Is anyone else grieving/mourning a loss?

[Heavenbound]

Just wondering.
I'd like to know what kinds of ways you work through it.

 

[depressedlover]

I take the emotions how they come,i don't listen to those advice "It is well,let him go,they'll not be happy to see you like this,it gets easy by time,be strong,it'll come to pass ".Nobody knows what your loss means to you,no one can ever be in your shoes,every loss is different to everyone even if you're in the same family,it hits differently.For me ,I cry when i get overwhelmed,i talk to him as if he is with me,i send him messages.It's the hardest thing to deal with but i'd suggest you just be yourself,take it how it comes,don't play strong,don't hide your emotions.Mind sharing more about your grief?

 

[Sparx]

Yes my mum, that's the main reason I want to ctb.

Unfortunately I've gone emotionally numb & can't even cry or get sad enough to attempt. If I was feeling my emotions or if the inert gas method had worked for me I would also probably be gone. Now I have to try something else that might be less peaceful.

 

[depressedlover]

Yes my mum, that's the main reason I want to ctb.

Unfortunately I've gone emotionally numb & can't even cry or get sad enough to attempt. If I was feeling my emotions or if the inert gas method had worked for me I would also probably be gone. Now I have to try something else that might be less peaceful.

So sorry for your loss,i wish you find the peace you're seeking.

 

[Heavenbound]

I take the emotions how they come,i don't listen to those advice "It is well,let him go,they'll not be happy to see you like this,it gets easy by time,be strong,it'll come to pass ".Nobody knows what your loss means to you,no one can ever be in your shoes,every loss is different to everyone even if you're in the same family,it hits differently.For me ,I cry when i get overwhelmed,i talk to him as if he is with me,i send him messages.It's the hardest thing to deal with but i'd suggest you just be yourself,take it how it comes,don't play strong,don't hide your emotions.Mind sharing more about your grief?

Thank you for your reply and recommendations. I don't want to say too much here, but I've just recently lost an important person who was a prominent figure in my life. I didn't get the opportunity to properly say goodbye due to them basically being in a coma. It's very, very difficult, and I'm finding it hard to properly mourn. This is just one facet of me wanting to end it all. The people that cared about me have all passed, and I wish to be with them.

 

[Ultracheese]

I talk about him all the time on here because I love him, but my best friend killed himself a little under two years ago, and I also never got a chance to properly say goodbye.

For me, therapy was not helpful at all. It was full of people telling me that my grief was irrational and I needed to "focus energy on starting new relationships", which made me so angry.

I will never get over his death, and I'm honestly not sure if I want to. How I (healthily, for the most part) mourn the loss is by trying to keep his memory alive for me, even if no one else remembers. I listen to his favorite music and watch his favorite movies. I think about shared jokes. I try to keep writing because he's been the biggest supporter of my dreams of becoming a writer, and I know he would want me to continue. There's a condition called "complicated grief" which is when symptoms of grief last longer than is normal, and for what it's worth, I think it's a stupid term. Don't compare your grief to others and don't listen to people who say you're being obsessive. It's your loss and you have every right to feel whatever way you want about it.

 

[Ambivalent1]

My hopes and dreams

 

[unnormal9]

Yes—but not in a conventional way. I mourn the loss of a never ending dream.
I work with it in an unheralded way, through my pain's writing; expending only but bits and pieces of what I wished one time would be true—for others to experience.