Is anyone else here NEET/hikikomori?

[SuicideM4n]

I've been in this situation for about 5 years, I isolated myself due to the constant bullying I suffered when trying to interact with people, and bullying is also one of the reasons that make me want to ctb

 

[yive]

i'm a hikikomori by definition, ie zero interaction with people irl. however, i'm absolutely not ashamed of it, i'm not going to work a day in my life, i'm proud of being a NEET. we don't owe anything to this world

 

[TheNorthernSilence]

Me, 10+ years and counting. I'm 34 now.

 

[Nightmare Painting]

I have over a decade of cumulative neetdom, it wasn't something I chose but it was the product of childhood abuse and neglect. I've never been happy or wanted to be alive and couldn't help myself so I gradually got more isolated over time. I never wanted to be alone or too disabled to even take care of myself but that's how it ended up.

 

[Messgram]

I have a job that enslaves me and pays me so little that I still depend on my parents. I don't know if that counts as a neet, but I'm sure I'm way behind for someone my age.

i'm a hikikomori by definition, ie zero interaction with people irl. however, i'm absolutely not ashamed of it, i'm not going to work a day in my life, i'm proud of being a NEET. we don't owe anything to this world

I agree, being a Net means that you at least have the freedom to do what you want during the day and that is definitely better than enslaving yourself to a someone else. People who boast about work are deluded.
If my parents weren't a burden and accepted me for who I am, I wouldn't mind being a neet.

 

[Nightmare Painting]

I have a job that enslaves me and pays me so little that I still depend on my parents. I don't know if that counts as a neet, but I'm sure I'm way behind for someone my age.

I agree, being a Net means that you at least have the freedom to do what you want during the day and that is definitely better than enslaving yourself to a someone else. People who boast about work are deluded.
If my parents weren't a burden and accepted me for who I am, I wouldn't mind being a neet.

I would never glorify neetdom or wageslavery but not having money while living in isolation is a guaranteed way to fuck you up mentally even more. Being a jobless hermit is not something that most people chose so I'd be hardpressed to associate any type of freedom with it.

 

[thisplaceisaprison]

i'm a hikikomori by definition, ie zero interaction with people irl. however, i'm absolutely not ashamed of it, i'm not going to work a day in my life, i'm proud of being a NEET. we don't owe anything to this world

Me, 10+ years and counting. I'm 34 now.

How do you guys get through day by day? Are you still with your folks? (This is no offense intended, I'm not employed anymore either but really wish I had just gone to college because working any minimum wage job at my age means working 3 jobs just to very minimally basically survive.)

 

[TheNorthernSilence]

How do you guys get through day by day? Are you still with your folks? (This is no offense intended, I'm not employed anymore either but really wish I had just gone to college because working any minimum wage job at my age means working 3 jobs just to very minimally basically survive.)

Wishing I was dead everyday basically. I live on my own and I'm on disability because of MDD. I have a Bachelor's dg from 10 years ago, but that didn't help me at all.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Yes, for three years. I sometimes feel like I'm getting more insane by the day. I mean I used to always work jobs and converse with people. Feels like a lifetime ago now though.

 

[meetapple]

I have been a NEET for ten plus years since my dad closed his medical practice. I get disability and have a trust fund so I am not distressed financially. However I can't help but stand out in society because of this despite my best effort. I figure the only way I can blend in is by working around other people at least some of the time.

 

[VKVK]

Yes. Trying to get back into studying recently (mostly programming stuff since I doubt I'd be able to go back to uni for several reasons) to no avail. My life has been one giant rolling snowball in the first place: the classic tale of childhood neglect, abuse and bullying that leads severe isolation you see many here with. Before I dropped uni due to my mental health (more like sanity if we're being honest) exploding, I thought I was still "better" than this. I never was, though. Never learned any proper skill or did anything worthwhile in my childhood/teenage years. Back then I at least wanted to take care of myself in a career or decent job so I could just leave my town (and family) and just search for something better, build it or w/e. Can't even do that anymore, my lack of testosterone (and purpose) eats me away and I just decay until infinity. Living with my parents is the worst thing about it all if I'm being true to myself.

Anyhow... been NEET for almost ~ 2 years and a half now. Haven't done shit. Lost hope and will in my future after I started seeing the truths about my life and wondering how I got away with not having a proper, definitive meltdown for so long. My life was and is a joke, same as any adult in my "family" that I barely have and no one gives a proper shit about anyone. These past few years of watching the outside world with the covflu haven't helped either... though that I won't go into details.

 

[Wrennie]

It's awfully hard to be a hikikomori in America, yet somehow I manage. I'm too sickly and disabled to get out of bed, & social interaction is a chore at best… I don't gain anything meaningful from any of the relations I have in meatspace. I feel as though this website provides me with more intellectual stimulation & genuine interpersonal connections than what would otherwise be time wasted on a generic NPC who is simultaneously sizing me up as I engage with them.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I've been a NEET for about 12 years now.

 

[Feeding Pigeons]

Is anyone else here NEET/hikikomori?

Hi.

 

[Messgram]

I would never glorify neetdom or wageslavery but not having money while living in isolation is a guaranteed way to fuck you up mentally even more. Being a jobless hermit is not something that most people chose so I'd be hardpressed to associate any type of freedom with it.

In fact, having a meaningful job that pays you well and doesn't steal your soul is better than being a net. But most people don't get that privilege. Especially in my country, they just work and the little free time they have only serves to regain strength to work again.
This is infinitely worse than being a neet.
Besides, if you're a neet, nothing stops you from making friends. Your lack of social interaction is either your choice or a disability, and it's not a job that's going to fix that.

 

[Ravel]

Hi. I became a hikikomori after I finished high school. I've been living in my room for 7 years. I can't interact with people anymore, especially teenagers. The worst part is that I still depend on my family, I'm a burden. The last time I tried to interact with another person was so pathetic that I don't really feel like a human being anymore

 

[FuneralCry]

I do leave the house occasionally, but not very often. I do not go anywhere where there are many people. I need to isolate myself as everything causes me to be stressed. There is nothing that I want to do, I just want to not exist. It is unfair how I have to deal with this life as I never asked to be here in the first place. All I do is distract myself until I fall asleep.

 

[Snake of Eden]

Late bloomer neet here at 35 for a year now. After lifelong struggle with jobs and finding out i have autism it became clear i am not fit for the neurotypical job market. I am not having a great life but this is the only way I can retain some sanity even though I lost any small respect I had

 

[Nightmare Painting]

In fact, having a meaningful job that pays you well and doesn't steal your soul is better than being a net. But most people don't get that privilege. Especially in my country, they just work and the little free time they have only serves to regain strength to work again.
This is infinitely worse than being a neet.
Besides, if you're a neet, nothing stops you from making friends. Your lack of social interaction is either your choice or a disability, and it's not a job that's going to fix that.

Most people who are NEETs have some form of physical or mental disability that holds them back in various aspects of life; it's why they are a hermit in the first place. The odds of being healthy, having money, and being NEET are slim to none; it's not a lifestyle choice for most.

 

[Tomoko]

I was for 2.5y, I miss it terribly. You're pretty much immune to society in that state of existence.

 

[MeltedJello]

I've lived this lifestyle my whole life. I'm 21, and can only see myself continuing this way unless I ctb. I've died ever since I graduated high school, and I've been tired of being a burden on my parents. It's pointless for me to keep on living.

 

[Messgram]

Most people who are NEETs have some form of physical or mental disability that holds them back in various aspects of life; it's why they are a hermit in the first place. The odds of being healthy, having money, and being NEET are slim to none; it's not a lifestyle choice for most.

There is a difference in becoming a neet because you have disability, than being a neet because you can (like, when your parents are rich or willing to support you without judgment).
The last option is desired by most people, whereas the first one you are a Neet as a result of disaster.

 

[deleted]

After I finished high school I only live in my room it must have been 2 years now, zero desire to go out there is full of shit

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I've barely left the house in five years, but I'm living off my husband and my own savings from when I used to work. I'm hoping to get some sort of income soon.

 

[Emmie]

I have been a NEET for eight years. I go out for a daily walk before the sun comes up. I collect benefits for autism and a physical disability. I graduated from one of the most selective schools in the world. I don't mind my fate so much. It's wonderful to no longer have to deal with vicious, dishonest, and competitive people every day.

 

[nerve]

It'll be ten years next June. Turns out there's not really a plan or precedent for severely mentally ill people after they exit the school system :v

 

[Mixo]

I've been in this situation for about 5 years, I isolated myself due to the constant bullying I suffered when trying to interact with people, and bullying is also one of the reasons that make me want to ctb

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Um, there are boatloads of NEET/hikikomoris here. You hit the jackpot.

Most people who are NEETs have some form of physical or mental disability that holds them back in various aspects of life; it's why they are a hermit in the first place. The odds of being healthy, having money, and being NEET are slim to none; it's not a lifestyle choice for most.

Definitely have known some NEETs that lucked out. But they were born in the right countries with strong social programs and to families who were resourceful. So you never know, but I guess by and large, most will be on the lower income due to lack of income.

 

[AMorteVivente]

Well, I used to consider myself a hikikomori until they started to gatekeep the term. If you have severe mental illness you don't qualify as one anymore it seems. I live with my parents and I receive disability benefits every month for several mental health issues. I am tired of living, and all I do these days is waste my time in various activities such as sleeping or killing time in my computer. I already have more than enough money for N so I don't even know why I don't do it at this point, I guess it's due to my parents, but I can't keep doing this forever. I am 32 and I don't intend to turn my life around, as shitty as it looks I will probably keep leeching disability benefits until the day I die (they made mine permanent).

 

[Nightmare Painting]

I have been a NEET for eight years. I go out for a daily walk before the sun comes up. I collect benefits for autism and a physical disability. I graduated from one of the most selective schools in the world. I don't mind my fate so much. It's wonderful to no longer have to deal with vicious, dishonest, and competitive people every day.

I think NEETdom is fine like in your situation when you still have your health and some stability. People really are cruel if you don't follow neurotypical standards of "success" and being able to stay away from toxic people is somewhat of a positive for sure.

Um, there are boatloads of NEET/hikikomoris here. You hit the jackpot.

Definitely have known some NEETs that lucked out. But they were born in the right countries with strong social programs and to families who were resourceful. So you never know, but I guess by and large, most will be on the lower income due to lack of income.

I use to browse the NEET subreddit some years back and most were people who were heavily abused by their family or frequently bullied. Many of them didn't have any kind of real resources either so in most cases it's a cruel and empty existence.

I'm one of the people that didn't have a income for the longest time and didn't get any kind of real help; it messes you up badly not even having enough money for basic self care and gradually losing whatever remains of your mental health.

It'll be ten years next June. Turns out there's not really a plan or precedent for severely mentally ill people after they exit the school system :v

Society doesn't even care about the homeless much less people with mental problems. If you aren't one of those high functioning mentally disabled people then you're dead to society. Most people don't care why you are the way you are even if you have genuine reasons that led you to suicide, neetdom, etc. Even disability benefits are pretty much a complete farce, they're a death sentence on their own even if you do manage to get them.

 

[SuicideM4n]

Hi. I became a hikikomori after I finished high school. I've been living in my room for 7 years. I can't interact with people anymore, especially teenagers. The worst part is that I still depend on my family, I'm a burden. The last time I tried to interact with another person was so pathetic that I don't really feel like a human being anymore

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