I'm mindful, as a new user, that I have to build trust here. I did notice when I introduced myself, only one person replied and have largely been ignored in chat.
I don't have Twitter and haven't seen any articles except what has been mentioned on here. I also don't plan to get SN, so I won't be asking for any emails or advice on methods. And I do agree, don't give details out freely.
I hope, in good time people will be able to treat me like everyone else because I really need to feel I belong somewhere.
Thank you!
I understand your feelings but as a new member myself who is struggling and hearing that people aren't going to engage with me makes me feel terrible. I'm already alone in my life. If that's the case it's better for the site to not accept new members for a while instead of being ostracized.
So the ones that aren't are just collateral damage?
If I may...
If you want to be accepted and trusted, you'll need to put yourself out there more. I saw your intro thread and you mentioned you don't like talking about yourself, and that's okay, but then that meant there was nothing to connect with, so I didn't. Some folks are into pulling out the welcome wagon, and I saw another member did that, but that's not my way; if there's something I connect with or feel somehow moved by, I'll give a react at the least, and often comment. This isn't a tight knit community, people come and go all the time, and it's really easy to jump right in and get known.
Another way to be accepted and trusted is to comment on others' posts, whether giving support, advice, or relating.
Another way to be accepted and trust is to be honest and not creepy. Like, don't go trying to lure someone into a hookup, and don't try to get people to disclose any kind of information.
And finally, not putting guilt trips on people is a good way to be accepted and trusted. Be assertive enough to get your own needs met by asking questions or making effort, not trying to make people feel like they're doing something to you by not stepping up to figure out your needs or take ownership of them. Sorry if that sounds harsh, if we were in person you'd hear my time was pretty bland, a little assertive. Many hugs are given here, but they come spontaneously from the heart, they're not promised in the rules or anything. I sincerely hope this comment helped if you also are sincere and just trying to find your way here.
