Hi guys
Another dumb tech question because I don't know what I'm doing. I'll try to keep this one short, am a rambler sorry…
I am living with my digital snooping ex who is great at tech & I am shit. That sums it up. I have set up a secret email & a VPN & this account & that's as far as I've managed. I "think" I've managed to have my own Apple ID but I'm still not confident of what he can & can't see. I am limited in my research to just an iPhone & pen & paper & it's taking forever. Tomorrow, hopefully I have time to take some really good notes - I definitely can't take screenshots, I legit think we still might have same cloud??? I don't know what the cloud is, so there's that.
So my very specific problem is, if I'm on an iPhone using a VPN & on here, I'm pretty confident I'm ok. But, I don't know about the links & stuff. So for two specific examples,
1 - in threads where there are purple "spoiler" boxes eg SN Megathread, what happens if I click on that? Does it just expand? Or open somewhere?
2 - there is a https:// link to pph. If I open that, what happens? Where does it open? Does it go in files? Or somewhere else? A lovely & generous helper on here sent me the sticky thingy, but now that I actually "should" have time to properly research, I want to smash out as much as possible & get back on track to hurrying this back up - I had planned to be gone by now - so I don't know what else I'll stumble across on here & want to read. I've bookmarked things like Stan's Bible & they seem straightforward & safe. But I need to be really really careful about how I proceed with the rest. I'm trying to get a hold of a laptop but that just may not happen. So I just need to know how each thing opens & where & how & if our phones are still linked in any way (& it's entirely possible, including spy /tracking stuff or just simple tech stuff that I know nothing at all about). If he has this information, he won't be using it to save me, that won't be the priority, it'll be blackmail or worse, & I'm legitimately concerned about my safety but also need to read as much as I can so I don't stuff this up.
That didn't end up short, even though I tried very, very hard. I'm sorry. I NEED to know any digital traces before I open absolutely anything, I can't wing it, I have to be sure. And I don't know even the basics. So any help appreciated, even if it seems very obvious & basic to you, that any idiot should know, I assure you, this idiot does not know.
Another dumb tech question because I don't know what I'm doing. I'll try to keep this one short, am a rambler sorry…
I am living with my digital snooping ex who is great at tech & I am shit. That sums it up. I have set up a secret email & a VPN & this account & that's as far as I've managed. I "think" I've managed to have my own Apple ID but I'm still not confident of what he can & can't see. I am limited in my research to just an iPhone & pen & paper & it's taking forever. Tomorrow, hopefully I have time to take some really good notes - I definitely can't take screenshots, I legit think we still might have same cloud??? I don't know what the cloud is, so there's that.
So my very specific problem is, if I'm on an iPhone using a VPN & on here, I'm pretty confident I'm ok. But, I don't know about the links & stuff. So for two specific examples,
1 - in threads where there are purple "spoiler" boxes eg SN Megathread, what happens if I click on that? Does it just expand? Or open somewhere?
2 - there is a https:// link to pph. If I open that, what happens? Where does it open? Does it go in files? Or somewhere else? A lovely & generous helper on here sent me the sticky thingy, but now that I actually "should" have time to properly research, I want to smash out as much as possible & get back on track to hurrying this back up - I had planned to be gone by now - so I don't know what else I'll stumble across on here & want to read. I've bookmarked things like Stan's Bible & they seem straightforward & safe. But I need to be really really careful about how I proceed with the rest. I'm trying to get a hold of a laptop but that just may not happen. So I just need to know how each thing opens & where & how & if our phones are still linked in any way (& it's entirely possible, including spy /tracking stuff or just simple tech stuff that I know nothing at all about). If he has this information, he won't be using it to save me, that won't be the priority, it'll be blackmail or worse, & I'm legitimately concerned about my safety but also need to read as much as I can so I don't stuff this up.
That didn't end up short, even though I tried very, very hard. I'm sorry. I NEED to know any digital traces before I open absolutely anything, I can't wing it, I have to be sure. And I don't know even the basics. So any help appreciated, even if it seems very obvious & basic to you, that any idiot should know, I assure you, this idiot does not know.
