dangerous and I'm so scared. I need to call them tho as much as it scares me. Thanks for the reply.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I'm so sorry you're having to endure this. He's forced you into a difficult situation. I would have to recommend calling the police, which is a real pain, and you might end up going through this multiple times if he doesn't get the message the first time.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

I'm so sorry you're having to endure this. He's forced you into a difficult situation. I would have to recommend calling the police, which is a real pain, and you might end up going through this multiple times if he doesn't get the message the first time.

Thank you for your empathy towards me. I have two children and there also noticing how odd he is acting. My daughter who is eleven said he was weird and my son can't even go out and play. I've been through this with there dad and I'm like CMON not again sigh

I'll have to call I'm trying to convince myself because I know y'all are right.

 

[alwaysalone]

I want to but he will hear me and he always swore he would hurt me if I did. He has a warrant out of his arrest he has been running from them for four years. His so dangerous and I'm so scared. I need to call them tho as much as it scares me. Thanks for the reply.

He's still outside right?? If so go to the farthest room from him and speak low. Get in a closet if you have to or a bathroom and turn the water on. Also most dispatch personnel know the callers can't always speak plainly. So if you call and say 'hi mom can you come over' or even pretend to order food they may understand. Good luck please stay safe.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

He's still outside right?? If so go to the farthest room from him and speak low. Get in a closet if you have to or a bathroom and turn the water on. Also most dispatch personnel know the callers can't always speak plainly. So if you call and say 'hi mom can you come over' or even pretend to order food they may understand. Good luck please stay safe.

Yeah his downstairs drinking cans I can see his things and shadow from my bedroom window. His relentless. That's a good idea I don't talk to my family I'm pretty much alone but I want to be anonymous when calling I know he will go to jail and I just wanted to break up I don't mean no bad I need to be safe. Thank you for the reply and advice.

 

[alwaysalone]

Yeah his downstairs drinking cans I can see his things and shadow from my bedroom window. His relentless. That's a good idea I don't talk to my family I'm pretty much alone but I want to be anonymous when calling I know he will go to jail and I just wanted to break up I don't mean no bad I need to be safe. Thank you for the reply and advice.

You're very welcome. Try and be careful. These situations can be very dangerous as I'm sure you know. Hopefully they can come pick him up and you'll at least get a respite. Do you have restraining orders where you are? I know they don't stop people in and of themselves but having documentation never hurts. I hope you can find peace and safety.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

You're very welcome. Try and be careful. These situations can be very dangerous as I'm sure you know. Hopefully they can come pick him up and you'll at least get a respite. Do you have restraining orders where you are? I know they don't stop people in and of themselves but having documentation never hurts. I hope you can find peace and safety.

Yeah well it's more a safety order and a barring order. I had a safety order with my ex for five years. I didn't want this to happen again and yea it is dangerous I know he is very very dangerous in himself. He is like a bomb ready to explode:(

Sending back your way!

Also I will keep yall posted

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I'm sure I'm not the only one here checking back to see how things went for you. Hope you and your kids are safe.

 

[xhelx]

If it scares you and makes you uncomfortable, it's not love. You don't do such things to someone you love. He's being a creep. I hope you and your children will be safe

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

I'm sure I'm not the only one here checking back to see how things went for you. Hope you and your kids are safe.

Thank you so much. So yesterday was surprisingly quiet thank goodness but he was downstairs in the hallway. He stayed there last night but his not there now the last few hours. He has me paranoid tho I'm hoping so hard he doesn't come back here. He needs to understand that he can't be with someone who has given up on him and our relationship..I know what's best and this is the right choice. My kids are happier without him and so am I. I'm just worried and I've a sickly feeling in my tummy that he will be back and harm me. I'm staying strong tho and appreciate you writing today alot. Thanks for thinking about me and my children. Your a good soul

I will for sure be updating this is anything happens and if he comes back to harass me I've no choice but to call the police

Thanks again

Sending a hug your way!

If it scares you and makes you uncomfortable, it's not love. You don't do such things to someone you love. He's being a creep. I hope you and your children will be safe

Thank you I haven't seen him in hours I really am hoping he won't come back but if he does I'll let y'all know.

Ps thank you for your comment. I can't help but be scared he has hit me in the past and kicked me so yeah any wonder I'm scared and not to mention all the mental abuse sigh

 

[Shadows From Hell]

It doesn't matter if he hears you call the police or not. Call them and tell them he is threatening to harm you and your child. Let them know he has a warrant out on him, they'll be there fast.

You don't need to suffer from this abuse.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

It doesn't matter if he hears you call the police or not. Call them and tell them he is threatening to harm you and your child. Let them know he has a warrant out on him, they'll be there fast.

You don't need to suffer from this abuse.

As much as it's over I really don't want to do that he stabbed a guy he is getting big time in jail. But he will leave me no choice if he comes back my children mean the world to me I just wanna focus on them yano. It's just I'm afraid if he hears me he will break down the door or the windows in the apartment, he is out of control and worse when he is drunk

Your support means a lot during this time in my life. It's so quiet I love it I just hate that feeling inside. I'm so glad to be free from him and everything he has done to me

 

[Shadows From Hell]

As much as it's over I really don't want to do that he stabbed a guy he is getting big time in jail. But he will leave me no choice if he comes back my children mean the world to me I just wanna focus on them yano. It's just I'm afraid if he hears me he will break down the door or the windows in the apartment, he is out of control and worse when he is drunk

Your support means a lot during this time in my life. It's so quiet I love it I just hate that feeling inside. I'm so glad to be free from him and everything he has done to me

Stay safe, and keep the biggest kitchen knife you have nearby at all times. If he breaks in, you have every right to protect yourself and your kids, and use that knife if needed.

 

[Hvergelmir]

If he breaks in, you have every right to protect yourself and your kids, and use that knife if needed.

This is such recipe for disaster. Either one of you could end up dead, and the kids traumatized for life.
You really ought to get police in on this, before it escalates.

Defend yourself if necessary, yes - but avoid the scenario best you can.

 

[anonymouswebuser]

I really need help guys . He won't leave me alone his in my complex since Sunday and I can bearly leave my apartment. I'm so scared and he keeps banging at the door calling "babe babe" he says he won't hurt me but I feel he will be always has been writing notes expressing his love which I think is bs but anyway he tried to grab me yesterday to hug me and I ran in home and locked the door. I know it will never work and I keep telling him leave me alone. But his still here drunk and high and out of control.... :( plz help

That's desperation
please call help or the police or anyone this is not okay and you don't deserve to endure this
he himself should get help as well
stay safe

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

This is such recipe for disaster. Either one of you could end up dead, and the kids traumatized for life.
You really ought to get police in on this, before it escalates.

Defend yourself if necessary, yes - but avoid the scenario best you can.

That's desperation
please call help or the police or anyone this is not okay and you don't deserve to endure this
he himself should get help as well
stay safe

I have to agree with both of ye also. I need to call them I have been through this before and it didn't end well I had to get a safety order for five years. Eventually my ex left me alone and now my newer ex the guy who won't stop he is doing it also. It's a rollercoaster for sure. So his paid Monday that's when I need to call the police if he comes up in the meantime I need to call them then. It's after alcohol he is not well and Def needs help I know he has a lot going on in life. But haven't we all. I am just glad his not here now. Or so I assume

Stay safe, and keep the biggest kitchen knife you have nearby at all times. If he breaks in, you have every right to protect yourself and your kids, and use that knife if needed.

Wow I can just imagine that. That's like worse case scenario ima going to stay cool and try not piss him off if he comes back. I'm really hoping he wil stay away. But if not it's time to pick up this phone and call 999

 

[Shadows From Hell]

This is such recipe for disaster. Either one of you could end up dead, and the kids traumatized for life.
You really ought to get police in on this, before it escalates.

Defend yourself if necessary, yes - but avoid the scenario best you can.

She uses it for her and her kids protection if he breaks in, then defending herself is necessary. I know she's trying to avoid any type of scenario, but in this case, we don't know how this scenario is going to play out. Better to have it and not need it, than to not have it and need it.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

She uses it for her and her kids protection if he breaks in, then defending herself is necessary. I know she's trying to avoid any type of scenario, but in this case, we don't know how this scenario is going to play out. Better to have it and not need it, than to not have it and need it.

I really get your point here. It's scary but he has stabbed someone before he could easily do the same to me

 

[Shadows From Hell]

I really get your point here. It's scary but he has stabbed someone before he could easily do the same to me

I know it's a scary situation you're in. It's a real life nightmare come true. Just do whatever you have to do to protect yourself. Don't be scared to call the police. You said he's facing a long jail term, if they get him and lock him up, you will be fine.

Not calling the police is only making him know you won't call them. That's why he won't leave you alone.

 

[lionetta12]

I really need help guys . He won't leave me alone his in my complex since Sunday and I can bearly leave my apartment. I'm so scared and he keeps banging at the door calling "babe babe" he says he won't hurt me but I feel he will be always has been writing notes expressing his love which I think is bs but anyway he tried to grab me yesterday to hug me and I ran in home and locked the door. I know it will never work and I keep telling him leave me alone. But his still here drunk and high and out of control.... :( plz help

That's not just stalking, that's also kind of assault in the eye of the law if someone randomly tries to physically grab you and hug you out of nowhere without consent.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

I know it's a scary situation you're in. It's a real life nightmare come true. Just do whatever you have to do to protect yourself. Don't be scared to call the police. You said he's facing a long jail term, if they get him and lock him up, you will be fine.

Not calling the police is only making him know you won't call them. That's why he won't leave you alone.

That's a good point you just made he definitely has a reason why he won't leave me be it's been a hell of a week. I paid for everything all the bills and food and clothes for him. No wonder I've been struggling financially for so long he took advantage....and now I won't let him do it anymore. I refuse to give up

That's not just stalking, that's also kind of assault in the eye of the law if someone randomly tries to physically grab you and hug you out of nowhere without consent.

Your right I never looked at it like that. Tbh at this stage the thought of him putting hands on me for a hug well I'm so turned off him I wouldn't be able ...

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

He never left and now it's worse his under the staircase in a sleeping bag FFS. I have to make this call I'm so scared I need to be very clever he don't hear me
Okay MAJOR UPDATE

I just got off the phone to the police I made it clear that I didn't want him to know it was me and I also didn't mention the warrant as I felt it wasn't my place I'm keeping a look out now to see if they will arrive. Or see them when they arrive. I feel bad on him but he left me no choice. I need time to heal and be alone with my kids

 

[lionetta12]

He never left and now it's worse his under the staircase in a sleeping bag FFS. I have to make this call I'm so scared I need to be very clever he don't hear me
Okay MAJOR UPDATE

I just got off the phone to the police I made it clear that I didn't want him to know it was me and I also didn't mention the warrant as I felt it wasn't my place I'm keeping a look out now to see if they will arrive. Or see them when they arrive. I feel bad on him but he left me no choice. I need time to heal and be alone with my kids

The police should see in their system that he has a warrant when they look him up at least. Did they get him yet?

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

The police should see in their system that he has a warrant when they look him up at least. Did they get him yet?

I was thinking that also. Nope no sign of them yet and his on the staircase I see him from my bedroom window. I don't know how he will react when they come here probably very badly. I hate this and have no choice he got out of hand staying in a sleeping bag this is private property like.

 

[lionetta12]

I was thinking that also. Nope no sign of them yet and his on the staircase I see him from my bedroom window. I don't know how he will react when they come here probably very badly. I hate this and have no choice he got out of hand staying in a sleeping bag this is private property like.

Hopefully they handle the situation soon and can get him out of there without any problems.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

Hopefully they handle the situation soon and can get him out of there without any problems.

I'll keep yall posted on whatever happens they will hopefully be here soon it feels like hours I have been waiting but in reality maybe thirty mins or so or idk... Thanks because without you and everyone else here I wouldn't of had the strength to call them
By the time they came he was gone I heard them ask my neighbour who when they walked away looked at my door and smiled whatever that was about. But it was pointless guys I'll have to ring again when he drunk tomorrow and around here acting horrible again. He wrote another note saying he was sorry and he loves mei found it under the door. I can't believe he had left by the time they came it's infuriating

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

I'll keep yall posted on whatever happens they will hopefully be here soon it feels like hours I have been waiting but in reality maybe thirty mins or so or idk... Thanks because without you and everyone else here I wouldn't of had the strength to call them
By the time they came he was gone I heard them ask my neighbour who when they walked away looked at my door and smiled whatever that was about. But it was pointless guys I'll have to ring again when he drunk tomorrow and around here acting horrible again. He wrote another note saying he was sorry and he loves mei found it under the door. I can't believe he had left by the time they came it's infuriating

Okay so here is the story. I left to go to the store for food and he was on his way back from the store I told him the guards where here and he said why are they calling up and I said probably over you and told him they were talking to my neighbour which was true. When I came home he wasn't here he said he doesn't wanna get arrested so not much more I can do until I see him here again Sigh. I won't give up tho I will be free!!!

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

Stay strong!