Is anyone going to write their own obituary before dying?

[dust-in-the-wind]

I plan on writing mine very soon. I want it kept short and sweet but want people to know I died from Major Depressive Disorder and how hard I fought, because I really did. I will not die in shame.

 

[Namelesa]

Now that you have said this, I would kinda want to write one too as a way to express my full self in it, what I have gone through and done and my views on life, death and suicide. This is if I was able to do all the things I want to do then suicide.

 

[needthebus]

I plan on writing mine very soon. I want it kept short and sweet but want people to know I died from Major Depressive Disorder and how hard I fought, because I really did. I will not die in shame.

I hope you unexpectedly become very happy and content somehow, that somehow some unexpected thing comes your way and it's just leads to a lot of happiness.

You absolutely have fought tooth and nail, fought to the core. You have fought so hard. I've read enough of your posts, you've tried so many things, are so well-versed on things, oh my gosh are you informed and smart

I love your attitude of not dying in shame. You're such a wonderful person who just has fought and fought. I have such respect for you and hope you end up happy somehow. I hope you keep fighting more. I love the idea of writing your own obituary, proud of your fight, aware of your condition. I still hope that you stay alive (because I'm selfish and want to read your posts).

<3

i hate that you struggle with depression when you are such an awesome person

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I wish I could, but it makes me too sad. It's basically describing someone who almost had it all, then out of nowhere mental illness and divorce destroyed everything that made life worth living. I could use it as a forum to attack my wife, and that is tempting I admit, but that would be bad for our daughters and I'm not the kind of person to be vindictive like that.

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

You good put how great your life was before mental illness took it all away.
You could mention your immense love for your daughters and ex wife. It's unfortunate the better or worse promise didn't hold up.

I hope you unexpectedly become very happy and content somehow, that somehow some unexpected thing comes your way and it's just leads to a lot of happiness.

You absolutely have fought tooth and nail, fought to the core. You have fought so hard. I've read enough of your posts, you've tried so many things, are so well-versed on things, oh my gosh are you informed and smart

I love your attitude of not dying in shame. You're such a wonderful person who just has fought and fought. I have such respect for you and hope you end up happy somehow. I hope you keep fighting more. I love the idea of writing your own obituary, proud of your fight, aware of your condition. I still hope that you stay alive (because I'm selfish and want to read your posts).

<3

i hate that you struggle with depression when you are such an awesome person

Thank you so much you have no idea of how much your words mean to me

 

[TheHolySword]

I don't really care what my obituary says. I'm writing letters for my loved ones and those will be the only words that matter to me.

 

[inconstantprayer]

I plan on writing mine very soon. I want it kept short and sweet but want people to know I died from Major Depressive Disorder and how hard I fought, because I really did. I will not die in shame.

Totally with you on this.

 

[ma0]

I know my obituary's gonna spout some fucking bullshit, but I couldn't care less. As long as those close to me know the truth, I'm fine with that.

 

[LostLily]

Writing my obituary would be too sad because it would remind me of how much I failed in life.

 

[Forever Sleep]

In as much as I do want to say that my ideation had been with me a very long time. That it wasn't an impulsive decision. That I held on for the people that I thought my suicide would mostly affect to go first and, that I tried to make the best out of life but, it simply wasn't for me. I do want to express gratitude towards my friends and to those who supported me in my creative job.

I don't want to write down my life history though. People know it more or less anyway. Maybe at one point, in childhood, I actually would have wanted to point blame at a particular person. I feel less need to do that now. It's enough that my closest friends and likely some of my family know deep down that it started with them.

Some of the companies I worked for used to have that whole: 'meet the team' section. They encouraged us to write a bit about ourselves in the third person. That felt so weird and, a bit deceitful. Like we were so important that someone else was providing a brief biography of us. Sorry though- off topic.

 

[Richard Langford]

Aren't all these going to be just effectively notes to the Coroner and relatives as to why? They're not "Obituaries" in the real sense of the word. It's just a dressed-up Suicide Note?

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

Aren't all these going to be are effectively notes to the Coroner and relatives as to why? They're not "Obituaries" in the real sense of the word. It's just a dressed-up Suicide Note effectively?

An obituary is a summation of the person you were, accomplishments and any good you brought to this world.

 

[Richard Langford]

An obituary is a summation of the person you were, accomplishments and any good you brought to this world.

Who's going to be reading it and where?

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

Who's going to be reading it and where?

People do read them. I still do. Either thru newspaper or online.

 

[LigottiIsRight]

I intend to write an explanation and goodbye letter to my parents, that's all.

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

Writing ones own obituary is a good idea in general, no matter whether you die by your own hand or not. It prevents people from telling things you would not like during your funeral ceremony and it saves your relatives work.

 

[Richard Langford]

People do read them. I still do. Either thru newspaper or online.

If you're famous certainly. Are you?

 

[NoPoint2Life]

If you're famous certainly. Are you?

People definitely read them.
Older people especially. But I actually found out that a friend had died from googling his name and finding the obituary. And the way they chose to word it did confirm that it was CTB so I appreciated knowing that detail.

 

[Richard Langford]

People definitely read them.
Older people especially. But I actually found out that a friend had died from googling his name and finding the obituary. And the way they chose to word it did confirm that it was CTB so I appreciated knowing that detail.

Aren't those technically actually 'Death Notices' though what you're referring to? They died on xxx, leaves behind xxx and xxx and xxx. Donations to xxx. Obituaries are primarily for the famous.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

Arent those technically actually 'Death Notices' though? They died on xxx, leaves xxx and xxx and xxx. Donations to xxx. Obituaries are primarily for the famous.

No. what you are describing is an obituary.
At least it is here in the US.
Famous people just get shit loads of articles written about them and plastered all over the news.

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

Arent those technically actually 'Death Notices' though? They died on xxx, leaves xxx and xxx and xxx. Donations to xxx. Obituaries are primarily for the famous.

Where I live they have obituaries with a photo. Im not famous but I know a lot of people who will nose around to want to know how I died. So I won't keep them guessing.

 

[Richard Langford]

No. what you are describing is an obituary.
At least it is here in the US.
Famous people just get shit loads of articles written about them and plastered all over the news.

Not something that typically happens in the UK, unless you were famous or had some noteriety - like you served on the Local Council for many years or did a great deal of charity work in the community.

Where I live they have obituaries with a photo. Im not famous but I know a lot of people who will nose around to want to know how I died. So I won't keep them guessing.

That isn't not just a Death Notice then? It actually isn't just DOB DOD, leaves and where the Service is and Donations?

Where I live they have obituaries with a photo. Im not famous but I know a lot of people who will nose around to want to know how I died. So I won't keep them guessing.

That isn't not just a Death Notice then? It actually isn't just DOB DOD, leaves and where the Service is and Donations?

 

[divinemistress36]

I doubt my suicide note would be part of my obituary . It would probably have nonsense in about how I was full of life and brought light to other peoples life and other bs they put in . I do want it to say I ctb though so maybe some more awareness could come to mental health

 

[slowdance]

I have doubts that if I wrote an obit they wouldn't scrap it and use their own. Best I can do is write a suicide note and print out my will. Unfortunately I don't think I can get the will notarized before I CTB but at least my wishes will be known even if they are not legally binding

 

[needthebus]

If you're famous certainly. Are you?

When my best friend died, prior to my registering, I almost put an obituary for her in the paper. There's a fee, but it's not extraordinary. I didn't do it out of the request for her family, but I wish I had done it for me. She was an incredible person and I wish I had done it. People do obituaries all the time. Someone could put out their own obituary but the paper might raise an eyebrow if person submitting it and paying for it was also the dead person because that would imply suicide. Probably someone could try to get around that by saying they are terminal and have less than a week to live.

An example might be (I'm making this up completely)

Richard Langford was coal miner who toiled away for his town, helping to increase coal production. He also served on the local government counsel for a year and people remember him as kind. He was beloved by his community. In his free time, he enjoyed kung fu, knitting, geology, kittens, and learning about the dark web. Instead of flowers, donations can be made to the Coal Union Uplift Scholarship Fund at the request of his family.

It's a terrible example, but people do this sort of thing, written less poorly. It's possible not something done as frequently in your country.

 

[Richard Langford]

When my best friend died, prior to my registering, I almost put an obituary for her in the paper. There's a fee, but it's not extraordinary. I didn't do it out of the request for her family, but I wish I had done it for me. She was an incredible person and I wish I had done it. People do obituaries all the time. Someone could put out their own obituary but the paper might raise an eyebrow if person submitting it and paying for it was also the dead person because that would imply suicide. Probably someone could try to get around that by saying they are terminal and have less than a week to live.

An example might be (I'm making this up completely)

Richard Langford was coal miner who toiled away for his town, helping to increase coal production. He also served on the local government counsel for a year and people remember him as kind. He was beloved by his community. In his free time, he enjoyed kung fu, knitting, geology, kittens, and learning about the dark web. Instead of flowers, donations can be made to the Coal Union Uplift Scholarship Fund at the request of his family.

It's a terrible example, but people do this sort of thing, written less poorly. It's possible not something done as frequently in your country.

You don't typically get that in the UK. Just simple Death Notices.

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

I doubt my suicide note would be part of my obituary . It would probably have nonsense in about how I was full of life and brought light to other peoples life and other bs they put in . I do want it to say I ctb though so maybe some more awareness could come to mental health

That mainly why I want to write my own obituary because people try to hide suicides and I want to bring more awareness to the disease.

When my best friend died, prior to my registering, I almost put an obituary for her in the paper. There's a fee, but it's not extraordinary. I didn't do it out of the request for her family, but I wish I had done it for me. She was an incredible person and I wish I had done it. People do obituaries all the time. Someone could put out their own obituary but the paper might raise an eyebrow if person submitting it and paying for it was also the dead person because that would imply suicide. Probably someone could try to get around that by saying they are terminal and have less than a week to live.

An example might be (I'm making this up completely)

Richard Langford was coal miner who toiled away for his town, helping to increase coal production. He also served on the local government counsel for a year and people remember him as kind. He was beloved by his community. In his free time, he enjoyed kung fu, knitting, geology, kittens, and learning about the dark web. Instead of flowers, donations can be made to the Coal Union Uplift Scholarship Fund at the request of his family.

It's a terrible example, but people do this sort of thing, written less poorly. It's possible not something done as frequently in your country.

I'm going to leave the obituary I want and photo in my Will. Hopefully, that request will be honored.