Haha! I actually LOVE this post. I offer a third point to ponder:
Not everyone who HAS kids, ever wanted them. Before you come at me, let me just say-- yes there are those that truly never wanted them, and it shows.
I have a daughter. I had her when I was 18 years old. Not my choice.
It WAS my choice, however. whether I wanted to "keep" her or not. and after much back and forth I could not go forward with the abortion. No shade for anyone that chose the opposite. Promise. I had the appointment. I cancelled it. But... again, I had the appointment. That already means I see you.
But from that point forward, I was Her Mother. It became my whole identity, and that served us both, until it didn't.
It wasn't until much later in her life that I realized ADOPTION was also an option. However, I was a baby having a baby and I did the best I could with the information I had at the time. I digress...
Now, we have both (my daughter and I) lived to tell about it. And I can say without question, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. And I know she feels so incredibly loved and supported and empowered, which is all I have ever wanted and knew I could give her beyond a shadow of a doubt. Yes, I am here on SaSu like you, so that presents a whole other slew of layers and questions we aren't talking about right now, but I am guessing you can imagine... this isn't the time or place.
Anyway, I find your post thought provoking and almost envious. Should I have had the choice, I wonder which camp I would have been in almost 2 decades ago? I won't even pretend to know. I just wanted to weigh in for whatever its worth!
Not everyone who HAS kids, ever wanted them. Before you come at me, let me just say-- yes there are those that truly never wanted them, and it shows.
I have a daughter. I had her when I was 18 years old. Not my choice.
It WAS my choice, however. whether I wanted to "keep" her or not. and after much back and forth I could not go forward with the abortion. No shade for anyone that chose the opposite. Promise. I had the appointment. I cancelled it. But... again, I had the appointment. That already means I see you.
But from that point forward, I was Her Mother. It became my whole identity, and that served us both, until it didn't.
It wasn't until much later in her life that I realized ADOPTION was also an option. However, I was a baby having a baby and I did the best I could with the information I had at the time. I digress...
Now, we have both (my daughter and I) lived to tell about it. And I can say without question, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. And I know she feels so incredibly loved and supported and empowered, which is all I have ever wanted and knew I could give her beyond a shadow of a doubt. Yes, I am here on SaSu like you, so that presents a whole other slew of layers and questions we aren't talking about right now, but I am guessing you can imagine... this isn't the time or place.
Anyway, I find your post thought provoking and almost envious. Should I have had the choice, I wonder which camp I would have been in almost 2 decades ago? I won't even pretend to know. I just wanted to weigh in for whatever its worth!
