Is anyone else killing themselves due to being ugly?

[Siamese Believe]

This isn't my only reason but it's definitely my first reason, alongside being short.

 

[dangerstars]

i'm really sorry you have to deal with things like this. these kinds of people are only projecting their own insecurities.

there is no such thing as an ugly person. there is no objective definition of ugly. people come in different shapes and sizes, and we grow and change and that's a part of life and there is no one way to look because naturally we will change anyway. it does make me really depressed seeing how many people believe otherwise and project that onto people. i deal with this too though. i have tiny lips and a double chin and even though i know i wouldn't think that looks 'ugly' on anyone else, i can't stand it on myself :(

i skimmed through this video and saw omegle clips ... that's one of the most evil websites ever made. i have genuine trauma from being on there when i was younger.

sending love

 

[blue]

i'm really sorry you have to deal with things like this. these kinds of people are only projecting their own insecurities.

there is no such thing as an ugly person. there is no objective definition of ugly. people come in different shapes and sizes, and we grow and change and that's a part of life and there is no one way to look because naturally we will change anyway. it does make me really depressed seeing how many people believe otherwise and project that onto people. i deal with this too though. i have tiny lips and a double chin and even though i know i wouldn't think that looks 'ugly' on anyone else, i can't stand it on myself :(

i skimmed through this video and saw omegle clips ... that's one of the most evil websites ever made. i have genuine trauma from being on there when i was younger.

sending love

this isn't really true - studies show that there is a spectrum of features that people find attractive vs unattractive. So you can objectively lean toward being unattractive. To say that there is no such thing as an ugly person, really dismisses the experience the lesser attractive person has while also ignores the privilege that being attractive affords.

 

[shiny_quill]

I say this as a very unfortunate looking person, but attractiveness is mostly about attitude, how you behave and carry yourself... Even in the video you shared, a lot of the "ugly" men were just very uncomfortable: not greeting women or reacting to what was said to them, staring blankly, spamming a person who clearly showed no interest... Those are all weird things to do, and yes, some people have pretty privileges and might get away with having an awful attitude and personality, but if you don't have such privileges and think that makes you unloveable and that you should die because of it, that's just not true. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all, and even if someone doesn't find you beautiful, it does not mean they can't love you.

 

[dangerstars]

this isn't really true - studies show that there is a spectrum of features that people find attractive vs unattractive. So you can objectively lean toward being unattractive. To say that there is no such thing as an ugly person, really dismisses the experience the lesser attractive person has while also ignores the privilege that being attractive affords.

i think the world is full of people who push the norm of specific features being attractive, that's absolutely true and has hurt so many people. i don't think there's actually a such thing as being ugly. it's a social construct.

 

[PI3.14]

I deal with severe BDD, due to height too.

For me it's mostly about me not liking it, so I'll say it's 20-30% about dating, but 70-80% about me not wanting to be short, regardless if I had a loving partner or not.

I did try to overcome this with therapy though, but me being a perfectionist made it impossible for me to overcome this.

 

[hopelessgirl]

It's one of the reasons

 

[ilovepsyschonaut4]

This isn't my only reason but it's definitely my first reason, alongside being short.

Just one of my reasons.

 

[WakingNightmare]

Honestly when I was a kid I was unkind to people who were "unattractive". Trying to make up for it by being kinder and more patient with people like that

 

[MyLifeisHell]

Well it doesn't help. "Fortunately" I have other more pressing issues so I don't have to debate with myself the rationality of killing yourself over dislike of my appearance because there are more trump card-type reasons if that makes sense. So I can kill myself over my appearance without that being at the forefront.

Like I said. "Fortunately".

 

[fadedghost]

i'm really sorry you have to deal with things like this. these kinds of people are only projecting their own insecurities.

there is no such thing as an ugly person. there is no objective definition of ugly. people come in different shapes and sizes, and we grow and change and that's a part of life and there is no one way to look because naturally we will change anyway. it does make me really depressed seeing how many people believe otherwise and project that onto people. i deal with this too though. i have tiny lips and a double chin and even though i know i wouldn't think that looks 'ugly' on anyone else, i can't stand it on myself :(

i skimmed through this video and saw omegle clips ... that's one of the most evil websites ever made. i have genuine trauma from being on there when i was younger.

sending love

this isn't really true - studies show that there is a spectrum of features that people find attractive vs unattractive. So you can objectively lean toward being unattractive. To say that there is no such thing as an ugly person, really dismisses the experience the lesser attractive person has while also ignores the privilege that being attractive affords.

yes, i second what blue is saying. saying "ugly" doesn't exist and everyone is beautiful inside is actually denying that ugly people exist and are treated differently.

 

[dangerstars]

yes, i second what blue is saying. saying "ugly" doesn't exist and everyone is beautiful inside is actually denying that ugly people exist and are treated differently.

i'm not sure if you understand my point but that's alright. i'm not here to argue with anyone. apologies if i upset or invalidated anyone- not my intentions.
(i am most definitely considered an 'ugly' person as well. speaking from my own personal experiences)

 

[fadedghost]

i think the world is full of people who push the norm of specific features being attractive, that's absolutely true and has hurt so many people. i don't think there's actually a such thing as being ugly. it's a social construct.

that's just wrong, there are many studies showing you are incorrect

this is something people say that makes people feel good. "there's no definition of beauty; everyone is different and beautiful in their own way." The data shows this is just not true. People respond to what is healthy and also certain mathematical ratios that people are drawn to be nature and DNA. If someone has a genetic disorder, if someone is extremely asymmetric or has very abnormal proportions, it is considered ugly universally. This is a scientific fact, like if you heat water enough it becomes steam.

i'm not sure if you understand my point but that's alright. i'm not here to argue with anyone. apologies if i upset or invalidated anyone- not my intentions.
(i am most definitely considered an 'ugly' person as well. speaking from my own personal experiences)

it's okay. yes, sometimes there are societal standards of beauty, but some of it is just math and it's cruel and horrible and the way it is. I think you were trying to be nice, but sometimes optimistic kindness can be hard for people's whose experiences have taught them it isn't that way.

This isn't my only reason but it's definitely my first reason, alongside being short.

it's a big reason for me at this point

i also was hurt really badly at one point by someone who assaulted me. the depression and psych drugs and inactivity probably made me a lot uglier, but some of it existed beforehand

if i looked normal and had extremely good physical health i might not be suicidal. but as it is, i don't want to keep existing this way.

 

[enditplz]

Yes, but more because of how I'm treated. If I was ignored, I wouldn't care. But people stare at me and call me ugly in passing. I can't walk past a group of men without them barking at me or just "joking" with their friends about how ugly I am. If you're so ugly you attract attention, then society basically pushes you to ctb.

 

[fadedghost]

Yes, but more because of how I'm treated. If I was ignored, I wouldn't care. But people stare at me and call me ugly in passing. I can't walk past a group of men without them barking at me or just "joking" with their friends about how ugly I am. If you're so ugly you attract attention, then society basically pushes you to ctb.

i'm so sorry. the idea of chinese style social credit scores scares the shit out of me, but when i hear about stuff like this, i think "well, maybe it's not that bad of an idea?" i hope all those piece of shit people who were mean to you suffer someday for how they treated you. fuck them.

 

[lotus11]

Yes, and especially as i am getting older and starting to age any looks i once had...aging is so horrifying you literally just watch yourself get slowly uglier every day.

 

[SpanishLullaby]

This isn't my only reason but it's definitely my first reason, alongside being short.

While I understand what you mean, showing a video of idiotic, insensitive teenagers is not convincing for me. I've never dated guys that were considered mainstream attractive. Most attractive guys tend to be assholes cuz they know they're attractive and no one ever lets them forget it. The guy often never lets you forget it either.


Ive also seen plenty "average" / unattractive women with men who would be considered super attractive by society's standards.


Either way being attractive or decently enough attractive doesn't guarantee you a great life. I guarantee you something else will be wrong. For example you'll be "attractive"-enough and still cant find one who truly values you on the inside. In fact many in society are experiencing this now...


Not minimizing your perspective. Just showing you another one. I empathize with you though, especially if you don't feel comfy in your own skin. Just please dont get any outsized injections or ridiculously out of proportion surgeries. (If that is an avenue you decide to pursue)

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

Yes, and especially as i am getting older and starting to age any looks i once had...aging is so horrifying you literally just watch yourself get slowly uglier every day.

yeah and your're decaying even worse on the inside as on the outside too . but they keep saying old age is the golden years.

 

[somewhatdeadly]

one of the many reaons.

 

[slowlydying2mrrw]

I've wanted to ctb over being attractive.... Sounds stupid, but inverse issues of self worth vs perception followed by depression. :/

While I understand what you mean, showing a video of idiotic, insensitive teenagers is not convincing for me. I've never dated guys that were considered mainstream attractive. Most attractive guys tend to be assholes cuz they know they're attractive and no one ever lets them forget it. The guy often never lets you forget it either.


Ive also seen plenty "average" / unattractive women with men who would be considered super attractive by society's standards.


Either way being attractive or decently enough attractive doesn't guarantee you a great life. I guarantee you something else will be wrong. For example you'll be "attractive"-enough and still cant find one who truly values you on the inside. In fact many in society are experiencing this now...


Not minimizing your perspective. Just showing you another one. I empathize with you though, especially if you don't feel comfy in your own skin. Just please dont get any outsized injections or ridiculously out of proportion surgeries. (If that is an avenue you decide to pursue)

Ain't this the truth. I learned first hand when people perceive you as attractive, they treat you so different, but it's not always the way it seems.... I personally, enjoyed myself more when I was considered ugly.

When you're "attractive" they don't always see you for you.... The looks, the body they fantasize their partner to have, or whatever physical trait they fell in love with, is temporary.

 

[katara]

This is so childish and immature

 

[BlueberryDeer]

It's not exactly a reason, but feeling and/or being ugly is one of the main features of my deep depression. Sure, someone could tell me that I'm not ugly, that I have internalized transphobia, but anyway, the woman I wish to be requires thousands of dollars in surgeries and aesethic procedures that I can't afford to.
So correlated, yes, but not as the main reason to decide end my life.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It troubled me more when I was younger. I try to avoid being around people now but then, I'm sort of fortunate in that I'm content being alone.

 

[lotus11]

Just came back to this thread as feeling especially ugly today. What's sad in my case is that since a pretty young age, ive had an eating disorder as i always believed that looks determined your value so it was necessary. I always hoped that as i got older i would realise i was just young and stupid...but the older i get i still agree with my younger self, in fact, more than ever. Beautiful people have the easy ride usually. They will have more friends, more likley to be married, more job opportunities, more respect automatically...boy i wish time had proved me wrong but i feel the opposite

 

[dontsaveher]

This is so childish and immature

What is the point of your comment? No one forced you to click on this thread after reading the title, and OP didn't ask for your opinion or judgment. They also clearly stated that this isn't their only reason for feeling this way either.

Why choose to invalidate OP's experience and the experiences of many others when it comes to struggling with one's appearance?

At the end of the day we were all brought into this arbitrary world without our consent. Some of us unattractive in terms of facial features/harmony, body shape, height which often results in not being treated as well as our counterparts. That isn't immaturity, it is scientifically proven and is a well documented issue. Physical attractiveness is not purely subjective, no matter how much people like to claim it is.

Why is anyone else's reason to CTB more worthy than OP's and many others?