Is it common to make friends on this forum?

[Sunny-Pia]

Do people make friends on here and communicate off the forum via phone, messaging, WhatsApp & ect? Thoughts????

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I can only speak for me and I haven't. I'm a little ambivalent whether that's a good idea or not. I guess like anything else in life, there are pluses and minuses.

 

[rainwillneverstop]

i guess some can, if the paranoia doesnt hold you back.

 

[Sunny-Pia]

Right guys!

 

[betternever2havbeen]

So far I've messaged a couple people but it hasn't come to anything, am just happy to chat on the forum-people seem friendly enough. Still not sure whether to look for a partner or go it alone.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Idk how common it is but it does happen. I miss him. We use to talk, he made me happy, talked about him visiting me. but like everyone else he's gone too. He said we're still friends but... I don't feel it. I don't not feel it but.... He has his life and I don't want to intrude.

 

[Sunny-Pia]

So far I've messaged a couple people but it hasn't come to anything, am just happy to chat on the forum-people seem friendly enough. Still not sure whether to look for a partner or go it alone.

Right, same here!

Idk how common it is but it does happen. I miss him. We use to talk, he made me happy, talked about him visiting me. but like everyone else he's gone too. He said we're still friends but... I don't feel it. I don't not feel it but.... He has his life and I don't want to intrude.

U mean u guys had like an attraction thing?

 

[Euthanza]

I have met a friend irl from this forum, also having couple private chat/conversation about planning to CTB. Some may respond if you're trying to be nice, some others just ignore or maybe they're just not logging in anymore. I like this forum more than any other social medias, of course except some LE/NPC infiltrators. Just be careful who you're revealing your real identity to, gotta make sure anything you say here stays in this forum.

 

[Salvation_]

I think most people do make friends, but they usually keep interactions to the site. It's a matter of privacy and anonymity, important as a user of this forum.

 

[Jrmull1993]

Not necessarily friends per se, but I've found after a week of being active on the forums you come across a person or two that you enjoy reading their input to the forum.

 

[Sunny-Pia]

I have met a friend irl from this forum, also having couple private chat/conversation about planning to CTB. Some may respond if you're trying to be nice, some others just ignore or maybe they're just not logging in anymore. I like this forum more than any other social medias, of course except some LE/NPC infiltrators. Just be careful who you're revealing your real identity to, gotta make sure anything you say here stays in this forum.

Thankyou so much for explaining that to me, I was not aware.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I've met a couple people and had some nice conversations using WhatsApp etc.

 

[Life_and_Death]

U mean u guys had like an attraction thing?

I guess

 

[Sunny-Pia]

I've met a couple people and had some nice conversations using WhatsApp etc.

Aah i see..good to know that, I was wondering what we can and cannot do on here.

I guess

Awww...

 

[Ta555]

I did. Made a very good friend and we communicated outside the forum but without sharing any personal or identifying info. Just talked a lot through messaging about our thoughts and suicidality. He ended up CTB and it hurt a lot. I don't blame him or feel mad at him but it was very painful to lose him because he was the only person I could talk to openly and any time about how I was feeling without being condescended to or ignored or made to feel like I was being dramatic. So I will not make any more friends on here because I can't stand to lose someone else important to me.

 

[Nightmare Painting]

Yeah, I met my best friend originally on this forum. We chatted, talked on the phone, knew each others names, addresses, face, personal history, and just about everything. She CTBed this week after having many attempts over the past few years and we never reported each other during our attempts. I never did get to meet her in person but I'm grateful I had her in my life even if we didn't agree on everything. She was the best person I've ever met and I irrationally hope to see her and my dog in some version of Heaven after I leave too.

Though I don't recommend sharing your personal information with someone until you really get to know them well over the span of months. If you're dead set on CTB soon I wouldn't recommend it at all, it's a huge risk.

 

[Sunny-Pia]

I did. Made a very good friend and we communicated outside the forum but without sharing any personal or identifying info. Just talked a lot through messaging about our thoughts and suicidality. He ended up CTB and it hurt a lot. I don't blame him or feel mad at him but it was very painful to lose him because he was the only person I could to openly and any time about how I was feeling without being condescended to or ignored or made to feel like I was being dramatic. So I will not make any more friends on here because I can't stand to lose someone

So sorry for your loss. I can understand your pain. That's life! just as we arrived into this world, we must depart someday as well. Some just sooner than others

 

[Lily (Osako)]

I would really like to. But I also understand why most don't. I mean we are here planning our deaths. It's painful to get to know someone, let them in, only to have them eventually leave.
But I also think that sometimes that what some of us need, someone we can talk to, be honest with, open up to. It helps ease the transition. At least for the one who leaves first.
Not so much for the one left behind.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Talking to people directly on the forum's chatbox (in the left menu) might help more if you wanted to make friends. I haven't made any friends on here really. Given that everybody is planning their deaths on here, I'm not sure how many friends you can make but it's always a possibility.

 

[Sunny-Pia]

Yeah, I met my best friend originally on this forum. We chatted, talked on the phone, knew each others names, addresses, face, personal history, and just about everything. She CTBed this week after having many attempts over the past few years and we never reported each other during our attempts. I never did get to meet her in person but I'm grateful I had her in my life even if we didn't agree on everything. She was the best person I've ever met and I irrationally hope to see her and my dog in some version of Heaven after I leave too.

Though I don't recommend sharing your personal information with someone until you really get to know them well over the span of months. If you're dead set on CTB soon I wouldn't recommend it at all, it's a huge risk.

Thankyou, I will keep that in mind. True love and true friendship are rare so you should consider yourself lucky you got to share exchange special moments with your best friend.

 

[slushy]

I mean I haven't

 

[Sunny-Pia]

I would really like to. But I also understand why most don't. I mean we are here planning our deaths. It's painful to get to know someone, let them in, only to have them eventually leave.
But I also think that sometimes that what some of us need, someone we can talk to, be honest with, open up to. It helps ease the transition. At least for the one who leaves first.
Not so much for the one left behind.

The second part is so true! In our everyday life, we have to deal with different kinds of people- many of whom we may not want to interact with. And here we are, a circle of people sharing the same feelings but there still remains an invisible barrier that, as u mentioned, prevents us from fully opening up and or being honest.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Aah i see..good to know that, I was wondering what we can and cannot do on here.

Awww...

You can do whatever you want…
Of course there's a risk that you will lose your new friend… But most people end up "recovering" one way or another…

 

[Sunny-Pia]

Talking to people directly on the forum's chatbox (in the left menu) might help more if you wanted to make friends. I haven't made any friends on here really. Given that everybody is planning their deaths on here, I'm not sure how many friends you can make but it's always a possibility.

Making friends doesn't have to come with requirements. You just love and support while you can and make the best of it while it lasts!

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Making friends doesn't have to come with requirements. You just love and support while you can and make the best of it while it lasts!

Very true. Maybe it comes easy to you? You seem friendly

 

[Sunny-Pia]

You can do whatever you want…
Of course there's a risk that you will lose your new friend… But most people end up "recovering" one way

You are right!

Very true. Maybe it comes easy to you? You seem friendly

I guess you could say that.

 

[hellispink]

I had never been able to make friends, not even online. If I do get close to something, I always get replaced. But I am open to always giving the best of me (whatever is left of)

 

[Shu]

@LAD

 

[Molded foundation]

I can try to make friends, but eventually I say some shit that makes them pack up and leave.

I come to a point where I have to say whatever is on my mind or else I'll feel like a prisoner in an oubliette. I don't say anything offensive to the person, or so I hope so. I just say sentences that feel like they're suffocating me the more I hold them in.

I feel as though I have to scratch an itch in my brain.

Example: My friend: "Hey, what are you doing later after church?"
Me: "I got you pissing off Detroit with your make-believe rhinoplasty fucktuple minced sticker, son of a knicker picker."
My friend: "Okay, see you later..."

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I just think that people come on here for methods. That is the purpose of this site after all.